Posts tagged with “feelings”
How Our Emotional Triggers Can Actually Be Great Gifts
âBe grateful for triggers, they point to where you are not free.â ~Unknown
Your triggers are your responsibility. I know, it doesnât land so nicely, does it? But itâs the truth. The moment you truly understand this, you let others off the hook and youâre able to actually see triggers as gifts pointing to where youâre not whole.
Iâve heard this many times before and felt like retorting with, âBut, he/she/they didâŚ.â Just because your triggers are your responsibility doesnât mean that others wonât do hurtful or infuriating things. It just means the only thing you can control is your …
How to Process Intense Feelings with Mindfulness: 4 Powerful Steps
“Feelings come and go, like clouds in the sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
In todayâs fast-paced world, itâs easy to find ourselves caught in a whirlwind of intense emotions.
Whether itâs the stress of looming deadlines, the anxiety of an uncertain future, or the frustration of unexpected setbacks, intense feelings often hijack our mental well-being, leaving us feeling drained and powerless in their wake.
In such moments, our instinctual response is often to either suppress these emotions or allow them to dictate our actions, leading to a cycle of reactivity and emotional turbulence.
Growing up, …
How to Free Yourself from Pain from the Past
âThere are two levels to your pain: the pain that you create now, and the pain from the past that still lives on in your mind and body.â ~Eckhart Tolle
When I read this quote, it stopped me in my tracks. So much of our pain and suffering in the present is caused by us repeating cycles and dwelling on pain from the past. We want so badly to resolve our suffering. But our search for resolution often involves repeating the painful cycles we have already been through, in the hope that someone or something will change.
Why I Love My Anger and How It Can Be a Force for Good
âWhere there is anger, there is always pain underneath.â ~Eckhart Tolle
âI donât know why Iâm so angry,â my mother said.
It was 3 a.m., and my mother was standing outside my door. I had awoken suddenly to hear feet stomping up and down the hallway on one of my last visits to my childhood home before dementia and breast cancer really took hold of her.
âPhht, me either.â I tried to empathize, but inside of me rose my own fear and anger, as my siblings and I had watched her decline over the years, yet at the same time, …
How to Transform Your Relationship by Feeling Your Feelings
It was late at night, and my husband and I were having an argument about the same subject weâd been arguing about for two decadesâcooking and cleaning.
The argument seemed to come out of nowhere. We were having a nice evening together, the kids were asleep, we were watching a movie and chatting. And then all of a sudden, the conversation went off on a tangent, and it felt like the ground we were standing on suddenly split and a deep dark cavern opened up between us.
Here we were now, standing on either side, an insurmountable ravine between us, …
How to Release the Fear That Keeps Our Lives Small
âBeing cut off from our own natural self-compassion is one of the greatest impairments we can suffer.â ~Gabor Mate
It was late at night, and I couldnât sleep. I could almost hear the thudding of fear that was exploding in my chest. I tried to identify the singular cause of the fear, but it didnât feel like there was just one thing.
There were so many things.
It was the world at large and problems in it; it was how my kid was feeling this morning when they got home from school. It was the rift between my husband and …
How to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed by Other Peopleâs Strong Emotions
âIt is not your responsibility to figure out what someone else is feeling and why. Let go of the illusion that âfixingâ their bad mood will make you feel better.â ~Sarah Crosby
Some years ago, I was talking to my husband on the phone. He sounded annoyed about something to do with his work, but I noticed an intense emotional reaction in myself. Immediately, my heart contracted and my stomach lurched. I could feel a runaway train of emotions activate within me.
My whole body was awash with nausea, and I felt so very uncomfortable.Â
This was a familiar and …
How I Calm and Release Intense Emotions of Anger, Sadness, and Frustration
âYou donât have to be positive all the time. Itâs perfectly okay to feel sad, angry, annoyed, frustrated, scared, or anxious. Having feelings doesnât make you a ânegative person.â It makes you human.â ~Lori Deschene
In November, I was on an emotional roller coaster full of sudden unexplainable fits of anger, hysterically crying for no reason, barely sleeping, feeling urges to physically kick, hit, and scream.
One of the main triggers was when my partner would go out without me.
Heâd go out with his friends to play pool and I would immediately shut down, shut him out, and turn …
How I Learned That My Pain is Valid and Worthy of My Own Empathy and Love
âSit with it. Sit with it. Sit with it. Sit with it. Even though you want to run. Even when itâs heavy and difficult. Even though youâre not quite sure of the way through. Healing happens by feeling.â ~Dr. Rebecca Ray
Itâs July 2022 and Iâm in the middle of a red tent at Shambala Music Festival in British Columbia.
I sit elbow to elbow, knee to knee, heart to heart with a group of women who I am meeting for the first time.
Itâs hot and weâre sweaty.
A teacher is leading a healing womb meditation, and she prompts …
7 False Beliefs That Will Keep You Trapped in Your Head Forever
âThere is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.ââ~Anthony de Mello
When people come to me suffering from anxiety, fear, anger, self-judgment etc., there are five things they invariably believe to be true.
Letâs take anxiety as an example. Most (if not all) people with anxiety believe that:
1. Itâs bad or wrong to feel anxious.
2. It shouldnât be there.
3. Thereâs something wrong with me (for being anxious).
4. My mind should be peaceful.
5. I …
When We Avoid Emotions We Donât Like, Our Lives Get Smaller and Smaller
âBeing cut off from our own natural self-compassion is one of the greatest impairments we can suffer.â ~Gabor Mate
Most of us avoid experiences not necessarily because we donât like them or want them, but because we donât want to feel how we will feel when we go through that experience.
Our lives become altered by the emotions we donât want to feel because we donât want to move toward the thing that could bring strong emotions like fear, shame, sadness, or disappointment.
We donât want to go to that party because weâll probably feel awkward and embarrassed.
We …
If You Stuff Your Emotions Down: You Gotta Feel It to Heal It
“Sit with it. Sit with it. Sit with it. Sit with it. Even though you want to run. Even when itâs heavy and difficult. Even though youâre not quite sure of the way through. Healing happens by feeling.â ~Dr. Rebecca Ray
Iâve spent much of my life resisting my true feelings.
Anger made me feel wrong. Sadness made me feel weak. Neediness made me feel âgirly.â Love made me feel scared.
I became an expert at hiding when I was feeling any of the above.
Some people numb their feelings with alcohol, drugs, shopping, or sex. I numb with control. …
The 3 Ms That Help Me Cope with Seasonal Depression
âThe word ‘happy’ would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.â ~Carl Jung
My two-year-old son looked up at me with his big, blue, beautiful eyes.
He wanted me to play. I took a toy car in my hand and rolled it along the wooden living room floor we were both sitting on, making an enthusiastic VROOM as I did it. He smiled. He appreciated my effort at sound effects.
The streetlights standing on the road outside our living room window were already glowing warmly, even though it was barely 4:30 p.m. and the sky was …
Freedom Is the Space Between Each Judgmental or Righteous Thought
âIt is inner stillness that will save and transform the world.â ~Eckhart Tolle
Life is hard. Impenetrable at times. How can we use our spirituality to navigate through the density of life?
That question inspired this piece of writing. And my navigation tool is almost effortless; I feel compelled to share it.
When my mind is churning and burning with thoughts and fears and worries, I take myself off to a quiet place, get still, and watch my mind. I wait for the tiny gap between each thought. Bingo.
That space, that little gap, is freedom in its truest, purest …
Be Honest About Your Feelings
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