Posts tagged with “wisdom”
How Iâm Healing from the Pain of Growing up in a Dysfunctional Family
âDon’t try to understand everything, because sometimes it’s not meant to be understood, but accepted.â ~Unknown
As a child, I never had the opportunity to develop a sense of self. I had a father who was a drug addict. A mother who was abused by my father. And later, we had my momâs possessive and controlling boyfriend. It was tough finding a consistent role model in the mix.
I was one of four kids and we grew up in a trailer, sharing one bunk bed among us all. As children, we often would brutally fight with each other. We …
How I Saved Myself by Surrendering When Everything Fell Apart
âAnd here you are, living despite it all.â ~Rupi Kaur
âI surrender!â I said this mantra out loud as my life was spiraling out of control.
I had spent a summer in college as a camp counselor separated from my fiancé. He sent me no letters and did not keep in touch. Still, I held on. By the time I came back home, we were broken. I had also realized he was emotionally abusing me. It took that separation to make me see it.
I realized I had been truly alone in the relationship. I was never lonelier than …
Avoid Feeling Bad: How to Stop Taking Things Personally
âThere is a huge amount of freedom that comes when you take nothing personally.â ~Don Miguel Ruiz
Oh man, if I had a dollar for every time I took something personally…
Iâd be rich by now.
When I quit my corporate job in Paris and took a year off traveling people would often ask me, âSo, whatâs your plan now?â A normal question to ask, I know. But back then, I usually got offended by that question and other follow-up ones. It made me think that others were judging my decision and questioning my ability to change career …
My Insatiable Quest for Love and How I Found It When I Stopped Looking
âI canât say when youâll get love or how youâll find it or even promise that you will. I can only say you are worthy of it and that itâs never too much to ask for it and that itâs not crazy to fear youâll never have it again, even though your fears are probably wrong. Love is our essential nutrient. Without it, life has little meaning. Itâs the best thing we have to give and the most valuable thing we receive. Itâs worthy of all the hullabaloo.â ~Cheryl Strayed
Like many young girls, I spent my childhood daydreaming about
Everyone Has Struggles, and We All Have Our Own Lessons to Learn
âThe more we love the more we lose. The more we lose the more we learn. The more we learn the more we love. It comes full circle. Life is the school; love is the lesson. We cannot lose.â ~Kate McGahan
I remember reading somewhere that we are all here on this earth to learn a lesson.
Itâs one that is made for us, and only us. Like a special recipe concocted in the stars and implanted in our tiny developing foetus.
While it may sound a bit âwoo-woo,â it was extremely comforting to read that.
For much of my …
How I Stopped Feeling Angry with Everything and Everyone (Including Myself)
“Tears of despair can be fuel. Thunders of anger can be light.” ~Maxime LagacĂ©
Let’s talk about rockets.
This is going somewhere, I promise.
If you ever watch a rocket launch, you’ll see a large cylinder fall off once it gets to a certain height. Breaking earth’s gravity is not easy, so the cylinder is filled with a high-powered propellant that helps the rocket gain altitude.
The thing is, once all the propellant is gone, the cylinder becomes dead weight, so it has to be jettisoned. Otherwise, the rocket would fall back to earth, and all of that work would …
20 Journaling Prompts to Help You Love Yourself
âTime spent in self-reflection is never wastedâit is an intimate date with yourself.â ~Paul TP Wong
Iâve found journaling is a polarizing activity. People love it or hate it. (If you are in the latter group, donât worry, youâll still get a lot out of this!) Personally, Iâve hit both ends of the spectrum at different points in my life.
I spent many years in a place of self-loathing. I truly believed I was just not blessed with being born a likable person. And this belief fueled decades of social anxiety, avoiding parties, coming up with lame excuses to …
Why Forgiving Is the Last Step in The Process and What Comes First
âTrue forgiveness comes when you realize there is something totally radiant inside you, that nobody could ever touchâ ~Eckhart Tolle
I grew up in an emotionally abusive household.
My father was a man who diligently provided for us, but he left me with scars and shattered self-esteem.
My mother cooked me my favorite foods and let me sleep in her bed when I was scared, but she attacked my insecurities when I frustrated her. My friends played nasty pranks, but she wiped my tears as we both tried to survive my religious, cult-like school together.
As a kid, I didnât …
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