Posts tagged with “wisdom”
8 Signs Youâre Carrying Deep Shame and How to Start to Heal
“If you put shame in a petri dish, it needs three ingredients to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence, and judgment. If you put the same amount of shame in the petri dish and douse it with empathy, it canât survive.â ~BrenĂ© Brown
Did you know that one of the biggest causes of suffering is unacknowledged shame? It makes us believe that thereâs something wrong with us and weâre not good enough.
When we have deep shame inside, instead of being true to ourselves, we âdress to impressâ so others will like us, which eventually makes us tired, depressed, and anxious because …
When Youâre Terrified of Conflict: Why True Intimacy Means Speaking Up
“Conflict avoidance is not the hallmark of a good relationship. On the contrary, it is a symptom of serious problems and of poor communication.â ~Harriet B. Braiker
I walk on eggshells in my relationship. I have for the past ten years.
I try to design everything out of my mouth to lead to the least amount of friction between my wife and me. And you know what? Itâs hurting our relationship.
You see, Iâm afraid of confrontation. For me, confrontation leads to tension and tension can lead to stress and angst.
When I was a kid, tension, stress, and angst …
How I Freed Myself from Anger by Owning it Instead of Blaming Others
âThe opposite of anger is not calmness. Itâs empathy.â ~Mehmet Oz
In December last year, I went to India to study yoga and meditation. About a week into my training, I noticed I was becoming increasingly angry.
I thought that coming to this peaceful and supportive place would be all about gentle healing while perfecting my yoga practice. Instead, I was furious, very negative, and frustrated with everything.
Eventually, I talked to my teachers and shared what I was going through since I was becoming worried. They explained that since the training was intense and we were doing lots of …
How I Reclaimed My Introversion as a Superpower Instead of Feeling Inadequate
âWe are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light.â ~Mary Dunbar
âI donât want to sit by Teresa. She doesnât talk.â
Ouch.
I was ten years old and at a fundraising dinner for my travel softball team.
It was that dreaded moment after I had gotten my plate of chicken, mashed potatoes, and green beans, and had to choose a seat at a big table.
I sat down next to my teammate, whom I looked up to. She was two years older than me. She was …
How to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed by Other Peopleâs Strong Emotions
âIt is not your responsibility to figure out what someone else is feeling and why. Let go of the illusion that âfixingâ their bad mood will make you feel better.â ~Sarah Crosby
Some years ago, I was talking to my husband on the phone. He sounded annoyed about something to do with his work, but I noticed an intense emotional reaction in myself. Immediately, my heart contracted and my stomach lurched. I could feel a runaway train of emotions activate within me.
My whole body was awash with nausea, and I felt so very uncomfortable.Â
This was a familiar and …
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