Good 🌄 Confused:

You pointed 👉 to your overthinking many times.

The psychiatrist you saw last prescribed an SSRI that is prescribed for overthinking (in greater dosage than what he prescribed according to the study I shared with you), and you’re thinking of seeing a therapist who specializes in OCD.

These are 2 sources of hope for you?

🙏🤞 Anita

Hey guys

Yes that’s correct anita, he did give me escitalopram that treats depression and could calm my overthinking down a bit. I am still on day 8. I returned from the new therapist appointment and tbh she seemed very nice, like she can understand what i’m telling her without much difficulty. I am hopeful i can help myself now yes 🙂

I like your reference thomas. I think i wanna stick to the plan of trying and letting my feelings come back instead of chasing intense infatuation all the time.

Hey anita

She basically documented our first meeting which lasted abour an hour and a half (she charged me for one hour) and said that we still need a couple more times to form a better understanding of my situation and that we will set a goal each time i visit and we’ll try to accomplish it. She said she can’t tell if i have ocd/rocd yet, but i do have the 3 things that is usually the baseline for it to develop: guilt, fear, anxiety. I have an appointment with the psychiatrist in the next week because it’s gonna be the 14th day of the SSRI so he wants to see how im doing.
I feel better and more hopeful for the future and i’ve had some good/warm feelings today. I hope it lasts 🙂

Good morning, Confused:

Today, March 1️⃣9️⃣, is the 3-month anniversary of you joining this thread (Dec 1️⃣9️⃣, 2025), filling 1️⃣9️⃣ pages of posts (if you click on your screen name, you’ll see that)

Interestingly, Ada, with whom you felt much in common, posted on March 1️⃣9️⃣, 20222

Looking back at your first post, what strikes me most this morning is how trying to force feelings to return doesn’t work. You wrote back then about “…constant rumination for my feelings…” → Rumination is a form of self‑pressure — repeatedly checking, analyzing, and trying to force feelings to appear.

Here’s what Copilot (AI) says on the topic: “When someone suddenly goes numb and panics about losing their feelings, they usually start trying to feel again. They check constantly, analyze everything, and pressure themselves to ‘love properly.’

“But emotional systems don’t respond well to pressure — they tighten, freeze, or shut down even more. That’s why forcing feelings never works.

“What does help is when the person eventually… stops pushing so hard. The moment the inner pressure eases, the emotional system can breathe again. It relaxes. And in that softer space, feelings often begin to return naturally — not because the person ‘tried harder,’ but because they finally stopped trying to control something that can only unfold on its own.

🌿 ✨ 🤍 🙂 🌙 🌱 💫 🌾 🌼 🌬️ 💛 🌟 🕊️ 🌸 🔆 🍃 💭 🌻 ☀️ (19 emojis), Anita

Hey 👋 Confused:

Yes, I do pay attention to n I numbers and anniversaries.

Is “not pressuring myself” same as relaxing?

Feelings as a treat, what an interesting way to put it. I hope you reward yourself every day.

The image of Confused thawing came to mind.

🧊 💧 💧 Anita

Good night (morning, for you), Confused:

I never took Lexapro (the U.S. brand name of the SSRI you’re taking). It’s very popular here though, became a thing after my time. Side effects from my taking of SSRI (Zoloft, for most of the time)? Slept smoothly for 17 years. And IF I had good psychotherapy while taking it, it would have been just right.

From my experience, it’s about both: a chemical intervention+ psychotherapy.

Relaxing is so very.. important, Confused.. 🧘‍♀️ 🌿🌊 🌙 🍃 ☁️ 🫧 💤 Anita

Hey 👋 Dear Confused:

Well, if it gave you some clarity on your thoughts, that’s a positive.

Yet, you get to decide on meds vs no meds.

Personally, I think that psychotherapy- when it’s of quality- is way preferable to taking prescribed drugs (aka meds).

But sometimes, in some contexts, meds save lives.

I want the best for you, Confused.

💊’or-not. ✌️ ☮️ Anita

You are welcome, Confused 🙂

I think that it can only help (and not at all hurt) if you relax as much as you can, be as patient as you can be and take your side in all this, meaning practice empathy for yourself, Empathy 4 Confused 🫶

✨ 🌼 💫 Anita