Hey 👋 Confused:

Prozac is the first ever SSRI and it’s known for sexual side- effects. I hope that you stick with the current med and consult with the psych regarding changing dosages, adding anything or any other changes. What’s most important is your mental- emotional health ( more than the reversible sexual side- effects)

You’re ruminating 24/7? If so, the current med or current dosage may need to be changed/ adjusted.

Yes, shutdown = mental/ emotional withdrawal. Don’t you think?

🌿🌿🌿 Anita

Hey 😊 Confused:

Actually, Gemini just showed up on my phone a week or so ago. I just asked him about Prozac and it verified what I said, that it is very well- known for sexual side- effects. It said that studies show that 60% of people using SSRIs in general, “or more”, it says, report sexual side- effects.

In one of my previous posts I told you about another group of anti- depressants that cause way less such side- effects ( I don’t remember what it was. I’ll ask Gemini after I submit this message)

The med removing the power of troubling thoughts is a plus ✔️✔️✔️

About Gemini saying something she said made you shutdown- yes, you mentioned before that even if she sounds distant a bit, or not as loving as a moment before, that alone triggers your shutdown.

Do you think that a different woman won’t trigger a shutdown?

The changing from the “loving one” and the “stone cold” one- I agree with you that the changing from the loving => the stone-cold one is about trying to avoid hurt- good insight, Confused👍👍👍

🐔 (just because) Anita

Hey anita

Weird that he said that, most people on reddit dont report such things but ok. I read about Wellbutrin, they usually prescribe it along SSRIs to counteract the dopamine drops.

Yes it makes me back off when she’s distant/etc. No no, all of them do, i remember in previous relationships as well, when the girl was flakey i would feel like i am gonna back off, but with her its more instant and intense, probably because of my feelings for her.

But how do i make it not show up at all? Today i opened her gift and cried again, my thoughts were telling me that i really don’t want to lose her. I was imagining us at the beach hugging or going places together, but i stop because then i think “what if the space she asked is because she is considering ending things?”

She said that she feels pressured and needs to get in touch with herself and be ok. I asked her if the pressure is coming from us and she said it’s because of some things she’s thinking about (probably scenarios that she creates) and because we’ve had a convo that she wasn’t ready for (about a very personal matter of hers) which i brought up without knowing. But after that specific convo, the way i answered her and understood her, she said “u are the gem here, not me” and she thanked me a lot for the way i reacted and not judging her. Idk if she got so overwhelmed that she will decide to leave me. Right now as im typing those i can’t even feel anything if she leaves but an hour ago i was feeling something rising and i cried.

Hey 👋 Confused:

I hear that reddit is not always a reliable source of information 🐔

I think that she’s very emotionally attached to you AND she’s overwhelmed. Maybe she feels that in her overwhelmed state she isn’t good- enough for the gem-Confused (she said: “you’re the gem here, not me”).

Do you think this may be the case?

🌿🌿🌿 Anita

Good 4th of July morning ✨️

Coming to think about it, 40% of people who do not experience sexual side- effects on SSRIs (including Prozac). That’s a lot of people on reddit, and those who do experience those side- effects may not feel like sharing that on reddit, embarrassed, maybe.

Sounds like, at times, she doesn’t feel worthy of you. I wondered about her autoimmune issue since you mentioned it. Maybe it causes her to feel depressed/ unworthy at times?

🌿🌿🌿 Anita

Good 4th of July afternoon, Confused:

Copilot (remember him?) says: “In reality, people often stay active on social media while avoiding deeper conversations because social media requires zero emotional energy, while real connection requires a lot. Her being active online doesn’t mean she’s avoiding Confused — it means she’s doing something low‑effort while not having the capacity for a real interaction.”- makes sense?

I know it’s difficult for you to wait and give her space, but you’re doing it anyway, and that’s admirable. How are you managing the wait (other than checking her social media activity)?

🌿🌿🌿Anita

Good 4th Eve 🎂

My celebration food was ribs & corn on the cob. And walked along the streets of downtown after the parade concluded. That’s all. Now hearing fireworks and expecting more late tonight.

I am not surprised she didn’t end it with you, and am glad she texted you 3 hours ago, so you don’t have to wait anymore.

How do you think what happened (that which caused her panic attacks/ overwhelmed her) can be prevented from happening again?

🌿✨️🌿 Anita

Hey Confused 👋 🙂

You sound so very mentally healthy in the 2nd and 3rd paragraph of your recent post, that (I’m thinking): if the SSRI made it possible, I’m all for you not tapering off!

Besides, 10 days ago, yes, you felt nice, crying.. but you still do, just not all of the time.

And 10 days ago, you didn’t feel nice, etc., all of the time either. You felt plenty of apathy back then.

I think that your memory gets.. Confused, you remembering a moment (of feeling) as if it happened all of the time, and dismiss the improvements you’ve experienced with the med because the improvement does not happen all of the time.

(Black- and-white, all- or- nothing thinking)

Bogart is eating a rib bone right now, 4th of July leftover.

🌿✨️🌿 Anita