Posts tagged with “Compassion”
How I Overcame Self-Hatred and 6 Ways to Love Yourself
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.ā ~Sharon Salzberg
When was the last time you looked at your reflection and extended love to yourself? Before I discovered the life-changing power of self-love, I had not extended love to myself for years. This is the story of how I transformed my self-hatred into self-love, how it changed my life, and several tips to practice in your life.
For a long time, I believed self-love was something to be avoided at all costs. Like many, I had become habituated to the “hustle and …
How I Found Forgiveness and Compassion When I Felt Hurt and Betrayed
“I can bear any pain as long as it has meaning.” ~Haruki Murakami
Iāve always felt like someone on the outside. Despite having these feelings Iāve been relatively successful at playing the game of life, and have survived through school, university, and the workplaceāalthough, at times, working so hard to āsurviveā has impacted my emotional well-being.
I have been lucky enough to have healthy and supportive relationships with a few loved ones who have accepted me as I am (quirks and all). To anyone else Iāve come across, I suspect Iāve been perceived as inexplicably normal and inoffensive.
Like many …
Why Relationships Matter Most: Weāre All Just Walking Each Other Home
āWeāre all just walking each other home.ā ~Ram Dass
Living in the hyper-individualist society that we do, it’s easy to forget our obligation to those around us. Often in the West, we are taught to prioritize ourselves in the unhealthiest ways, to ‘grind’ as hard as we can to achieve wealth and status.
We are taught, between the lines, that our first responsibility is to create a ‘perfected‘ version of ourselves to such an extreme that it is alright to forsake our relationships with others to accomplish it.
From day one, it is embedded in us that it …
An Unexpected Place to Find Kindness: What Made Me Feel Like I Belong
āNot all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.ā ~Mother Teresa
Routines are important to me. I rely on certain things to bring me back home to myself; to feel clear and open in my mind, body, and heart.
One of the activities that bring steadiness to my life is swimming. Itās one of my greatest pleasures. There is something magical to me about the feeling of water on my skin, the repetition of the arm strokes that calm my mind, the sound of my breath that relaxes my body, and the …
My Big Insight from Meeting the Woman Who Received My Daughterās Heart
āI lay my head upon his chest, and I was with my boy again. I spent so long in darkness I never thought the night would end. But somehow Grace has found meā¦and I had to let him in.ā ~From āJust Like That,ā Bonnie Raitt
Bonnie Raittās surprise Grammy win for 2023 Song of the Year was no surprise to me. In āJust Like Thatā she tells the story of a woman who is unexpectedly visited by the man who got her late sonās heart. Itās a song that can reduce anyone to tears.
I have been that womanāthat Donor …
Iām Kelly and Iām a Heroine Addict: Why I Get My Fix from Fixing People
āSelf-will means believing that you alone have all the answers. Letting go of self-will means becoming willing to hold still, be open, and wait for guidance for yourself.āāRobin Norwood, Author of Women Who Love Too Much
My drug of choice is not the kind of heroin one shoots in their veins. My drug is the kind of heroine that ends with an eāthe feminine version of hero.
When I help someone, and they are grateful for the gifts I offer, my brain fizzes with a cocktail of oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine, resulting in a āhelperās highā I ride …
11 Important Things Iāve Learned in 11 Years of Marriage
āA great marriage is not when the āperfect coupleā comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.ā ~Dave MeurerĀ
My husband and I will soon be celebrating our eleventh anniversary. By no means do we have the perfect marriage or are we the perfect couple. Over our eleven years of marriage, I’ve recognized a few critical areas needed to build a solid and lasting union as a couple.
Here are eleven things I’ve learned in eleven years of marriage.
1. Communicate.
In the early days of my marriage, I was terrible at communicating my feelings …
Freedom Is the Space Between Each Judgmental or Righteous Thought
āIt is inner stillness that will save and transform the world.ā ~Eckhart Tolle
Life is hard. Impenetrable at times. How can we use our spirituality to navigate through the density of life?
That question inspired this piece of writing. And my navigation tool is almost effortless; I feel compelled to share it.
When my mind is churning and burning with thoughts and fears and worries, I take myself off to a quiet place, get still, and watch my mind. I wait for the tiny gap between each thought. Bingo.
That space, that little gap, is freedom in its truest, purest …
Why Judging People Is Really About You (Not Them)
āItās easy to judge. Itās more difficult to understand. Understanding requires compassion, patience, and a willingness to believe that good hearts sometimes choose poor methods. Through judging, we separate. Through understanding, we grow.ā ~Doe Zantamata
āWhy doesnāt he say something?ā
I was sitting at the dinner table with my partner and friends. Everyone was interacting and talking to each other, except my partner. He was just sitting there quietly. I had to admit, this situation made me very uncomfortable.
Why was he so quiet? We had been dating for over six months and normally, when it was just …
How to Live Your Dharma (True Purpose): The Path to Soul-Level Fulfillment
“Dharma actually means the life you should be livingāin other words, an ideal life awaits you if you are aligned with your Dharma. What is the ideal life? It consists of living as your true self.” ~Deepak Chopra
From the moment I finished high school until my late twenties, I had āpurpose anxiety.ā
I wasnāt just confused and missing a sense of direction in life; my lack of purpose also made me feel inadequate, uninteresting, and lesser than other people.
I secretly envied those who had cool hobbies, worked jobs they loved, and talked passionately about topics I often didnāt …
5 Simple Yet Essential Self-Care Tips That Can Change Your Life
“Never be ashamed to say, ‘Iām worn out. Iāve had enough. I need some time for myself.’ That isnāt being selfish. That isnāt being weak. Thatās being human.” ~Topher Kearby
Years ago, my extended family, who I am very close with, migrated from Vietnam to America as permanent residents. Four separate families had a couple of kids in each family. They are nice, kind, and loving people, and their kids were super cute and respectful.
My relationship with my extended family has taught me a lot of lessons throughout my life so far, but this was one of the most …
How I Healed My Mother Wound and My Daughters Are Healing Theirs
āYour children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Lifeās longing for itselfā¦ You may give them your love but not your thoughts, for they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrowā¦ā ~Kahlil Gibran
Now that my daughters are in therapy trying to heal their relationship with me, I have more compassion than ever for my mom. I havenāt felt angry at her in years. But when I was a teen, I earnestly desired to kill her more than once.
I …
My Motherās Abuse and the Two Things That Have Helped Me Heal
āI love when people that have been through hell walk out of the flames carrying buckets of water for those still consumed by the fire.āĀ ~Stephanie Sparkles
I have a tattoo on my back of Charles Bukowski’s quote āWhat matters most is how well you walk through the fire.āĀ It spoke to me as I had been walking, often crawling, through a fire for much of my life.
At times, I took different paths, skipping through fields of flowers, but eventually I would find my way back to what I knew, which gave me a strange sense of comfortāthe fire …