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  • How to Cultivate Awareness and Presence, Two Powerful Tools for Healing

    How to Cultivate Awareness and Presence, Two Powerful Tools for Healing

    “The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive, you will see it.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh

    In our fast-paced world, juggling multiple responsibilities while managing chronic conditions can make healing seem elusive. However, by harnessing the power of awareness and presence, we can unlock a profound path to recovery that addresses not just the physical symptoms but also the mental and emotional aspects of well-being.

    My Experience with Chronic Pain

    For a long time, I never really thought about my scoliosis. Not that I didn’t feel pain; it was ever-present and intensified by the demands of my busy career, family responsibilities, and a couple of car accidents.

    As I climbed the corporate ladder and juggled family needs, I neglected self-care. Frequent pain flares forced me to take more time off from daily activities, leading me to realize that my struggles were not solely physical.

    What began as occasional aches turned into never-ending pain accompanied by a fear of movement, leaving me bedridden and wondering how I had reached that point.

    Desperate to change, I started researching the role of the brain and nervous system in processing pain. I learned that stress and anxiety can amplify pain signals, making discomfort feel more intense and persistent. Understanding this connection became crucial to my healing journey.

    I soon realized that healing required more than merely managing or controlling symptoms; it involved understanding and changing the patterns contributing to my pain.

    For years, I tried various treatments and therapies, but the relief was often temporary. Recognizing specific patterns—like dealing with stress, pushing through activities, and failing to fuel my body—became key to my recovery.

    Mindfulness and presence emerged as powerful tools in this journey. At first, mindfulness didn’t come easily; my busy mind was adept at conjuring up ideas and plans, leaving me unaware of my ability to quiet those thoughts. However, after years of internal chatter, I found freedom in stillness.

    Over time, I noticed how this practice allowed my body to rest. By embracing mindfulness, I transformed my relationship with pain.

    The Mind-Body Connection in Healing

    To truly understand the importance of awareness and presence in healing, it’s essential to recognize the intricate connection between our minds and bodies. Neuroscience has shown that our thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations are deeply intertwined, forming a complex feedback loop that can either perpetuate illness or promote healing.

    When we’re constantly caught up in the whirlwind of daily life, rushing from one task to another, it’s easy to disconnect from our bodies. This disconnection can lead to a lack of awareness of the subtle signals our bodies send us, potentially exacerbating existing health issues or creating new ones. By cultivating awareness and presence, we can tune into these signals and respond appropriately, setting the stage for healing.

    The Role of Awareness in Healing

    Awareness is the foundation of any healing journey. It involves consciously paying attention to thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations without judgment. This practice has been essential in my own healing process, allowing me to:

    • Identify patterns: By becoming aware of habitual thoughts and behaviors, I’ve been able to recognize patterns that contribute to pain or discomfort.
    • Detect early warning signs: Increased body awareness helps me notice subtle changes in my physical state, allowing for earlier intervention and prevention of flare-ups.
    • Understand triggers: Awareness helps me identify environmental, emotional, or situational triggers that may exacerbate symptoms.
    • Recognize the impact of stress: By tuning into my body’s stress responses, I’ve learned to manage stress more effectively, reducing its negative impact on health.
    • Make informed choices: Increased awareness enables better decisions about diet, activities, and self-care practices.

    Cultivating Presence for Healing

    While awareness is about noticing, presence is about fully engaging with the present moment. Being here now, without getting caught up in worries about the future or regrets about the past, has been crucial in my healing journey because:

    • It reduces stress: When I’m fully present, I’m not ruminating on past pain or anticipating future discomfort, which significantly reduces stress and anxiety.
    • It enhances body-mind communication: Being present allows me to listen more closely to my body’s signals and respond with greater compassion and understanding.
    • It improves pain management: I’ve found that mindfulness and presence can alter pain perception and increase pain tolerance.
    • It boosts the effectiveness of my movement practice: When I’m present during exercises, I’m more likely to stay and feel my body and derive maximum benefit.
    • It fosters a sense of agency over my life: Presence empowers me to take an active role in healing, rather than feeling helpless or overwhelmed by my condition.

    Practical Techniques for Cultivating Awareness and Presence

    Over time, I’ve developed several techniques that help me cultivate awareness and presence. These practices have become essential tools in my healing journey:

    1. Mindful Breathing

    Setting aside five to ten minutes each day to focus on my breath helps me stay connected to the present moment. I notice the sensation of air moving in and out of my nostrils, the rise and fall of my chest or belly, and gently bring my attention back to my breath when my mind wanders.

    2. Body Scan Meditation

    This practice involves systematically focusing attention on different parts of the body, from toes to the top of the head. It’s an excellent way to increase body awareness and identify areas of tension or discomfort.

    3. Pain Reprocessing Techniques

    Chronic pain is often maintained by the brain’s learned neural pathways rather than ongoing tissue damage. By bringing awareness to my pain and reframing my relationship with it, I’ve begun to rewire these pathways. Observing pain with curiosity rather than fear or frustration has helped reduce the emotional charge associated with it.

     4. Mindful Movement

    Incorporating mindfulness into physical activities enhances body awareness and promotes healing. Whether it’s gentle yoga, tai chi, or simply paying close attention to my body during daily activities and walking, mindful movement has become a key part of my routine.

     5. Emotional Awareness Exercises

    Developing emotional awareness has helped me manage stress and anxiety more effectively. Throughout the day, I check in with my emotions, asking myself how I’m feeling and where I feel this emotion in my body.

     6. Mindful Eating

    Applying awareness and presence to my eating habits has improved digestion, helped me make healthier food choices, and fostered a better relationship with food. During meals, I eat without distractions, paying attention to the colors, smells, textures, and tastes of my food.

    7. Daily Gratitude Practice

    Cultivating gratitude shifts my focus from what’s wrong to what’s right, promoting a positive mindset that supports healing. My morning journaling practice includes writing down three to ten things I’m grateful for. This practice helps bring my awareness to the present and the positive aspects of my life.

    Integrating Awareness and Presence into Daily Life

    While dedicated practice times are valuable, I’ve found that the real power of awareness and presence comes from integrating them into daily life.

    One way I’ve done this is by using daily activities as mindfulness anchors, choosing routine activities, like brushing my teeth or daily walking, to practice full presence and awareness.

    I’ve also created transition rituals, using the moments between activities (like getting in and out of the car) as cues to take a few conscious breaths and center myself.

    Lastly, I engage my senses whenever possible. Regularly, I take a moment to notice what I can see, hear, smell, taste, and feel. This simple practice quickly brings me into the present moment.

    Overcoming Challenges

    Cultivating awareness and presence isn’t always easy, especially when dealing with chronic pain or the demands of daily life.

    Whenever I think I don’t have time, I remind myself that even a few mindful breaths can make a difference. Starting small and gradually increasing practice time has helped.

    When my mind won’t stop racing, I remind myself that this is normal. The goal isn’t to stop thoughts but to notice them without getting caught up in them. I gently redirect my attention to my chosen focus (like my breath) whenever I notice my mind has wandered.

    And when it felt too uncomfortable to focus on my body in the beginning due to the pain I was experiencing, I started with brief periods and focused on neutral or pleasant sensations, gradually building up tolerance for being present with discomfort.

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    Awareness and presence are powerful tools in the healing journey. By cultivating these practices, I’ve transformed my relationship with pain, fatigue, and anxiety, allowing me to reclaim my life and fully engage in the activities I love. Healing is not just about alleviating symptoms; it’s about reconnecting with the body, understanding its needs, and responding with compassion and wisdom.

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  • How I’m Learning to Live with Anxiety, Not Against It

    How I’m Learning to Live with Anxiety, Not Against It

    “Your anger? It’s telling you where you feel powerless. Your anxiety? It’s telling you that something in your life is off balance. Your fear? It’s telling you what you care about. Your apathy? It’s telling you where you’re overextended and burnt out. Your feelings aren’t random, they are messengers. And if you want to get anywhere, you need to be able to let them speak to you and tell you what you really need.” ~Brianna Wiest

    For half of my life, anxiety has been my constant companion. I went from a confident, fiery, and fearless girl to a woman plagued by self-doubt and paralyzed by fear.

    My struggle with anxiety began in college. A sudden shift in my living situation flipped a switch in my brain, leaving me unrecognizable to myself. I found myself living in a toxic environment with roommates who caused so much chaos that I no longer felt safe in my own home.

    This constant state of unease triggered the anxiety that would follow me for years. Instead of acknowledging it, I tried to outrun it. I looked outward for solutions, turning to the law of attraction and other quick-fix spiritual practices, but they only made me feel worse about myself.

    Chronic stress and anxiety wreaked havoc on my body. I experienced severe digestive pain, tingling in my hands and feet, dizziness, nausea, and a myriad of other symptoms. I sought help from doctors, naturopaths, and specialists, but no one could find anything wrong with me.

    Deep down, I couldn’t accept that anxiety might be the cause. I convinced myself that there had to be something seriously wrong with my health. Because I didn’t acknowledge that anxiety was behind it all, the symptoms only intensified.

    I would go months without symptoms, only to be hit by a new wave of terrifying sensations. The anxiety always returned, stronger than before. It felt like a never-ending cycle.

    Then, COVID-19 hit, a perfect storm for my anxiety. Not only was I navigating a global pandemic with a young child, but we were also in the middle of building a new home—a process delayed by the pandemic. We were moving to a completely different city, living out of boxes in a rental house while waiting for our new home to be completed.

    My anxiety surged as I dealt with virtual school for our six-year-old. And then came the most devastating news: My mother was diagnosed with bladder cancer.

    My parents moved into the rental house with us because their house had flooded. Watching my mom deteriorate from cancer only intensified my anxiety. My mother’s diagnosis wasn’t the only encounter I had with cancer; it started to feel like it was everywhere. The constant presence of illness and death heightened my anxiety, making me hyper-aware of every ache and pain.

    Insomnia became my nightly companion, lasting nearly a year. Some nights, I wouldn’t sleep at all.

    Anxiety about not sleeping became as overwhelming as my general anxiety. As bedtime approached, my chest grew heavy with dread. I cried all night, feeling utterly alone. When the world sleeps and you’re wide awake, the loneliness is crushing. It was just me and my millions of thoughts.

    Desperate to shut off my brain, I turned to a nightly glass of wine. I tried various supplements, but they only wreaked havoc on my body, causing my liver enzymes to rise and bringing a host of other health issues.

    Anxiety didn’t just change me; it affected every part of my life, especially my marriage. My husband, who was always calm and patient, started to become stressed and short-tempered because of my constant worry and fear.

    My anxiety created tension between us, and we were no longer the carefree couple we once were. Our conversations often revolved around my fears, and I could see how much it was weighing on him.

    As a mother, my anxiety took away the joy of being with my son. Instead of enjoying time with him, I found myself snapping at him, my patience worn thin by the constant state of unease I was in.

    I spent every day researching, desperate to find a magic cure. I tried cognitive behavioral therapy, tapping, and affirmations. But nothing worked. Though CBT has helped many, it wasn’t right for me.

    Trying to replace my negative thoughts with positive ones felt like plastering over cracks in a crumbling wall. The positive thoughts didn’t feel genuine; they felt like a temporary mask.

    Then I discovered Jon Kabat-Zinn. His books became my lifeline, introducing me to mindfulness and meditation. Slowly, these practices became a part of my daily life. I learned to befriend my emotions instead of running from them or burying them deep inside.

    I invited my anxiety to tea and listened to her worries. I hugged my fear and told her she’s not weak. I asked my anger what she’s holding onto and allowed her to scream and cry. I wrote letters to each of my emotions, and they wrote back.

    We cried together, and for the first time, my emotions felt seen and heard. I was no longer afraid of them; they became a part of me—a part of what makes me human.

    For the past five years, meditation and mindfulness have been my anchors. No, they haven’t cured my anxiety, but they’ve changed my relationship with it. Anxiety no longer controls my life. Instead of spiraling into panic, I ask myself, “What am I feeling? Where in my body do I feel this emotion?”

    These simple questions ground me, bringing me back to the present moment. By labeling the feeling, I strip away much of its power. I tell myself, “I’m feeling anxious, and that’s okay.” I repeat this until I feel calm.

    Sometimes, I even picture my anxiety as a physical presence—a person who needs love, patience, and understanding. I ask this person, “What do you need at this moment?” More often than not, the answer is simple: love.

    My anxiety, like all emotions, wants to be recognized, to be heard without judgment. Sometimes, it just needs a moment to be, to exist without being pushed away.

    Another tool that has been incredibly helpful for me is the STOP method by Jon Kabat-Zinn. Whenever I feel anxiety creeping in, I pause and STOP: Stop what I’m doing, Take a deep breath, Observe what’s happening inside and around me, and then Proceed with awareness. This simple technique helps break the cycle of anxious thoughts, grounding me in the present moment.

    I believe all our emotions seek acknowledgment and understanding. They want to be recognized without judgment. Sometimes they just need a moment to breathe, to exist in a safe space where they can shift from overwhelming to understood. They want to know you won’t abandon them but rather guide them gently toward clarity.

    Looking back, I realize that anxiety has changed me in ways I never expected. It has made me more empathetic toward others who are struggling with their own battles. I’ve learned that everyone is carrying something heavy, even if they don’t show it on the outside.

    My anxiety has also taught me the importance of self-compassion. I used to be my own harshest critic, but now I’m learning to be kinder to myself, to give myself the grace to be imperfect.

    Even though I’ve learned tools to manage my anxiety, it’s still a part of my life. There are days when the anxiety feels overwhelming, and the old fears creep back in. On those days, I remind myself that healing isn’t a straight line—it’s okay to have setbacks.

    When I feel the familiar wave of anxiety, I turn to the practices that I’ve learned. Mindfulness, the STOP method, and self-compassion. I let myself feel what I’m feeling without judgment, and I focus on small, actionable steps to bring myself back to the present moment.

    What keeps me motivated is knowing that I’ve come this far. Every setback is a chance to practice the tools I’ve learned, and each time I do, I’m reminded of my strength and resilience. My journey with anxiety is ongoing, but with each day, I grow more capable of handling whatever comes my way.

    Your emotions don’t define you—they are a part of you. A sign that you are alive and deeply human. Embracing them, rather than battling them, has brought me peace, and I hope it can do the same for you.

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  • It’s Never Too Late to Change: How to Reinvent Yourself in Midlife

    It’s Never Too Late to Change: How to Reinvent Yourself in Midlife

    “Don’t be afraid to start over. This time you’re not starting from scratch, you’re starting from experience.” ~Unknown

    Five years ago, as I approached my fortieth birthday, I was deeply dissatisfied with my life.

    I resolved to change everything: to leave San Francisco, where I’d lived for nearly a decade, and to shift my career trajectory, finally committing to my passion—writing.

    I also vowed to address my intimacy issues in friendships and romantic relationships. This desire led to countless online dates and deeper introspection, particularly regarding the impact of my mother’s death when I was a teenager and the emotional distance between my father and me.

    That period of reflection allowed me to confront my deeper insecurities and desires head-on, compelling me to look in the mirror and decide what changes I could make to lead a more aligned life. Age was a factor as I considered how I wanted to live the second half of my life.

    Ultimately, it came down to honestly assessing and accepting where I was at that juncture and then changing what was within my control.

    Coming to Terms with Being Single and Child-Free

    When I was in my early thirties, a good friend’s mother encouraged me to have children because she claimed I would regret it later. As I approached forty and reflected on being childfree by choice, I didn’t regret my childless existence.

    I did face the social stigma of being “single and childfree” in my forties, though. Friends would comment about single people in their late thirties or forties, suggesting something must be “wrong” with them if they were still single. I wanted to challenge that assumption.

    Some people, due to past traumas, might fear intimacy, but that doesn’t mean there’s something inherently wrong with them. Others, I believe, might genuinely prefer the single life.

    I was content with my decision not to have children and grateful that being childfree enabled me to make changes, like moving to Santa Fe in my early forties, which might not have been as easy with children. That move had an incredibly positive impact on my life, as being in “The Land of Enchantment” opened the doors to a profoundly satisfying creative life.

    Intentionally Shaping My Life

    I undertook a “life audit” and reflected on different aspects of my life. Granted, I didn’t conquer everything at once, but I slowly changed various areas of my life. For example, I first addressed that I wasn’t happy in San Francisco and started to reflect on what type of environment would suit me.

    Next, I looked at my career and acknowledged that I wanted to devote more time to my personal writing. So, I tried to find a job that would provide a stable income yet wouldn’t drain me and instead allow me to focus on my creative life. I did want to one day be in a healthy relationship, so I understood that this might take effort on my part—acknowledging my barriers to intimacy and reflecting on how previous relationships went wrong.

    Slowly, I began to work through various aspects of my life, and I could see that as I became more intentional about where I invested my time and energy and where I focused my thoughts, my life began to shift.

    Embracing the Process of Self-Discovery

    My inner work during the last five years (I’ll turn forty-five later this year) led me to a life with balance, purpose, and meaning. During those years, I felt I looked in the mirror, reconciled parts of my past, and reclaimed my future.

    I learned that it is never too late to change the trajectory of my life. While it hasn’t been easy, the journey to where I am now has been profoundly enriching.

    Today, my nervous system has shifted from fight-or-flight mode to a stable resting place, allowing me to fully appreciate what I’ve created: a remote job, my writing career, my community, and the new place I call home.

    I recognize that the “life audit” I undertook at forty brought me to where I am today, and I know this kind of transformation is possible for anyone who dares to reinvent themselves in midlife.

    Five Steps to Reinvention

    Below are five steps that might help you in your midlife transition.

    1. Be honest with yourself.

    Embrace where your life has led you, acknowledging successes and challenges. I recommend conducting a life audit and reflecting on all aspects of it, then asking a trusted friend to review it.

    Are you happy with your job or career? Are you satisfied with your relationships? Does your life feel meaningful? Do you like where you live? Assess which areas you feel content with and where you could improve your life. Consider creating a detailed list of these aspects and rating them on a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the most satisfying.

    2. Practice self-forgiveness.

    Release guilt or regret by forgiving yourself for past decisions and focusing on the lessons learned. Avoid the trap of thinking you should be at a certain point by a certain age—it’s not helpful.

    If there are areas in your life where you feel changes are needed, know that with some effort, you can make the improvements you desire. Not forgiving yourself could lead to resentment, which will not provide a natural flow to your life or the right energy to create the desired shifts.

    Self-forgiveness is not just about letting go; it’s about feeling a sense of accomplishment for overcoming past challenges.

    3. Prioritize your goals.

    After completing your life audit, identify the changes you want to make and focus on those that matter most to your growth and happiness. You may not be able to change everything at once, so concentrate on manageable areas. Prioritizing your goals is not just about setting targets; it’s about being focused and determined to make the changes that will lead to a more fulfilling life.

    For example, if you want to move and change jobs, you can address both simultaneously. You could hire a coach who focuses on midlife career transitions if you’re going to begin something anew. Or, if you’re going to build a solid relationship, work with a therapist to explore obstacles and gradually become more active in online dating.

    If improving your physical health is a goal, commit more time to the gym. As I did, you’ll find that the changes we must make often become more manageable with daily progress.

    4. Embrace change.

    Welcome change as an opportunity for growth rather than something to fear. Making significant changes in your life can be scary, but that’s one of the benefits of being in midlife—you’ve already been through a lot, so you’ve likely built up enough confidence and courage to improve your life further.

    Embracing change is not just about adapting; it’s about feeling empowered to shape your life as you see fit. While change can be intimidating, trust that you’ll feel excited by the possibilities as you begin taking steps toward a more aligned life.

    5. Build a supportive network.

    Surround yourself with like-minded individuals who encourage and inspire you on your journey. Good friends or a supportive community will be invaluable during this transitional period.

    Before my fortieth birthday, I regularly convened women’s circles at my San Francisco home. I surrounded myself with like-minded women facing challenges, and they became a trusted brain trust and supportive community.

    Don’t be afraid of midlife!

    Despite being portrayed as a challenging period that one should dread, midlife, in contrast, is an exciting time when one can reflect on one’s life, use your life experience to navigate the next stage of life, and create waves of change.

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  • How I Found my True Self in the Space Between my Thoughts

    How I Found my True Self in the Space Between my Thoughts

    “I am not my thoughts, emotions, sense perceptions, and experiences. I am not the content of my life. I am Life. I am the space in which all things happen. I am consciousness. I am the Now. I Am.” ~Eckhart Tolle

    Everything changed the moment I learned I was not my thoughts.

    There I was, reading Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth, when I read this line: “What a liberation to realize that the ‘voice in my head’ is not who I am. Who am I then? The one who sees that.”

    I felt a shift. Wait, what?!? How can I not be my thoughts? Aren’t my thoughts who I am? They are in my head all day, every day. I thought they were what made me… me!

    This mind-blowing moment hit me deeply. Right then and there, I changed. Once my mind was out of the way, my true self emerged.

    For nearly forty years, I lived on autopilot. I did not like a lot of the thoughts in my head, but I had no idea that I had control over them. Instead, I cringed, tried to push them away, distracted myself by staying busy, and worked hard on my image and contributions to the world.

    My deep, shameful secret was that no one would want to know me if they knew the mean thoughts I was ruminating on in my head. I felt like a truly awful person deep down. Whoa. I am so sorry, past self, that you lived like that. I hold you in love. Deep love.

    Separating me and my thoughts has become my daily practice. I remember the first time I was able to dialogue with my thoughts. Weeks after reading that mind-blowing passage, I accidentally spilled the contents of my vacuum cleaner on the kitchen floor.

    “You’re stupid. What a mess. What a waste of time. Look what you did.” These mean words flew through my mind. I sat in the middle of the floor and put my hand on my heart.

    “Who is saying that?” I asked.

    A swirl of dark energy inside and around me got tighter and darker and meaner as it growled, “Me.”

    “What is your purpose?” I asked with a mix of curiosity and fear.

    “To keep you in line,” it sneered.

    “In line with what?” I asked.

    “You’re such a failure. You don’t know how to do anything right,” it continued.

    The swirl tightened, and I kept my hand on my heart to protect myself.

    “What do you want me to know?” I asked.

    “I have to keep you safe,” it said.

    “Who are you keeping safe?” I asked.

    Immediately, an image of myself, age eight, appeared in my mind’s eye. She was sad, sitting on the floor in the front hallway of my childhood home. My parents were at work, and my babysitter refused to do her hair before school. She had decided that at eight I was old enough to do my hair before school. This left me confused, sad, and lonely.

    “Oh, honey,” I felt my heart open to her. “What do you need?”

    She looked at me through tears and said, “Can you do my hair?” In my mind’s eye, we moved in front of the hallway mirror as I combed her hair and put it into pigtails.

    “I see you and I love you,” I told her. She looked relieved and smiled tentatively from the corner of her mouth.

    I felt my love pouring into her, and the dark swirl lifted, hovering nearby before leaving my energy field.

    As I processed this interaction with this fear of failure part that was protecting my sad inner child, I was able to stay in my conscious, healthy adult mind and release that inner voice.

    I know that the critical, egoic part came online to protect my inner child from feeling sadness and loneliness. As children, rather than judge or dismiss our caregivers as wrong, we blame ourselves, and that is what my younger self did until I reparented her. I assumed I was wrong for asking my babysitter to do my hair instead of recognizing that her neglect wasn’t my fault.

    Now, when I make a mistake or spill something, I do not hear that mean voice as strongly. If it comes up, I know how to dialogue with it.

    I have come a long way since I spilled the vacuum cleaner contents. The mean voice that once dominated my thoughts has lost its power.

    The most profound lesson I have learned is this: We are not our thoughts. We are the awareness of them, the consciousness that observes and chooses them. This knowledge allows me to step out of the stream of negative self-talk and into the spaciousness of the present moment.

    I invite you to try this. The next time you make a mistake or face a challenge, pause. Notice the thoughts that arise, but do not latch onto them. Instead, ask yourself, “Who is saying that?” In that space of awareness, you might discover, as I did, old beliefs that are ready to morph and an inner child just waiting to be noticed.

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