Posts tagged with “wisdom”
The Value of Doing Nothing in a Hyperproductive World
“Allow yourself to be bored a little. In our world full of distractions, create some space for nothingness.” ~Unknown
My roommate sat in the kitchen, eating his late home-cooked dinner, and commented with a half-mocking smile, âAh, youâre still living.â
The words hung in the air, awkwardly playful but sharp enough to sting. They echoed something larger: the subtle judgment that creeps into our culture of relentless productivity.
Confusion bubbled up inside me, followed quickly by shame. My cheeks turned red. I had spent most of this sunny Saturday alone in my roomâreading books, listening to music, writing a little, …
When Love Isnât Enough: The Lessons I Learned from my Breakup
âThis is not where your story ends. Itâs simply where it takes a turn you didnât expect.â ~Cheryl Strayed
He had the courage to say what I couldnât.
âItâs not working anymore.â
It didnât make any sense that we were breaking up. We loved each other so much. We had been talking about getting engaged. Our couples therapy was moving in a positive direction, even when it was really challenging.
When he said those words, I knew I wasnât going to argue with him. As much as we loved each other, we had taken the relationship as far as …
How I Found Confidence and a New Path When I Felt Inadequate
âStart where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.â ~Arthur Ashe
It was a quiet evening at Boat Quay. The sun was setting, casting warm golden hues over the water, and the air smelled faintly of salt and street food. I was sitting on the riverbank with a close friend, my head heavy with thoughts that refused to settle.
âIâm thirty,â I said, breaking the silence. My voice quivered with frustration. âI havenât achieved anything. Look at Joseph Schoolingâheâs younger than me and a gold medalist! My other friend started his own business. And me? Iâm just⊠…
When Youâre Ready for More: How to Access Your Inner Wanderer
“Not all who wander are lost.” ~J.R.R. Tolkien
Sometimes as humans we lose sight of our profound inner resourcefulnessâthe wellspring of creativity and strength that has kept humanity reinventing itself over and over again.
It happens to everyone. We get lost in comfortable routines, become discouraged from trying new things, and forget how to play.
When life feels disappointingly status quo, itâs easy to keep floating downcurrent as you tell yourself, âWelp, I guess this is as good as it gets.â
I donât know about you, but Iâve definitely caught myself in a trap of wondering if the best is …
Healing Through Reparenting: The Greatest Act of Self-Love
âWhen you reparent yourself, you can step in and give your inner child the deep love and attention you may not have had when you were young.â ~Victoria Albina
Reparenting is not for the faint of heart, but the journey can surely be described as the greatest act of self-love. It’s a giftâa chance to redo some of the painful aspects of childhood and adolescence, but with the awareness of an adult mind. It is also an opportunity to connect much more deeply with ourselves and those we wish to connect with in a more authentic way.
What is reparenting?…
How to Work Mindfully with Pain and Illness
âCan I sit with suffering, both yours and mine, without trying to make it go away? Can I stay present to the ache of loss or disgraceâdisappointment in all its many formsâand let it open me? This is the trick.” ~Pema Chödrön
At forty-seven years of age, I have experienced chronic illness in some form since my mid-to-late twenties. This past year, I’ve also encountered chronic pain on a level I have never experienced before. Part of that is illness-related, and part of it is simply my body getting older, coupled with the effects of repetitive motions from sitting and …
What Happened When I Stopped Blaming and Embraced Radical Responsibility
âI can respect any person who can put their ego aside and say, âI made a mistake, I apologize, and Iâm correcting the behavior.’â ~Sylvester McNutt
I remember I was a teenager when I went through this horrible breakup. I had never experienced heartbreak before, and the pain was excruciating, impacting many areas of my life. For years, I blamed him for the end of our relationship and for not appreciating my love.
My friends told me it was his loss and that I deserved much better. I nursed that breakup for longer than necessary. I never took responsibility for …
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