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  • April 2, 2026 at 7:51 pm #456593
    Confused
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    I am having plenty of those with AI dont worry 🙂

    Is it dissociation? I thought it’s normal because i have it my whole life i think?? But i just noticed

    I might have been dissociated since adolescence then..

    Idk, now i guess i try to keep going? I think i dont want meds..

    April 2, 2026 at 8:01 pm #456594
    anita
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    Well, Confused: it’s okay if you don’t want meds. Those didn’t serve me well on the long run.

    So, you have conversations with AI on a regular basis? Is it of any help?

    I was dissociated since I was 5, I think. That was how old I was in a vivid memory: running to my mother, wanting her to pick me up and hold me and hug me and tell me everything was okay.

    But she didn’t.

    Don’t underestimate the power of a mother on her boy’s or girl’s life and mind.

    🍃🤍 Anita

    April 2, 2026 at 8:46 pm #456598
    Confused
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    Some people say they help but i guess it’s just a blanket to do the work easier.

    Yeah i do, chatgpt is not too helpful, gemini is better but nothing satisfies my obsessive search, i have to stop it 🙁

    If i judge from the dreams i saw 2 months ago, i was like 8-10 when violent fights would occur in the house on a daily, me running to my room covering my ears.

    I dont know anita, i never felt connected to any of my parents after a certain age, definitely not to my mother.

    It’s still hard for me to correlate my parents to my love life..

    April 2, 2026 at 9:10 pm #456599
    anita
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    Hey Confused:

    Before you didn’t feel connected to any of your parents, definitely not to your mother- you felt very connected. It’s natural.

    A person’s early life experience with one’s parents have a lot to do with a person’s love life, in general terms.

    B Back in the morning 🌄 Anita

    April 3, 2026 at 10:36 am #456610
    anita
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    Good 🌄 Confused:

    Confused, April 1: “Is it dissociation?… idk… Gemini is better but nothing satisfies my obsessive search, I have to stop it”-

    I’ll do my part in helping you stop it, or at least, to not fuel your obsessive search for answers-

    By no longer answering questions you ask ( and offering answers to questions you don’t ask 🤪).

    I mean, how 🤔 much better can I do than AI, 🙂

    That’ll be difficult for me because I have a sort of an obsession with offering answers.

    Let’s see how we’ll we both do with our respective obsessions 🤞

    🤍 Anita

    April 3, 2026 at 2:41 pm #456616
    Confused
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    Hey anita

    I really dont remember being connected to her, its weird..

    Haha i had this thing where i would wanna answer and help everyone too, now not so much.

    Today was pretty calmer, my thoughts were like at 40% intensity instead of 150%. I was out for coffee with some friends and i was still thinking in the back of my head “do i like her? why am i not missing her? am i feeling enough? if she messaged me right now would i feel annoyed or not?”.
    She did message me later asking me how my day was, when i saw the notification my stomach dropped for some reason, but i think i smiled a little, but i cant trust anything haha. It’s like my head has turned this amazing woman into a “problem to be solved” otherwise i can’t move on with my life. It’s like i refuse to do anything if my feelings don’t return, which is so annoying and unfair 🙁

    April 3, 2026 at 3:57 pm #456618
    anita
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    Hey Annoyed Confused:

    This “problem to be solved”, the questions repeated in your mind, to put all clinical labels aside (dissociation, shutdown, ocd, etc.), it’s a habit, a mental habit.

    And habits are difficult to break.

    It’s interesting, this insight you expressed: that it’s like you refuse to do anything if your feelings don’t return.

    Hmm 🤔 there might be an advantage in your loving feelings for her NOT coming back: if they don’t, you won’t move to Cyprus or live with her or marry her etc. (things you don’t want to do.. I am thinking 🤔)

    🐇🐇🐇 happy Easter 🐰 🐣 😊

    Anita

    April 3, 2026 at 6:15 pm #456620
    Confused
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    Yes i am trying to break it these days by not paying too much attention and focusing on other things. But when i do that i feel like i will forget about her and its so weird! Ive never been in this position before 🙁

    Haha i havent thought about it like that anita, but if that was the case, i would be fine after she told me that she will consider moving to me. I dont really care about marriage, her neither.

    Happy easter to you too 🙂

    April 3, 2026 at 7:45 pm #456621
    anita
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    Oh, I didn’t know- she said she’ll consider moving to Greece and live with you as love-partners in Greece?

    And neither one of you is interested in marriage (or children)?

    How do you feel about her moving so to live with you where you’re at?

    Thank u for wishing me happy Easter 🐇

    🐣 🤍 Anita

    April 3, 2026 at 7:53 pm #456622
    Confused
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    Yeah when i told her about that convo and how her words sounded at that time she said “well ofc i would consider moving to greece, i wouldn’t let u take the whole weight by yourself” but that didn’t do anything for me at the time, maybe i was still triggered.
    Well marriage isn’t in our priorities, idk about children. Personally im not a big fan but my father disagrees haha

    Before all this? I was over the moon in the idea of her moving here, but that was a premature fantasy of mine, now i feel numb. I mean, i suppose we would have a great time and do things, but nothing gives me joy unfortunately now 🙁

    April 3, 2026 at 8:30 pm #456624
    anita
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    Hey Dear Confused:

    You say nothing gives you joy now.

    What if you let go of any expectation of joy?

    To just accept- without any resistance- ehat-is?

    To no longer fight your feelings, and instead BREATHE. Just B, no judgment..

    Breathe air ✌️ surrender

    🍃 🤍 Anita

    April 3, 2026 at 8:31 pm #456625
    anita
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    To just accept… what-is?

    April 3, 2026 at 9:30 pm #456627
    Confused
    Participant

    I am trying to do just that in the past two days and i think its kinda working?

    Feels weird tho to do everything without feelings

    April 3, 2026 at 9:40 pm #456628
    anita
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    Hey, if it’s kinda working, keep working it.

    Feelings- oh, oh, oh, feelin⅘g (the 🎵 song) – I am too sleepy 😴 to develop this sentiment. B Back Sat 🌄

    🌙 🎶 Anita

    April 4, 2026 at 11:20 am #456631
    anita
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    Good 🌄 Confused:

    Developing last night’s sentiment:

    Feelings are meant to be felt, not analyzed to death.

    Coming to think about it, the old, old phrase “analyzed to death” fits very well with your experience, does it?

    👻 Anita

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