Posts tagged with “wisdom”
If You Think Reaching Your Goal Will Make You Happy…
The path IS the goal.
The process is more important than the result.
Life is a journey, not a destination.
There are three very common, some might say cheesy and clichéd sayings you may hear when it comes to taking action to reach your goals.
Some of you are probably rolling your eyes already, and I did when I first heard quotes like these.
But Iâve recently realized something that has made me U-turn on a lot of my own old, outdated beliefs around goal-setting and achievement and acquisition of material things, or just generally âmaking itâ in life.…
How Holding On to Unrequited Love Keeps You Alone and Stuck
âLet no one who loves be unhappy, even love unreturned has its rainbow.â ~James M. Barrie
My first experience with unrequited love took place when I was a little kid at swimming lessons.
I developed a huge crush on one of the instructors. I donât remember his name, but I remember the excruciating feeling of absolutely adoring someone who didnât even know I existed. I wish I could say that this was a one-time experience, but it wasnât.
Sadly, this pattern continued for many years. I seemed to have a radar device installed in my heart that would automatically fixate …
Why This Will Be the Year I Stop Running from Pain
âOne has to accept pain as a condition of existence.â ~Morris West
This may seem sounds counter-intuitive, but this year I want to let go of trying to avoid suffering.
It doesnât mean that I am a masochist and plan to spend the next year being miserable. Itâs more a question of learning to accept life as it isâuncertain, full of surprises, and with its full quota of difficult circumstances.
Our Wish for Happiness
The thing is that we all want to be happy. Thereâs nothing wrong with that, but if we fear not being happy, then we …
12 Habits to Adopt to Make This Your Best Year Yet
Many of us head into the New Year with big goals and ambitions. We think about everything that seems to be lacking in our lives and imagine ourselves far happier and more fulfilled on the other side of massive change.
Thereâs no denying that certain accomplishments can amp up our life satisfaction, but Iâve found that our daily habits are the biggest contributor to our happiness.
You can have a job that excites you, the best body of your life, and the perfect partner for you, but none of it will fully satisfy you if you donât also prioritize the …
Why You Have to Share What You Really Feel and Want in Relationships
âAny relationship that could be âruinedâ by having a conversation about feelings, standards, or expectations wasnât really firm enough anyway, so there isnât much to ruin.â ~Unknown
So many of us believe that not expressing ourselves is a noble thing to do. We get to feel stoic and in control. Others get emotional and overwhelmed while we can keep it together. The idea that we are strong because we donât express our feelings is also socially reinforced, so we keep doing it because itâs the right thing to do, right?
Not quite.
In my previous blog post âThe Negative …
When Your Heart Is Broken, Just Keep Moving
âHope is the feeling you have that the feeling you have is not permanent.â ~Jean Kerr
Hereâs the thing no one tells you about datingâit sucks. The uncertainty, the inconsistency, the stress. Dating has always been easy for me. Or so I thought.
The more I think back, the more I see I accepted things I really shouldnât have in all of my relationships. I allowed my needs to be put last, I took on blame, and I stayed when I wasnât made a priority. For what reason I am still not entirely sure. But I can tell you …
20 Powerful Quotes to Help Minimize Conflict and Drama
The holidays can be a lot of fun, but letâs face it, they can sometimes be stressful, particularly if you spend them with family. Surrounded by multiple generations of people, many with different perspectives and beliefs, itâs easy to feel triggered or annoyed.
Then there are the challenges associated with going home, whether that means visiting a physical location or returning to the (possibly unhealthy) mental space you occupied as a kid.
And if you do fall into old landmines, itâs all the more frustrating because holidays come but once a year, and theyâre supposed to be joyful, right?…
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