Anita,

LOL.  Yes he brought food, her kennel and a few other things for her.

Lindsey

Anita-

Lots going on this might be a long message.  First off the vacation was amazing-so much fun.  Since I returned on Monday I have noticed a few things. First off I am exhausted and my gas tank is not filling up.  This happens during trips. Maybe it is because I’m not at home in my bed and not on my schedule?  I feel a bit guilty because of how nice it was for Jason to plan this trip that was centered around what he felt I would enjoy.  On a positive note I think that my anxiety attachment is improving.  He can tell right away when I’m off. He senses so much so quickly.

I feel crowded. I am watching his dog until Monday because he went to Colorado to ski until Monday.  I am noticing my texts are short to friends and when I’m off of work (work has been very steady) I’m mentally done for the day.

I am 75% sure that he goes on more than 1 trip a year by himself (less than family trips) which could cause issues. (this is in the future so why stress now)

I feel like I am being negative when I have positive things going on.  I am continuing to reduce how I respond to my ex because I am limiting conversations- my brain is relearning to not keep the same patterns.

Since we have started texting I have wanted to be in a happy and healthy relationship and here it is.

Lindsey

Anita,

He already did his taxes lol.  I’m just going to call.

Lindsey

Anita,

He is online and has not responded yet. I feel like I do not need this crap today.

Lindsey

Anita,

Happy Friday! Our weekend trip is this weekend. We are leaving tomorrow and coming back Monday.  Regarding the reassurance I did speak with him and stated that this would not be a repeated request over and over again.  He stated that he doesn’t mind me asking.

Last night (we were messaging on and off all day and he seemed fine) he stated that he had a bad day-not this bad in a long time-too  much to convey.  I asked if he was ok and he responded yes.  I told him if he wanted to talk about things I’m here and he said thanks we can talk next time.  So guess who has anxiety  that it has something to do with our relationship- ME.

I texted him this morning about what time he wanted to leave tomorrow and he hasn’t read the message-he is usually up by 9:00am.  I swear someone is testing me.

Als0-last night the kids and I went to a Redbirds college baseball game. All of the teams went.  While I was there one of the fathers came up to me (with 2 beers in his hand and seemed intoxicated) that he was glad we all got on the same page-he was sorry about everything that happened and glad things worked out.  Long story short he was my ex’s attorney and now I am filing a complaint with the board of attorneys.  I have sat with his wife at baseball games and I have gone to their home for a birthday party and they have come over for my son’s birthday party.

I also want to call Jason which is irrational and slightly weird. But he’s also my boyfriend- isn’t that allowed? I just don’t know what’s going on with him.

Lindsey

Anita,

So this is why I’m feeling anxious. There is a social media app called tic-toc. It has every video you can think of. So last night I forwarded this video that’s a recording : girl is calling her friend saying I need you to come pick me up right now. I clogged my boyfriend’s toilet. So I put the poop in the cat litter box. He then asked me if I did that and I said no. He told me his cat has been dead for 10 days.

I thought it was hilarious. Jason seemed grossed out. This morning I said sorry if I grossed you out last night. I ignored the statement and talked about something else.

Lindsey

Anita-

Very good point. I will bring this up with Jason.  Financial discussions are a must it looks like in relationships.  This is all new to me.

Something else happened yesterday.  I found out from my kids that they are staying with my parents Wednesday-Saturday of our spring break in 2 weeks.  I am just finding out about this and it was planned a month ago. My ex reached out to my dad and gave the invite.  My ex’s family is driving down to Florida the previous Friday-Tuesday to go to Disney. The plans are my ex would drop the kids off sometime that Tuesday night.

I had an argument with both my parents off and on yesterday.  This morning I sent a message to them saying the children are coming home with me on Wednesday -they are not staying in Florida. I also sent a message to my ex saying the kids needed to be returned to me by Wednesday and they will not be staying with my parents.

5 minutes after I sent that text to my ex pulls up to drop off baseball equipment to my son with his girlfriend. Now-the divorce paperwork outlines he cannot come into my neighborhood-he must park in the vet’s parking lot next to my neighborhood. Now-this was purposely done I’m sure because of my message.  I am thinking about getting a temporary restraining order.  I know that sounds extreme but it’s the only way I know to make him follow our divorce paperwork and I will also have it on file for the future.

Lindsey

Anita-

The update since yesterday is this:  I did agree to pay the full $380.00.  However- I then messaged him saying look I cannot pay that amount plus the dog sitter.  I’m aware I agreed to pay half prior but I did not think a 2 day vacation would be setting me back over $400 if I include the pet sitter.  I can’t afford it.  I can pay $200 and that’s it.

He said no problem that’s fine and not to worry about it.  I’ve noticed a reoccuring behavior with him.  After there is some type of disagreement?  or discussion that’s a little uncomfortable he messages me more than usual the entire day.  It’s very noticeable.

I’m just tired.  Here is my overall impression.  He was very OCD with his wife about paying half for certain things- they have been mediating back and forth because she insists on splitting everything half and half down to dryer balls? china, framed pictures, workshop tools, kids snow clothes, etc.  She’s getting him back I think.  Yet he has a closet full of expensive camp gear, a collection of expensive sun glasses, and a chest of drawers full of a clothing line he likes that is really expensive- thousands of dollars worth of clothing in the chest I’m not exaggerating.  He also goes on vacations.  What’s going on here and why am I having to deal with this?

Lindsey