Hi everyone

I notice more and more that my thoughts are dictated by my body. Low on neurotransmitters = negativity. Higher amounts = positivity. The mind claims ownership of thoughts, as if it created them, instead of reacting to changes in the body and environment. 🩵

My friend has a non-verbal autistic son in his teens. All of a sudden he started becoming extremely moody and misbehaving. It took a while to get to the source of the problem because he couldn’t tell anyone. He was in pain.

I also wanted to share a new gratitude technique I learned. It’s about acknowledging privilege whilst suffering. Actively looking for the silver lining. ☀️

Having a tough time that is temporary? At least I get to learn from it. A sick child. At least he is still here. It will not last forever. A rough time financially? It forces you to be creative and consider what you value. And be thankful for what you do have. Some people have even less. Some children die. Some people might not have a family to advocate hard for them. 🙏

Maybe you could ask some members of your church to set you up with someone for a date?

Hi Kris

I guess it depends on what country you’re from. I was talking about western places like Europe and the US.

Ah, I see! You’re very traditional and have strong morals. That makes dating difficult these days. Have you tried religious it dating websites? I don’t know if you’d have any better luck there?

Hmm well you wouldn’t technically have to wait if you looked for a partner who was older. A lot of people are settling down in their 30s and 40s these days.

I’m sorry that the dating scene is so tough. I really don’t like it myself. I don’t think it’s very fair to women. In my experience, it’s a lot of women looking for long term partners. Or men who are more desperate. But if you can find someone who has good traditional values that would be amazing. Just not the easiest thing to find. Considering partners who are a bit further away can give you some more options if you’re willing to travel.

I wish you good luck with everything! 🩵

Hi Everyone

I guess being a parent has taught me that suffering is just a part of human nature. A child will just cry over the smallest things. Even a baby will do that. The back light of a tv is shining against a wall. Waaa! I’m not being held! Waaaa! I don’t want to potty waaaa! I don’t want to go in the pram! Waaa! Give me some of your hot dog even though I just ate my own! Waa!

We communicate and are social creatures. Feelings help us to do that. They drive us to communicate our needs. But not everything is going to happen that we wish. Disappointment. Oh well, time to move onto something else. Might as well go have some fun doing something else. Such is life. Ups and downs. It is difficult for people though who have been through extensive adverse experiences because their nervous systems get stuck on the base line level of trauma. Takes a lot of work and time to heal. 🩵

Hi Roberta & Everyone

Sorry I haven’t caught your previous recommended video yet. Just been quite busy. I should be able to watch it this week. 😊

How are you doing? Thinking of you and your family! 🩵

This has a grim title, but this lady’s attitude is so inspiring, the way she managed so much! 🙏

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=r4SZ1MrUA_o&pp=ugUHEgVlbi1HQtIHCQk_CwGHKiGM7w%3D%3D&ra=m

Hi Christi

My condolences for the loss of your parents. 🩵

Hmm I see the dilemma.

Have you tried making a list of pros and cons?

What does your gut tell you?

Do you think that it you did move back, you would be able to cope with that homesick feeling?

Do you take vacations there?

A different situation, I’m currently choosing my son’s first nursery. I’m doing the pros and cons thing. I know what my gut would choose. I’m going to talk to some loved ones about it. Still not sure yet.

It’s okay to take your time with a decision. I hope the universe gives you a sign. 🩵

I’ll write back with how my decision making goes. 😊

Hi Tommy

That’s so cool! Your daughter is studying to be a teacher. I’m sure she’s going to have a great time with it. Wow she’s completed community college and is moving onto the next college. Amazing! I love how much of a proud dad you are. 😄

A disagreement about who does more work? It sounds like you both do a lot and are very tired. I think that’s why such disagreements come about, at least in my experience. Aww I can tell how much you love your wife letting her “win” the disagreement. 🩵

You are right, relationships are not always smooth sailing. I learned to see disagreements as an imperfect attempt to connect. We can’t be perfect all the time. I hope things are going better now? 🩵

My son is starting to get a bit chattier. So that’s nice. 🙂 Fire trucks and tractors on the brain. 🚒 🚜 🧠 😂 He’s doing really well with counting and his abcs. Now it’s summer he’s not getting ill as much which is great. And your tip about washing hands as soon as you get in the house really did help.

We visited a nursery recently. His back up nursery start date is November. His other nursery delayed his start date until August. The back up nursery has a quiet room, so I’m happy for him to go to either. He’s pretty noise sensitive. I just didn’t want him to be tortured going to a nursery which is loud and doesn’t have any options for dealing with it. It would be a shame for him to have to wear ear defenders all the time.

Best wishes to you and your family, as always! 🩵

Hi Roberta

I agree with you. Suffering can be lessened. I think the difficulty is when there are serious life altering changes. It can take time for people to adjust and make peace with it. In some cases, things can get very difficult. 🩵

I have a friend who is dying slowly and painfully. It is not easy for his wife either. She is taking care of him and her disabled adult son as well.

Another friend just took care of her father in law with dementia who finally passed away when he could no longer swallow. She has a severely disabled son she’s looking after, a young adult who is going through some serious issues.

Life is harder at some times than others. 🩵