How to Ask for What You Want and Need (No, Itās Not Selfish)
āIt’s not selfish to put yourself firstāit’s self-full.ā ~Iyanla Vanzant
Iāve always thought of myself as individualistic. When I was a teenager, I often felt the desire to go against the grain, dressing alternatively and shunning bands my peers liked because I felt they were too popular. So it came as a huge surprise to me when my therapist called me a people pleaser the other day.
I recently started cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia, and during the first session my therapist identified that I put other peopleās needs and wants ahead of my own.
Heād asked me to give …