Posts tagged with “wisdom”
Iāve Learned That I Deserveā¦
When I was growing up, my parents never spoke to me about what I ādeserved.ā They spoke to me a lot about what was āexpected.ā They were very clear about that.
They expected me to be tough, hard-working, well-read, and smart. They expected me to help others, especially those struggling on the margins. They sent me to work in impoverished parts of the world, so I would realize I was very lucky and really had nothing to complain about. They expected me to go to church every week, to be honest, to help my brothers, my cousins, my community. …
6 Powerful Steps to Stop Binge Eating for Good
āAs long as you are breathing, there is more right with you than wrong with you, no matter how ill or how despairing you may be feeling in a given moment.ā ~Jon Kabat-Zinn
Binge eating is hard. For me, winter time has always been hardest.
The winter of 2011 was particularly bad. It was then that I sat, hands clasped around my knees, thinking about how best to kill myself.
Hopeless only scratches the surface of what I was feelingāthat same feeling Iād had on-and-off for fifteen years. I was twenty-three. Iād spent half my life in darkness.
I …
Walking Through Fire: Change Can Be Scary, But Itās Worth It
āWhat matters most is how well you walk through the fire.ā ~Charles Bukowski
I used to be scared to walk through the fire.
I was scared to do deeply unsettling, terrifying, hard things.
I was scared to face my biggest fears and struggles head on.
And for the greater part of my twenties, I did everything I could to avoid the heat.
In particular, there was one fire that scared me to my core.
As I graduated college, I was the happiest Iād ever been: Iād met my very best friends, traveled to small, colonial Mexican towns, studied meaningful subjects, …
Don’t Forget to Appreciate How Far You’ve Come
āRemember how far you’ve come, not how far you have to go. You are not where you want to be, butĀ neither are you where you used to be.” ~Rick Warren
Weāre always talking about how we should live in the now and ābe present.ā We shame ourselves for looking back at the past or into the future, thinking that we shouldnāt look too far ahead or worry about whatās to come, and we shouldnāt get too caught up in events that have already happened. We want to be focused on being the best person we can be …
The Little Things in Life Are the Ones That Matter Most
āIt isnāt the mountains ahead to climb that wear you out; itās the pebble in your shoe.ā ~Muhammad Ali
I followed a little boy in Walmart today. He didnāt look like my son and yet I trailed him and his mother all over the store. I curled my fingers around the shopping cart so I wouldnāt be tempted to reach out and touch him.
He didnāt walk with Brendanās bounce or jerk his head back, trying to slide his glasses back onto his nose. He didnāt have his sarcastic smile or those tiny freckles scattered across his cheeks.
But he …
You Arenāt Stuck in Life: Commit to Change and Get Started
“The secret of getting ahead is getting started.” ~Mark Twain
We all have big dreams, big goals, and big ideas on what we think our life should look like, or how we think life will end up.
Some of us meticulously plan out our lives, envisioning and letting ourselves daydream as we think about all the stuff weād love to accomplish. Iād wager that our plans include some pretty big things in life that would make us feel pretty proud.
The problem is, a lot of us have trouble reaching the potential weāve set for ourselves. Time kind of …
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