Posts tagged with “wisdom”
Healing, Forgiving, and Loving After a Painful Break Up
âPeople come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you will know exactly what to do.â ~Anonymous
About five years ago, I learned the biggest lesson of my life about self-love and losing oneself in a relationship, through a breakup that almost killed me.
After going through another night of three hours of sleep, I drove myself to the ER to save my own life. I hadnât eaten or slept much in three weeks, and the scale pointed to ninety-seven pounds. I felt weak, malnourished, and unloved.
Three weeks …
Why I Stopped Trying to Fix Myself and How I Healed by Doing Nothing
âEverything in the universe is within you.â ~Rumi
When I was twenty-three, I lost my job through chronic illness. I thought my life had ended, and I spent the next few years an anxious, panicky messâoften hysterical. Eventually, I took off to scour the globe for well-being techniques, and searched far and wide for the meaning of life and how to become well again.
If youâre chronically ill, like I was, whether physically or emotionally, you’ve probably experienced the same misunderstanding, the same crazy-making âwell, you look okay to meâ comments, the same isolation, depression, and frustration that I …
How I Stopped Chasing Highs and Self-Destructing
âProblems cannot be solved with the same mind set that created them.â ~Albert Einstein
In our culture, itâs pretty common to think of rock ânâ roll hedonism a little wistfully. From Keith Richards to Hunter S. Thompson, the wild nights and strung-out days of the worldâs most iconic party animals are seen as integral to their sparkling creativity, rebellious nature, and untouchable glamour.
So many people, especially if they want to make it in the creative industries, idealize and inevitably attempt to mimic these lifestyles. Whether they want to be a âwork hard, play hardâ music producer, channel Hemingway …
What Helped Me Love and Accept My Imperfect Body
âYou are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.â ~Amy Bloom
âJust look at yourself!â
âThat chubby face, those massive hips and thighs. The stumpy legs.â
âNo wonder he doesnât love you anymore. No wonder he left you for her! She is so much prettier than you are.â
I stood in front of the mirror. Tears streamed down my face. My body was shaking uncontrollably as I stared at it in disgust.
Resentment and anger accumulated in my chest. Heavy, dark, and painful, the all-consuming emotions tried to crush me. My throat felt tight, I couldnât breathe, my …
Coping with Your Partnerâs Life-Altering Medical Condition
âWe donât know whatâs causing it,â I say to friends for what feels like the hundredth time. My boyfriend has been unable to walk or stand without pain for two years. And no doctors can seem to figure out why.
We were in our early twenties and had only been dating for a few months before his leg issue started. What ensued was a harsh transition from a highly active couple hiking mountains on the weekends, to a sedentary couple that needed to take an Uber to a coffee shop just a few blocks away.
Our identities as individuals and …
Someday This Will Be Funny
âA great attitude becomes a great mood. A great mood becomes a great day. A great day becomes a great year. A great year becomes a great life.â ~Unknown
I was already in a terrible mood by the time we arrived at the hotel around 7:30pm. It was Thanksgiving, and my family and I had spent four hours in the car in order to visit out-of-town family. My daughter had an accident in car seat on the way out there, and my husband and I were both battling colds. Oh, and it was my birthday.
Weâd spent the afternoon …
When the Euphoria Fades: Dealing with the Highs and Lows of Love
âWe come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.â ~Sam Keen
When we fall in love, we feel excited to experience some of the most joyful moments of our lives. Because love is supposed to be the source of the best feelings, right? But what about when that relationship churns up some hard stuff and leaves you feeling hurt, annoyed, sad, and irate?
For many of us, especially deep-feelers like me, when we start to experience these inevitable lows in our relationship, we may conclude that something is inherently wrong …
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