While it is true that you can choose you, it is important to note that the people who give of themselves are the ones who make the world a better place. Like I know some parents who are willing to give their food to their child to make sure they have something to eat rather than feed themselves. I know that it is the person who is willing to give dignity to another person rather than to berate them that makes the world a little better for the next person. With all the cruelty that does exist in our world, I cheer the person who gives of themselves to help the next person. Is that a weakness or a strength?

I am not an angel. And, many times I do choose myself when it becomes life or death. But, I just don’t see the world as black and white. There are no clear cut rules to live by. Only grey edges to go around. Those who live by the sword , die by the sword. Those who know how to fight, try to avoid fighting. Living a life means one chooses his path in life. That path either chooses him or he chooses it. One leads to Karma with consequences and the other leads to wisdom and compassion. How we choose to deal with life shows us the freedom by which we live.

Hi Scotty

My friend is a retired nurse. She has a husband with dementia and various other health issues. She has a disabled adult son. She takes care of them both and she had a neighbour who was deaf, blind and bed ridden, the state did not provide for her, nor did her family. My friend did.

Another friend cared for her grandmother with dementia. Studied whilst doing so. Her grandmother choked her and hit her, calling her names. Not the same woman she loved, but her memory was honoured.

Life is hard for a lot of people.

Can you do choose yourself without causing suffering? 🩵

People do what you hope one day someone would do for you. You just haven’t met the person who will do it for you yet. 🩵

I think peace, true peace is being able to cope in any situation, even hard ones.

That being said, should you stay in them forever? No. It is just a chapter in life. If the resources are there, it is not wrong to choose yourself when you need it. 🩵