Posts tagged with “wisdom”
9 Ways to Silence Self-Criticism and Embrace Self-Love
āI don’t know a perfect person. I only know flawed people who are still worth loving.ā ~John Green
Do you ever wonder if that voice in your head is right?
Do you re-live events, scouring through every detail to look for places where you went wrong in your actions?
Do you ever walk away from a conversation with your inner voice ranting that you should have done betterāthat you should have said this or that instead?
That self-critical voice became a prominent friend of mine. I called it the gremlin. The gremlin leapt onto my shoulder after every conversation with …
Donāt Try to Get Over Your Fear; Go Through It Instead
āI must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.ā ~Frank Herbert, The Bene Gesserit āLitany Against Fear,ā from the novel Dune
When I was very small, my grandmother would watch me while my parents were at work. Nana often wanted a break, and her house held very …
10 Ways to Practice Self-Compassion and Overcome Your Shame
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āThis is a moment of suffering. Suffering is part of life. May I be kind to myself in this moment. May I give myself the compassion I need.ā ~Kristin Neff
I consider myself to be a very compassionate person, but Iāve struggled a great deal with self-compassion. Though Iāve now been sober for over six years, back when I was drinking I made a lot of mistakes, and itās taken …
What to Do After a Breakup to End Painful Relationship Patterns
āWhen writing the story of your life, donāt let anyone else hold the pen.ā ~Unknown
After my kids grew up and I moved to the city from the suburbs, I became somewhat of a professional dater. I was determined to make up for lost time after over a decade as a single mom, and I was optimistic about my future.
My hopes were dashed almost immediately. Relationship after relationship crashed and burned, rarely lasting more than a few weeks. As soon as theyād walk out the door, sometimes within minutes, Iād fire up whatever dating website I was on at …
Why āBe Positiveā Isnāt the Best Advice When Youāre Down
“Learn the alchemy true human beings know. The moment you accept what troubles you’ve been given, the door will open.ā ~Rumi
As much as I tried to apply personal development ideas in my life, I failed big time.
All the affirmations in the world couldn’t make me love myself.
The more I tried to ābe present,ā the more all-over-the-place my mind became, getting lost in overthinking.
Mindfulness didnāt work for me either. Observing my thoughts got me to chase each and every thought and analyze it. When I tried āletting go,ā I just held on tighter.
This was …
The One Question You Need to Ask Yourself When Deciding What to Do
āTell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?ā ~Mary Oliver
Iāve recently discovered that for fifty-odd years Iāve been asking myself the wrong questions. Uh-oh.
Maybe you are too.
The questions we ask ourselves habituallyāeven when the process is totally unconsciousāguide our lives in a very profound way. For me, the two questions that dominated my thinking had very different, but equally pernicious results. They are: What am I supposed to be doing? And What do I feel like doing?
The first question is all about hitting the numbers. What looks good …
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