Don’t Change So People Will Like You
Source: Power of PositivityÂ
Posts tagged with “wisdom”
What Creates Abusive People and How to Release Your Anger
“The biggest problem for humanity, not only on a global level, but even for individuals, is misunderstanding.” ~Rinpoche
Through the course of the relationship he was dishonest, emotionally manipulative, and unkind. It was subtle at firstâdo we really sign up for this on the dating application? But the acts wound their way through like a slow vine that eventually kills a tree. When it ended, he handled it atrociously.
It took me many months to process it all, facing things I had suppressed in denial. When the shock wore off, I had a desire to let him know how he …
The Keys to Finding Happiness After a Traumatic Childhood
âIt is never to late to have a happy childhood.â ~Tom Robbins
A few days ago, when my older brother and I were sorting through old family photos, we found a picture of us from when we were about five and six years old. We were smiling. Just two kids full of life with no idea of what was to come.
This was before the start of all the rageâbefore all the pain and an unfortunate series of events.
My childhood was rough. I know some people may wish to return to those young innocent years of playing outside …
Trust Yourself
Source: Spirit Science
Who Says We Have To Be Happy All the Time?
âDevelop a mind that is vast like the water, where experiences both pleasant and unpleasant can appear and disappear without conflict, struggle, or harm. Rest in a mind like vast water.â ~Buddha
When I think about having to be happy all of the time, I feel a certain kind of pressure. Sure, itâs different now then it was. But that doesnât mean there arenât cycles when I question everything.
Sometimes I can catch myself thinking that everything would magically fall into place if I had all the success I want in my career, the happily-ever-after relationship without any issues, or …
We Deserve Love Even When We Do Things We Regret
âYou are imperfect, you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.â ~BrenĂ© Brown
Do you have parts of yourself that youâd like to change? Maybe even parts of your personality youâre a little embarrassed by?
I do.
And if I started to list them I probably wouldnât know where to stop.
I can be a complainer and whiner. Even worse, I sometimes turn into a martyr and feel sorry for myself. Other times Iâm overly impulsive and have been known to have a really erratic temper.
But the thing is, weâre not our behavior. Often …
Thankful People
Source: Project Happiness
Take Life Day by Day
Source: Sun-Gazing
4 Tips for Managing Stress from a Combat Veteran
âBuddha was asked, âWhat have you gained from meditation?â He replied, âNothing.â ‘However,’ Buddha said, âlet me tell you what I lost: anger, anxiety, depression, insecurity, fear of old age, and death.ââ
âI never get stressed.â
I used to say and think this all the time when I saw someone freaking out about an upcoming test, a bad grade, relationship problems, or a boss or coworker.
I had a false sense of being âcarefreeâ because I wouldnât get stressed over the trivial things that most people did.
I was a âbattle hardenedâ soldier recently back from a deployment in Afghanistan. …
How to Stop Being a Victim of Your Own High Expectations
“The outward freedom that we shall attain will only be in exact proportion to the inward freedom to which we may have grown at a given moment. And if this is a correct view of freedom, our chief energy must be concentrated on achieving reform from within.” ~Gandhi
If someone asked you to recall the last time you were kind to yourself, would you struggle to bring up that memory?
At one point in time, I couldn’t remember ever being kind to myself.
I grew up with a lot of expectations from a demanding mother and other caretakers. Their expectations …
Go Against the Crowd
Source: Steven Aitchison
28 Ways We Sabotage Our Happiness (And How to Stop)
âThe simplest things in life are the most extraordinary.â ~Paul Coelho
Life can be frustrating. Things donât always go according to plan.
People let you down, your loved ones seem insufficiently appreciative, the future seems uncertain, demands pile up, and stress invades your life.
You start to beat yourself up over mistakes. You might even start to question if you are worthy of love. Life loses its shine.
Youâre not alone. Hundreds of millions of people feel this way. But pause for a little while to consider this story.
A personable young man approached me at a gathering and …
A Science-Backed Habit That Can Change Your Life for the Better
“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.” ~Epictetus
When I lost my aunt to cancer three years ago, her death sat over me for months and acceptance didnât begin until I had dinner with Kathy, one of my best friends.
Over noodles, I shared with Kathy all the things I wouldnât be able to do with my aunt: the conversations we would never get to have, the places we wouldnât get to go, the food we wouldnât be able to eat, and the grand-nephews …
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