Mimia,

My advice is to not say anything more about your past. It will color his profile of you and could wreck the relationship. Being honest? You can be honest by being present and showing your love (feelings). Be this present person that you are. There is no need to dreg up the past. The past may have helped mold who you are today but it doesn’t define who you are. Let the past go and live in the present.

Your boyfriend saying he would not date a sex worker means that he is setting boundaries. If you love him and can stay inside those boundaries then live a good life. Don’t upset it with your need to let everything out. It won’t help the relationship. If you need to give a number then no more than three. First love. Rebound guy and this guy you have now. If you had STDs then blame on rebound guy.

Am I telling you to lie? Yes. Why? Cause the only thing that is important is shedding off the past and living in the present. Don’t think of the past. Don’t bring it up. Strive for a better future. We all have regrets. But don’t let the regrets define who you are now.

Sorry if you think that your guy deserves better or that you feel you need to expose your past to him. I don’t think it is healthy to let your guy think you have a sordid past. If you truly have changed then take this chance to live a good life.

Tommy

Karma exist but it isn’t what you think it is. Karma is not an agency for justice. It isn’t what goes around comes around. Karma is action with intent. When a person does something with an intent, that is Karma. When the proper conditions arise, Karma will fulfill those actions and intent. It bring about the resolution. Much like planting an apple seed. An apple tree will grow. An orange tree will not grow in its stead.

So when nasty people do nasty things, it creates Karma. Karma will find its resolution. What that is depends upon the action and its intent. It is beyond me to understand how those energy will find its way. It could be in this lifetime or the next. Or the resolution can be ten thousand years from the occurrence. Please understand that when nasty things are done, it attracts nasty things.

When a good person acts with good intent, there are no rewards or merits. However, good deeds attract good energy. How it plays out? I do not know. That all depends upon the person, the action and the intent.

If you are looking for justice then that is in the realm of men and their laws. And still out of my understanding and control.

What would a dog trainer do in such situations? Rub the dog’s nose into the pee and then smack the dog with a newspaper a little?? Don’t know. If you try to sleep on the floor then remember to lay on top of a blanket or something to prevent heat loss to the floor. The floor can act as a heat sink and you might wake up not feeling well. Hope you find a solution to Bogart’s behavior issues.

The goal of life is to not be afraid. Fear will come and take over if you let it. But, if we are present and open then love comes and fills us. Yes, emotions comes and goes. We can’t be loving all the time. Just like we are not hungry all the time or happy or sad all the time. Love can be like drinking a bottle of fine wine. It makes one feel good for a while but, there has to be a time to come down from the high. I do not like to hear one is afraid to meet a loved one. It sounds like one is full of fear instead of love. Focus on what makes her happy. Be light and happy and she will take the cue from you. Tell dumb joke. Some call them dad jokes. Ok, my advice is no so good. But, I hope the time you spend with her will be a bright spot in life.

Hello,

Been busy with my daughter trying to transfer to a 4 year college from community college. Went to open house. Got the tour. Spoke with financial aid office. Applied for federal aid and state aid and scholarships She wants to become a teacher. She has a mental handicap which was diagnosed when she was in preschool. So, all her life, she has been fighting hard to keep up. I am very proud of her and the way she has worked hard to get this far. On top of that she has had physical issues. Scoliosis. Middle school thru high school she had to wear a brace. Doctor suggested back surgery but wife thinks it is too dangerous. It was just tough enough to get her to take her wisdom teeth out. She really was afraid to do it. But, it had gotten so bad. Anyway, had to pay for one out of four because insurance would not cover it. Now insurance won’t cover her spine doctor appointment. Yeah, been busy.

Oh, Alessa, you should be looking at how to get the child into daycare or preschool as soon as you can. Apparently, spots fill up fast and so does the aid for it. My wife took care of most of it cause she had friends which kept her informed. I still remember taking my daughter to daycare and sitting at the steps with her telling me she doesn’t want to go. I had to go to work and so did her mom. Well, it got better when she went to preschool. The teacher was great and spotted my daughter’s issue quickly. Then signed her up to tests. You just don’t know what you can do when you hear this kind of news. My wife went for months thinking about the cause. I never blamed anyone or anything. Just tried to do the best we can.

Yes, my wife was in the medical field in her country. And when Co-vid hit, she made us take pre-cautions. Of course, still caught it eventually. Tested positive but did not have symptoms. The vaccine shots was the worst. Anyway, we washed our hands every time we came from outside. We still do. It may sound like too much. Or maybe not enough? Anyway, I hope you and your family are okay.

Anita, hope you and yours are well. Any progress with training the dog? How is your outlook at work? I seem to remember some turmoil?? Well, things will change and hopefully for the better. Has the news about Iran and Israel affected you? It certainly has brought about things which affect us all. One way or another I hope the war or military action ends soon. I don’t know if Trump was an idiot or a genius for trying to stop Iran. Did he stop a future apocalypse? Or did he start one?

I hope Peter and Roberta and everyone else on here will have a good coming year. Thanks for caring. Might be awhile before I get a chance to update. Live long and prosper and eat well.

Sorry for the interruption. Had to drive my daughter to her school for class. One class in person and the others are on line. These days the teachers don’t teach. They set up classes on line and have the students do their studies on line. No presentations. No actual teaching. Schedule tests and that is it. So, different from when I went to college. Anyway, proud of her progress.

Yeah, truly like working on cars. Unfortunately, getting older and many things aren’t as easy as before. Had a nail in the tire today. Took it off and pulled the nail out. Put a plug in with glue. Holding air now. The TPMS sensor alerted me to the leak.

Oh, yeah, thoughts about death. Nothing new in the world about it. Because of our ego and thinking mind, we have created this idea of self. Our world is made up of our thoughts and we created this ego. So, it can not see its own end. And death is only allowing the energies to migrate to another vessel. The Karma created during this life needs to find it resolution. And so, the next life finds its way to do this.

Of course, people have always said that energy can not be created nor destroyed only transformed from one state to another. And so, when we die, the energy moves along. What we experience along the way is the way it has always been from the beginning of life to the end of the universe. And then on to the next universe.

Sorry, got carried away in my thoughts. I really need to start meditating again. The quiet. The emptiness is where we came from and it is where we go.

So, how is everything with you? Are you happy?