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ConfusedParticipantHello again Anita
How does my body relate this relationship to the one with my mother? I can’t comprehend that, i saw no similarities there..
@thomas168
I definitely have the memories from our moments, also the memories of the feelings, it’s just that right now i can’t seem to be able to access those feelings and feel the warmth/joy/longing once again. I believe this girl is great and there is potential so i would like to rebuild it (even tho its much harder with long distance) but i wouldn’t give up like that. It’s just, i feel like there is something blocking me from being myself and i can’t figure it out.
@Alessa
Yeah the total apathy and depression really hit like a truck on that November morning, but it’s not like i hadn’t experienced it in the past (4 years ago). Back then i just went through the motions and it went away by itself, but now it feels worse. No, the only stress was taking the trip to meet this girl.
@anita
I have read about all those and it comes down to dissociation/numbness but i can’t really pinpoint what could have triggered it. Perhaps the uncertainty of the relationship that someone has to move somewhere (possibly me) and the fear of abandonment (I am disorganized attached) could have done the work? There were some suppressed negative emotions that i expressed to her but it didn’t change much, so i suppose that wasn’t the case.ConfusedParticipantIm sorry for the late replies, i only use my PC once a day because of work.
Well, right before that day,i was head over heels, thinking of her constantly, feeling great while doing so, feeling content and connected.
But that changed in one morning and i dont understand why and how.Is this real or am i blocked by something? I feel like all of my love feelings have vanished, even for my friends and family, i only feel familiarity and “obligation”.I thought it could be the distance and that i want something close, but i was in it for 8-9 months, i guess it would have occured way earlier. What i’m feeling when we talk is like im talking to a stranger, feeling cold and apathetic.Like my mind erased her in a way, or she has done something bad to me, which she hasn’t.But i feel apathetic towards everyone right now, not just her. (Yeah i would really like to explore and find out what’s going on)
ConfusedParticipantYes i agree with what youre saying.. My question tho is, was what happened to me because of that? Or is it a legitimate loss of feelings all of a sudden? Hasnt happened to me before.
ConfusedParticipantHello anita
Yeah this is what describes me for the past two months almost sadly..Could you maybe shed some light in my situation in order to gain some clarity myself?
Idk if thats the correct term, but i felt like i was frozen, i wouldn’t leave my bed, barely getting up to shower, like my mind was not in the right place, missing words in sentences and stuff, i dont know if thats the appropriate word for it.
In my case too, the relationship with my mother was very chaotic, violence and arguing constantly, throwing some awkward affection here and there, then rinse and repeat. I cant remember if i was dissociating when i was a kid, definitely trying to escape in imaginary worlds and games though..
ConfusedParticipantHello, reading this thread gave me relief since i’m suffering from the same thing for the first time in my life in the past 1.5 month.
Being madly in love with my LDR girl for 8 months –> sudden loss of feelings overnight for no apparent reason, dissociating, being numb to everything, depressed, not enjoying activities that i used to enjoy before, constant rumination for my feelings, feeling like a burden and like i am responsible for her feelings, rocd themes and the list goes on.
It kinda gave me hope that i might be able to work through those awful feelings and thoughts and maybe find love for her again, because she is very loving and deserves it, but now i feel like my emotional capacity is very low.I have started therapy with someone that specializes in ocd/depression/relationships but i cant feel any difference. Maybe its too soon. -
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