my lover and I tried hooking up all weekend. Past Friday we couldn’t because the next morning he had get ready for a wedding he was in. Yesterday I text him about hooking up today but he was ready to see me then. I was ready because I had other priorities.If I had of known I would have made other arrangements. When I am ready he is busy and vice versa. I texted him about today if he is free and waiting on response. I have feeling he is busy .
Having read your multiple threads about your friend-with-benefits relationship, given the fact that you are both close to 50, I am guessing that you had a series of disappointing experiences with men throughout your life and this is why you settled into expecting nothing much. And that this is why you are so focused on this nothing-much relationship.
Perhaps if you were busy for a week your lover would be more keen to see you when YOU were available. Start telling him that you need at least three days notice. You sound as if you are texting every day to see which one of you is available. There is such a thing as being “too” available and you seem to have fallen into that trap. Be a little less available to him – that’s my advice.
Um did you just see my post? I work 2 jobs I am least available . He have way more time than I do. I had to be the one to say I am unable to. The last post just stated that he was ready and I have priorities . If I wasn’t able to see him because of a hum bug than I am busy. Plenty of times we can’t because I go straight into a second job after first so I never have time. When I do is when I try to see if he is open as to my schedule.