Posts tagged with “wisdom”
āAm I the Narcissist?ā How to Tell If It’s You
āNarcissism is voluntary blindness, an agreement not to look beneath the surface.ā ~Sam Keen
Have you ever found yourself wondering, “Am I the narcissist in this relationship?” If so, you’re not alone. This question can feel heavy and unsettling, especially if you’ve spent years tangled in a toxic dynamic. The more you try to figure things out, the more confusing it becomes.
But hereās something to hold onto: The very fact that youāre asking this question is a sign that you probably arenāt narcissistic.
Am I the Narcissist?
Victims of narcissistic abuse often find themselves questioning their actions, …
Why I Stopped Measuring My Pain Against Othersā Suffering
āA history of trauma can give you a high tolerance for emotional pain. But just because you can take it doesnāt mean you have to.ā ~Dr. Thema
I just returned from a walk with a dear friendāone of my favorite ways to catch up and socialize. This particular friend has endured significant challenges, especially over the past year. She faced the immense loss of her pets and many of her possessions in a devastating house fire.
The ensuing tsunami of grief and pain pushed her through a tumultuous year filled with deep suffering and intense healing efforts. All the while, …
5 Practical Tips for Overcoming the Pressure to Do More
“In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you.ā ~Deepak Chopra
There was a time in my life when chaos seemed to have the upper hand. I tried so hard to keep things together, but it felt like the more I tried to control things, the more they spiraled. I had goals and dreams, sure, but the stress of not being āthereā yet always consumed me.
I remember one night sitting on the edge of my bed, feeling completely drained. Iād just had a tough conversation with a close friend, one of those exchanges where every word …
How Embracing What I Resisted Healed Me from Chronic Illness
“What you resist not only persists but will grow in size.” ~Carl Jung
Ever since I was diagnosed with Lupus at the age of five, my life has felt like a never-ending struggle against fatigue, pain, and a myriad of symptoms. Despite trying numerous treatments and medications when I was younger, I never felt truly vibrant. My body seemed perpetually at war with itself, leaving me exhausted and unfulfilled.
Multiple flares often took me away from school and friends. I wondered why I couldnāt just live a childhood free of pain and suffering, like the other kids.
I struggled with …
The Silent Struggle: When Saying “No” Is Not That Simple
“The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance.” ~Nathaniel Branden
I vividly recall a morning when my son was just five years old. My husband wanted to leave the country we were living in again, this time to escape what he believed was the imminent collapse of society due to COVID.
After years of constant relocations, I had finally started to build a community of friends, my son was settled in school, and I was beginning to feel some sense of normalcy. But he couldnāt stand it. My growing independence seemed to threaten him, and I …
How to Stop Living in Perpetual Guilt and Forgive Yourself
āI have learned that the person I have to ask for forgiveness from the most is myself. You must love yourself. You have to forgive yourself every day. Whenever you remember a shortcoming, a flaw, you have to tell yourself, āThatās just fine.ā You have to forgive yourself so much until you donāt even see those things anymore. Because thatās what love is like.ā ~C. JoyBell C.
Have you ever wondered why, despite doing your best to heal and grow, you canāt seem to shake off the feeling of inadequacy and only see minimal results for all your efforts?
Maybe, …
How Iāve Found Relief from Panic Attacks
āDonāt assume Iām weak because I have panic attacks. Youāll never know the amount of strength it takes to face the world every day.ā ~Unknown
I was just eighteen when it happened. Sitting in a crowded school assembly, my heart pounded, my chest felt constricted in a vice, and the air seemed to vanish from my lungs. As my surroundings closed in on me, my inner voice muttered, āI think you are dying.ā
That was the day I experienced my first panic attack.
Terrified, I fled from the hall. āI need to see a doctor now,ā I gasped tearfully …
How Gratitude and Mindfulness Gave Me My Life Back
āTrain your mind and heart to see the good in everything.Ā There is always something to be grateful for.āĀ ~Unknown
I used to rush through life, constantly ticking off to-dos, feeling like I was always chasing something just beyond my reach. My days were a blur of deadlines, errands, and commitments. And yet, in the quiet momentsāwhen I finally lay my head on the pillow at nightāthere was this heaviness, this emptiness I couldnāt shake.
I kept telling myself that once I finished the next big project, once I achieved the next goal, Iād feel better. But that ābetterā feeling …
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