Start Each Day with This Thought
Source: Project Happiness
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What to Do When You Love Someone Who Hurts You
âNothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.â ~Pema Chödrön
There is a person in my life who I love with all my heart, but in this relationship I struggle to keep a full cup myself. They are family, the situation is complicated and tender. But learning to have compassion for this other person begins with having compassion for myself.
A nasty divorce spanning most of my childhood set the stage for our current situation. My mother was deeply emotionally wounded by my father, and carried that pain into her parenting of my …
Why Silence Is Often the Best Response to a Verbal Attack
âHave the maturity to sometimes know that silence is more powerful than having the last word.â ~Thema Davis
It all started with the forks.
âYou need to return my forks,â my roommate demanded one morning as I sat in the kitchen attempting to get some work done.
âI have already said that I donât have them. We told you that the other roommate has been hiding them,â I replied.
She began raising her voice at me, âI canât believe you would accuse her. Youâre just a mean, nasty person!â
I slowly turned around and said calmly, âToday is my birthday, …
You Survived
Source: Power of Positivity
How to Make Peace with the Past and Stop Being a Victim
âNever allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no oneâs definition of your life; define yourself.â ~Harvey Fienstein
Do you usually feel as if everything bad that can happen will happen, and it will happen to you?
You must be the unluckiest person on the face of the planet. Opportunities never work out. Doors that should open close in your face. Friends let you down. Bosses donât see your value. There seems to be a universal conspiracy to keep you stuck right where you are now.
You feel like your life is always going to be like this.…
How to Get the Excitement of a Fresh Start Every Day
âSince we cannot change reality, let us change the eyes which see reality.â ~Nikos Kazantzakis
One minute I was a young warrior in a guild of travelers, the next, a middle-aged aristocrat in a strange Victorian world.
A pretty standard day. Oh, did I forget to mention where I was?
I was at a role-playing convention. That was over twenty years ago. Here’s how the fun worked.
Every three to four hours, I would play a different session. That means I would become a new character and go on new adventures in another world, with different people. It was …
Ego vs. Spirit
Source: Positive Outlooks
Why We Donât Need to Try So Hard to Be Better
âTo heal a wound, you need to stop touching it.â ~Unknown
Iâve always been an overachiever. In sixth grade, I spent weeks memorizing over five pages of the poem âHoratius at the Bridgeâ for extra credit, even though I already had an A in the class.
When I started therapy in my mid-twenties to deal with depression and panic attacks, I turned my overachieving tactics to self-improvement. I spent hours journaling, going to meetings, talking to mentors, reading books, and beating myself up when I fell into old habits.
I always worried: Was I doing it right? Was I …
Increase Your Self-Love: 8 Ways to Be Good to Yourself
âYou yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection.â ~Buddha
Someone asked me a couple of years ago out of ten, how much did I love myself? I said four. I had to give my immediate, intuitive answer, as this was the honest truth.
Four! That came as a shock to me. Itâs low. I thought I was pretty good with myself. Iâm smart, multitalented, not bad looking, generally happy, I have lots of friends and enjoy life.
But now the truth began to shine. With introspection I could see why the …
Why Advice Doesnât Help When Weâre Hurting (and What Does)
“Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we’re listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand.” ~Karl A. Menninger
I remember my first call like it was yesterday.
I answered the phone, heart beating out of my chest, hand firm on a sheet of local emergency phone numbers.
The voice on the other end was full of⊠meek embarrassment.
Not exactly what I was expecting.
âUhh, Iâm really sorry⊠Iâm not, uhh⊠Iâm not suicidalâŠ. I just⊠I just had a …
Coping with Loss and Heartbreak: How to Get Through the Pain
âThe unendurable is the beginning of the curve of joy.â ~Djuna Barnes
November, 2014. A story youâve heard a million times. The person I believed with all my heart to be âthe oneâ ceased to feel the same way about me.
My heart and soul shattered, I had no desire to live, the whole works.
Having your heart broken, especially by someone you truly loved is, from my perspective, the worst kind of pain there is. It makes you lose all sense of self, reality, purpose, and faith. To me, it felt like my soul was being severed …
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