Peggy, Her brother is not my manager nor does he have the power to fire me. Plus, even if he did, and theoretically a relationship did happen and went bad and I did get fired because of it, there would be grounds for unfair dismissal.

Anita, thanks I’ll just continue to be my best self and see what happens. Ultimately it’s just a girl (albeit a very attractive one) and if nothing happens then it’s not life changing or anything.

Mark, I think it could be a little too soon. And if I did do that and she said no I’d feel incredibly paranoid in work.

Overall I tend to overthink myself into this kind of mindset. I really just need to let go and stop creating situations in my head that may not even happen, rightly or wrongly.

In the meantime I’m dating other girls and enjoying myself. So it’s not like I’m desperate or deprived or anything.

Hi guys, thanks for the replies,

Circumstances have changed though, and things are feeling better than they were before.

A few developments and points to note..

I’m now partnered up with her. As I’m off for 3 weeks from next week I promised her I’d spend the rest of the week helping her whilst she eases into the new job. So, I’m literally sat beside her all day long coaching her and being her fall-back as she talks to customers on the phone.

Oh yeah, about the 3 weeks I’m taking off, she really doesn’t like this and would much prefer it if I stayed. It does pain me to leave at this time, but it’s a project I just can’t afford to miss out on as it’s worth 5k. She has joked that she’s going to get her manager brother to make me stay. She just really wants and needs me there, and I really wish I was able to, but the timing was just wrong. We have been having touchy feely light hearted inside jokes etc, stuff that makes me want her more.

Aside from this, things are mostly cool now and my anxiety is evaporating. Except for small things like I get a jealous feeling when any other guys flirt with her, particularly one who is my friend, he’s basically a rival in this instance as all 3 of us are single.

She also brought me in a gift today. A really good set of headphones her family brought her back from holiday last week. I told her I needed a new set and she gave me them. So generous of her.

I’m just going to do my best to train her as best I can over the next 2 days so that she’s more confident in the job, because as I’m leaving for 3 weeks I do feel bad for her because she want’s me to be there more than anyone else. I do think the 3 days coaching her will build somewhat of a bond, but then it’s being severed by my 3 weeks off. I’m also worried the 3 weeks will change things in a negative way. But hopefully not.

I’ll be keeping in touch with her during the 3 weeks though.

Hi Anita,

Yes thank you I will remain aware of my surroundings and not try to change my own behaviour and actions to try and be someone I’m not, by way of “competing” with anyone else.

It is a nice friendly work relationship. Whether or not anything happens between us or not, it’s not like it’s the end of the world if not, but I do fancy her a lot.

Dan.