Hi Lucidity

Bless your soul! ❤️ To be fair, biting can really hurt. I’ve had bruises through jeans because of it. He doesn’t really seem to have a good sense of how painful it is.

Aww ruining his fun bless. 😂 It is nice that your son feels comfortable in expressing his feelings with you! ❤️

Ah well he doesn’t do the pretending with others. Mostly just me. I tend to be quite relaxed with my approach to things. Recently, I’m trying to be a little firmer. I started telling him that mummy doesn’t like it when you ignore her, it’s nice when he listens and helping him to finish up what he’s doing.

Yes, I don’t have a good sense of smell. But when I was pregnant it improved. I thought is this what other people who have a good sense of smell experience. 😂

Your experience during pregnancy is fascinating. That is a beautiful story with your husband. Thank you for sharing! ❤️ I suspect you are correct with familiarity being a factor too.

Interestingly, I have issues where I mix up similar colours. Black and navy blue being the worst one. But I can also have issues with things like pinks and purples too. I ask my sister who is an artist what colour things are when it is important.

Hi Tee

Would it be okay to move the conversation to this thread?

It’s good to hear that you have a plan for your knee. Every little helps. You deserve comfort in all aspects of life. God knows you bring a lot of comfort to others. ❤️

I find cycling helpful for my knee. I heard it was good for knees and a low impact cardio. I do like cycling, but I don’t like going up hills, so I got an electric bike. Best of both worlds. 😂

Yeah, I’m still going to try and potty train him. He’s actually started showing an interest of his own accord. He has started to get into paw patrol because he loves cars and dogs. Turns out I accidentally bought him a paw patrol potty a while back. He’s just noticed the logo with the characters from his show and has been asking to practice sitting on it.

He has been accepted for nursery in January. I was relieved at first because of the idea of getting a break, but now I’m a little nervous. I’ve never been away from him for more than a couple of hours and I’ve never really trusted other people with him. I know it will be healthy for him to learn to trust others. He has been lucky so far, the vast majority of people have been kind to him.

Hmm well it’s complicated. I’ve always had a tendency for anxiety. I think a lot of the time, I have unrealistic expectations. I guess because I have needs, just like anyone else. I seek reassurance and empathy from people who might not be emotionally equipped to handle that in the moment.

Ah well, uncertainty is an issue for me. It’s common with autism. So much of life is uncertain.

Thanks, I like programming. It’s really fun for me, my brain works in that straightforward way. I’m trying to get ahead on my exams. I figure if I study when my son is in nursery, I’ll be able to have a weekend again. That’ll be nice. 😊

I truly appreciate your calm presence and perspective. ❤️

Hi Tee

Thanks so much! ❤️

How are you doing? ❤️

I’m glad to hear that your knees are better than they were. Its not so good that they still have issues when strained. Good luck! I hope it works out. 😊

It’s okay, I don’t know how long it takes either!

He was accepted by the local nursery. So hopefully it will be okay for me to change him. It shouldn’t be a concern at first because they introduce nursery for short periods of time. He’s done some potty training when he was younger. He’s pretty good at not having accidents. But yes, the goal is to get him to a point where he doesn’t need help from others with these things. By 2 and a half he might be okay to use the bathroom on his own. They need help with pulling up pants before then.

Yes, he’s 2. Yes, the socialization will be really helpful because he doesn’t have siblings and it should help his language development too since he’s a little behind.

Oh I didn’t know that. I feel a bit better then. There are so many experts with different opinions. Some who say nursery is beneficial for academic performance in later life. Some who say that nursery before the age of 3 is bad because it can be stressful for kids.

Yes, that is spot on. People don’t always have the capacity. At some times they do, at others they don’t. I’m still getting used to the idea of finding the right time. The idea isn’t so much painful as the practicality of it. It is hard to find the right time when you are short on time.

Did you have difficulty with uncertainty and anxiety too?

Very true. For a while I just had a constant sense of impending doom as a result of trauma. When you think of it like that, anxiety is a downgrade.

I’m sorry that your mother was unsafe too. No child should have to feel that way. ❤️

Is it somatic techniques that you find particulaly helpful? I will have to learn some more about them. You mentioned that you don’t always find it easy? ❤️

Take care ❤️