Posts tagged with “wisdom”
How Iâve Navigated My Grief and Guilt Since Losing My Narcissistic Father
“One of the greatest awakenings comes when you realize that not everybody changes. Some people never change. And thatâs their journey. Itâs not yours to try and fix it for them.â ~Unknown
In 2021 my father died. Cancer of⊠so many things.
Most of the events during that time are a blur, but the emotions that came with them are vivid and unrelenting.
I was the first in my family to find out.
My mother and sister had gone on an off-grid week-long getaway up the West Coast of South Africa, where thereâs nothing …
To All the Highly Sensitive Souls Out There â The World Needs You
“Highly sensitive beings suffer more but they also love harder, dream wider and experience deeper horizons and bliss. When youâre sensitive, youâre alive in every sense of this word in this wildly beautiful world. Sensitivity is your strength. Keep soaking in the light and spreading it to others.â ~Victoria Erickson
I am lying next to my son in his bed before turning the light off one night, in that relaxed space between awake and asleep where he allows himself to feel and share. He tells me that he feels very lonely at school.
He shares his loneliness in the middle …
One Thing We Need to Survive Crisis, Loss, and Trauma
“What man actually needs is not a tensionless state but rather the striving and struggling for a worthwhile goal, a freely chosen task.” ~Viktor Frankl
A couple of years ago, I was sitting in my little mountain cottage, writing away on a new novel. It was a cold and dark February afternoon. So, first, I felt pleasantly surprised when I saw something bright lighting up behind me: I thought it was the sun coming out. But when I turned around, I noticed that my porch was on fire!
Before I knew what was happening, I was standing out in the …
How I Learned That My Pain is Valid and Worthy of My Own Empathy and Love
âSit with it. Sit with it. Sit with it. Sit with it. Even though you want to run. Even when itâs heavy and difficult. Even though youâre not quite sure of the way through. Healing happens by feeling.â ~Dr. Rebecca Ray
Itâs July 2022 and Iâm in the middle of a red tent at Shambala Music Festival in British Columbia.
I sit elbow to elbow, knee to knee, heart to heart with a group of women who I am meeting for the first time.
Itâs hot and weâre sweaty.
A teacher is leading a healing womb meditation, and she prompts …
3 Life-Changing Insights for Control Freaks (Lessons from an Ant Infestation)
âFreedom is what you do with what’s been done to you.â Â ~Jean-Paul Sartre
âSo did you figure out what your shadow totem is?â
This was the first thing out of my husbandâs friendâs mouth as I sat down to dinner at a local downtown restaurant, across from my husband and a couple friends we were meeting up with.
I laughed at the choice of question but then paused with wide eyes and replied, âYES, I DID! Oh my gosh. Itâs an ant!â
The backstory is that we had previously had a conversation about animal symbolism, and how figuring out …
How I Found Forgiveness and Compassion When I Felt Hurt and Betrayed
“I can bear any pain as long as it has meaning.” ~Haruki Murakami
Iâve always felt like someone on the outside. Despite having these feelings Iâve been relatively successful at playing the game of life, and have survived through school, university, and the workplaceâalthough, at times, working so hard to âsurviveâ has impacted my emotional well-being.
I have been lucky enough to have healthy and supportive relationships with a few loved ones who have accepted me as I am (quirks and all). To anyone else Iâve come across, I suspect Iâve been perceived as inexplicably normal and inoffensive.
Like many …
I Donât Know Who I Am: How Iâm Finding Myself Again After the Abuse
âWhen you turn the corner / And you run into yourself / Then you know that you have turned / All the corners that are left.â ~Langston Hughes
Nearly two years ago I left a long-term controlling and abusive relationship.
I didnât know that I was in one. I just knew that I was desperate.
Abusers take everything away from you. I donât just mean your money or your home or your children, although they take those as well. I mean everything, including your sense of self.
Toward the end of the relationship, I wrote in my journal: âI …
How I Claimed My Right to Belong While Dealing with Imposter Syndrome
TRIGGER WARNING: This post briefly references sexual abuse.
âNever hold yourself back from trying something new just because youâre afraid you wonât be good enough. Youâll never get the opportunity to do your best work if youâre not willing to first do your worst and then let yourself learn and grow.â ~Lori Deschene
The year 2022 was the hardest of my life. And I survived a brain tumor before that.
My thirtieth year started off innocently enough. I was living with my then-boyfriend in Long Beach and had a nice ring on my finger. The relationship had developed quickly, but …
Thinner is Not Better – Healthy, Connected, and Happy Is
âStandards of beauty are arbitrary. Body shame exists only to the extent that our physiques donât match our own beliefs about how we should look.â ~Martha Beck
I have so many women around me right nowâfriends, mothers, clients that are on a dietâconstantly talking about their weight and how their bodies look, struggling with body image.
I am profoundly sad about the frequency and theme of those discussions.
At the same time, I deeply get it; it is hard to detach from our conditioning.
I too struggled with body image at one point in my life, and for a very …
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