Posts tagged with “wisdom”
Why We Donāt Need to Apologize So Often & How to Do It Well When We Do
āThe ability to apologize sincerely and express regret for the unskillful things we say or do is an art. A true apology can relieve a great deal of suffering in the other person.āĀ ~Thich Nhat Hanh
My life has been full of apologies. Iāve been on both the receiving and giving end of the good, the bad, and the ugly apology.
Just recently a dear friend who I hadnāt connected with in a long time reached out and asked if we could meet for coffee. I sort of backhandedly blew her off and told her I would try to meet …
The Power of Doing Nothing When You’re Frustrated or Anxious
āThis ādoing nothingā is not a cold, passive resignation, but is a luminous, sacred activity, infused with presence and a wild sort of compassion. It is a radical act of kindness and love.” ~Matt Licata
I am storming home after work.
The important men in my life are driving me bonkersātheyāve been self-important, disrespectful, condescending jerks.
My dad doesnāt see the value in the work I do, and my partner blew off our date to take an important phone call. My younger brother leapt off of the phone with me, which heās been doing every time Iāve called in the …
3 Relationship Myths (and Why We Need to Stop Believing Them)
āLove isn’t always perfect. It isn’t a fairytale or a storybook. And it doesn’t always come easy. Love is overcoming obstacles, facing challenges, fighting to be together, holding on and never letting go.ā ~Unknown
When I started dating, I idealized love. I had many false notions about relationships, which I formed from my friends, watching movies, and reading romance novels. Many of the beliefs I had about how relationships should work caused me pain and disappointment because reality turned out to be different from what I expected.
Dating became a journey of resetting my expectations and letting go of falseĀ …
Do You Constantly Think and Worry About Your Relationships?
āWhen you say āyesā to others, make sure youāre not saying ānoā to yourself.ā ~Paulo Coelho
Sometimes itās easy to define ourselves by our roles and relationships.
We can look at ourselves as a daughter, or someoneās employee, or so in soās husband.Ā These things mean a lot to us, and we often subconsciously use a variety of behaviors and mental constructs to protect these roles and relationships.
It can take form in innocuous ways, like buying clothes you donāt really want or feigning interests in order to fit in. (Go sports team!) But it also affects more serious things, …
What to Do When You’re Having Trouble Making New Friends
āThe measure of intelligence is the ability to change.ā ~Albert Einstein
Iām sitting on the couch by myself watching Dexter reruns on Netflix. But I can hardly focus on the show. Iām freaking out because I still havenāt made any friends, even though I moved here over a month ago.
I keep thinking to myself: āWill all my Saturdays look like this?ā āWill I actually be able to make new friends and build that social circle I was so excited to have?ā
Let me rewind just a bit.
Itās a hot and sunny summer day in Southern California.
After hours …
4 Things You Need to Know When Pursuing An Ambitious Dream
āSo many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable.ā ~Christopher Reeve
Have you ever decided to pursue something that excited you, that seemed really hard to do, and then had your will tested and almost crushed? I have, many times, most recently this year.
As you may recall, I shared a blog post in JanuaryĀ about the newly formed Tiny Buddha Productions, a film company I started with my fiancĆ©, fellow screenwriter Ehren Prudhel.
If you havenāt read that post yet, you may want …
How Dealing with Our Emotions Can Help us Heal Chronic Pain
āThe part can never be well unless the whole is well.ā ~Plato
Our bodies are clever. They constantly send us messages that something isnāt right. Itās our job to tune in, listen, and act on these messages.
That headache, tight shoulders, and backache are all trying to tell us something. But sometimes the physical symptoms we experience are actually tied up in a deeper emotional pain that needs to be dealt with first.
How do I know this? It was a message I needed to learn, one that I now teach to others.
Six years ago my life fell apart…
When Mindfulness Hurts: Feeling Is the Key to Healing
“You start watching your breath and all your problems are solved. It is not like that at all. You are working with the heart of your experiences, learning to turn towards them, and that is difficult and can be uncomfortable.” ~Ed Halliwell
Can mindfulness be bad for you?
I had been expecting it: Once you become a regular at it, mindfulness permeates all aspects of your life.
I only sit in meditation for twenty minutes daily (and a full hour on Sundays), but I carry its effects with me the rest of the time, elevated levels of awareness and all.…
How to Feel Good Enough (When You Feel Anything But)
āThere are plenty of difficult obstacles in your path. Donāt allow yourself to become one of them.ā ~Ralph Marston
I recently had a personal conversation with someone who was describing some struggles they were experiencing. In passing, they mentioned āItās okay for you, youāve fought your battlesā and went on to talk about how Iām married, Iām working in a career I love, and Iām āsuccessful.ā
Listening to them, I could feel my heart breaking, partly for them: I know what itās like to compare my insides to someone elseās outsides and find myself severely wanting.
But I …
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