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Tiny Wisdom: On Being Vulnerable

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“What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful.” ~Brené Brown

To be vulnerable is to be free.

It gives you a break from trying to pretend you’re always right and you don’t have any flaws. It gives you permission to show your authentic self and stop taking responsibility for the way other people perceive you. It allows you to try new things and take the risk of feeling awkward or uncomfortable.

It also opens you up to the possibility of pain. We never know when we let our guard down that other people won’t hurt us, unintentionally or otherwise.

We can know, however, that the pain of closing ourselves off to people and possibilities is far more dangerous than the potential risks of opening up. We’re just not meant to be isolated. We need to really connect with each other.

Today, if you feel tempted to shut down and retreat into yourself, ask yourself : What’s the best thing that could happen today if I decided instead to move outside this place that feels safe?

Photo by Thomas Euler

About Lori Deschene

Lori Deschene is the founder of Tiny Buddha. She started the site after struggling with depression, bulimia, c-PTSD, and toxic shame so she could recycle her former pain into something useful and inspire others to do the same. You can find her books, including Tiny Buddha’s Gratitude Journal and Tiny Buddha’s Worry Journal, here and learn more about her eCourse, Recreate Your Life Story, if you’re ready to transform your life and become the person you want to be.

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Ami Mattison

I needed to read this today. I’ve been thinking a lot about vulnerability recently and this says it all so succinctly. Thanks!

CynfulCyndi
CynfulCyndi

Very nicely said!! I don’t like feeling vulnerable, but I see it a little differently now. xo

CynfulCyndi
CynfulCyndi

Very nicely said!! I don’t like feeling vulnerable, but I see it a little differently now. xo

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Thao
Thao

thanks for this post. i don’t know how you always know exactly what i’m thinking

Ande Waggener

I love this! Fear of awkwardness and discomfort are like fences that keep us stuck in familiar parts of ourselves. When we knock those fences down, we find a whole set of inner qualities that are ready to run free.

Sarah
Sarah

Thank you so much for this post! 🙂

Lori Deschene
Reply to  Sarah

Thank you for reading!

Lori Deschene
Reply to  Ande Waggener

Beautifully said. Thank you for sharing your perspective. =)

Lori Deschene
Reply to  Thao

I suspect it’s because we’re all pretty similar. I tend to write about the things that are most helpful to me, and I always need reminders to let go and put myself out there. Thank you for reading!

Lori Deschene
Reply to  CynfulCyndi

I’m so glad to read that!

Lori Deschene
Reply to  Ami Mattison

You are most welcome. Thank you for reading!

Christine
Christine

Gorgeous photo on the “vulnerability”. The post is also a timely reminder.

Joy Bell
Joy Bell

Sitting in Brooklyn in a snow storm and my friend in Australia posted this.
Love it! And thankyou.

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PaperBagBird
PaperBagBird

This is beautiful. All my life I’ve been afraid that my vulnerability is alienating me from people, because it made them feel so much uncomfortable, but then I started to hide, and turns out hiding is much much more exhausting than just being authentic. I recently started a blog and I’m gonna start taking more chances!

Lori Deschene
Reply to  PaperBagBird

That’s wonderful that you’re going to start taking more chances! I actually felt the same way about my vulnerability–but I’ve realized there are other people out there like me (like you for example!) There are people who will appreciate us just as we are. =)