Posts tagged with “wisdom”
Why We Should Look Forward to More of Each Day
āUse your smile to change the world; donāt let the world change your smile.ā ~Unknown
For most of us the average day includes a mix of things we both look forward to and things we donāt look forward to. We look forward to coffee in the morning, we regret that we have to go to work; we look forward to coming home at the end of the day, we dislike that we have to do laundry.
But how much of your life are you giving up if you dread, dislike, regret and donāt look forward to, say, 50% of your …
Surrendering to Things We Canāt Control or Change
āEvery day brings a choice: to practice stress or to practice peace.ā ~Joan Borysenko
Iāve always sped through life. Iāve always been ready to take on the next moment, that new place, make a new memory.
Iām an obsessive planner. I love control. Seriously, I love the feeling of researching and executing a plan flawlessly. It makes me feel like itās all worth something, or it gives my life meaning. Nothing satisfies me more than being able to check that next ālife goalā off the multiple checklists I create.
This idea of getting to the next place and achieving as …
In the Garden of Happiness: Available for Pre-Order
Over the past year, I’ve shared countless uplifting picture quotesĀ from the Positive Outlooks Facebook page, loved and followed by millions. It’s a treasure trove of wisdom, motivation, and inspiration, in large part due to the vision of its founder, Dodinsky.
He’s planning to release his second book in January, a follow-up to his bestselling inspirational book In the Garden of Thoughts. If you’re lookingĀ to start the new year with a jolt of positivity, I highly recommend pre-ordering In the Garden of Happiness!
How I’m Getting Past Internal Resistance So I Can Live a Life I Love
āYour actions are your only true belongings.ā ~Allan Lokos
This is not a piece about a person who has already finished her journey. I am not here to tell you that Iāve emerged from a dark place into a place of ease, or that Iāve discovered a profound new way of being that shields me from daily stresses.
I wish I could tell you those things. I love to read about successes like that.
Instead, I am in a messy stage of my journey, holding on to the glimmers of joy that I feel throughout each day, dreaming and journaling…
When You Want to Make a Change but Feel Confused and Scared
āOnce you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.ā ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Have you ever had an inner knowing that it was time to make some life changes, but you felt too confused to make them?
Iāve certainly felt that way a time or two. After I graduated college years ago, I felt completely confused about what I was going to do with my life. I was asking myself questions like: How am I going to find meaning? What should I do for a career? How can I make my dreams a reality?
But what if you …
Finding Calm in this Busy, Chaotic World
“At any given moment, you have the power to say: This is not how the story is going to end.” ~Christine Mason Miller
A while back I was completely overwhelmed. I was drowning in conflicting work commitments, our son’s crazy end of term schedule, over-commitment to a volunteer role, and a pounding headache I just couldn’t shift. Everything was about to go seriously pear-shaped if I didn’t do something stat!
Now, if you knew me you’d know I am a “fixer.” So, because I fix things all the time (usually for other people!) I decided to book myself in for …
How To Respond When Someone Takes Advantage of You
āYou may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.ā ~Maya Angelou
Several months ago, I moved into a new house. During the inspection of my old house, I was expecting to receive my whole security deposit back.
I didnāt. The landlady took advantage of the situation and withheld part of my deposit.
She charged me the price of cleaning the whole house even though I was only renting a room in the house. And she charged for me something that was already damaged when I moved in, falsely …
Pacing Yourself When You Want the Pain to Stop
āThe intensity of the pain depends on the degree of resistance to the present moment.ā ~Eckhart Tolle
I was in pain.
My legs hurt, I felt nauseated, my heart thumped hard and fast, and I labored for every breath.
I was halfway up a steep, three-mile hill, and I was so exhausted I could barely keep my bike upright.
My mind tried desperately to solve this problem: āShould I stop? I should stop. No! Iāve done this hill in the past without stoppingāwhatās the problem this time? I hate this! Why is this so painful?ā
I glanced over at my …
How I Broke Free from Depression When I Felt Suicidal
āIām stronger because of the hard times, wiser because of my mistakes, and happier because I have known sadness.ā ~Unknown
I was diagnosed with clinical depression and prescribed anti-depressants when I was twenty-one years old. I refer to this point in my life as the āDark Ages.ā
Leading up to grad school, Iād suddenly become afflicted with incomprehensible despair.
At seventeen, for the first time (at least for the first time I could remember), I considered suicide. I felt as if life shouldāve been more than what it was. I had a deep sense that I was supposed to …
A Beginnerās Guide To Trying New Things
āTo be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest.ā ~Pema Chodron
I have a confession: I was really scared of trying yoga for the first time.
I know, I know, itās not exactly bungee jumping or skydiving, activities that warrant a certain amount of fear. In fact, yoga seems downright tame by comparison. But I was still scared nonetheless.
Someone recommended the age-old practice to me to stretch out my perpetually tight hamstrings and strengthen my bad knee. But instead of jumping at the chance to heal my body through gentle, …
Wisdom from a 6-Year-Old About Living Without Regrets
Are you living the life you’ll want to see when you reflect backĀ at ninety years old? Studies show that the biggest regret from elderly people on their deathbed is not what they did; it’s what they didn’t do: the risks they never took.
How to Let Go of Guilt and Regret and Forgive Yourself
āForgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.ā ~Paul Boes
In October of 2010 I was engaged after only three weeks of dating. I was scared to tell my family, but I was terrified to tell my father. My parents divorced when I was five, and I couldn’t spendĀ weekends at Dadās because he lived thousands of miles away. I saved him for last and decided to take the cowardly way out by emailing him.
It was not the best decision Iāve ever made. Not only did it infuriate and hurt him, it ended up producing …
Letting Go of the Past So You Can Be Reborn
“In the end what matters most is: How well did you live? How well did you love? How well did you learn to let go?” ~Unknown
In a matter of days, it was all gone: the role in a company I adored, the future I had imagined, and our friend Max, so loved by all who knew him.
The loss washed over me in a sudden gust. I was being called to begin again, to re-examine what I thought was important. And, in facing the feelings that arose with being stripped abruptly of these attachments, the inessential was forced to …
A Warning and a Gift for Anyone Who Isnāt Pursuing Their Dreams
āLetting go of the past means that you can enjoy the dream that is happening right now.ā ~Don Miguel Ruiz
I grew up on a small cattle farm in the very small farming town of Savannah, Missouri with my grandfather and great grandparents.
My great grandmotherĀ used to sit outside on the back porch and string green beans or peel apples when the weather was mild, a worn dish towel over her knee and an ancient paring knife moving with practiced ease. As a very small child I would often sit with her, watching, andĀ sometimes we would talk.
One …
Stop Feeling Powerless and Start Powerfully Creating Your Life
āYou are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.ā ~Yogi Bhajan
Some might say I was a late bloomer. I only discovered how powerful I really was at twenty-nine.
My childhood and teenage years were horrific; I was severely bullied from when I first walked through the school gates to when I left for the last time. In my early formative years I was laughed at, verbally abused, and completely socially isolated.
I was the equivalent of a lepper. No one wanted to be my friend for fear they would “catch” what I had and be bullied themselves. …
Why Life Is A Lot More Fun When We Stop Trying to Be Perfect
āThe thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.ā ~Anna Quindlen
āOh, my god,ā she said, āI forgot to shave my left leg!ā
That may not sound like a particularly dramatic announcement, but Jenny and I were sharing a seat on the chartered bus taking our senior class to the beach for āSenior Cut Dayā a few weeks before graduation, and her discovery horrified me.
An unshaved leg, it seemed to me at the time, was scandalous in the extreme.
Had it been me who forgot to …
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