Anita,

We share custody 50/50, just 2 kids.  I moved out into an apartment.  The ex still has the house.

Lindsey

Anita,

I’m here at work and wondering how I got dressed and made it here.  I feel like I’m on auto pilot.

I promised my dad I would meet with mom and it did not turn out well.  She stayed the night at my ex’s house which I was not in agreement with and we just did not have a good visit because of how upset I am with the lack of boundaries and what I view as disrespect.  This cannot be addressed with her or my dad as they do not see my point of view and feel they are just trying to see their grandkids.  At this point I am going to continue no contact with my mom because all yesterday did was make me feel bad.

One last conversation with K, which should have never happened was yesterday.  I should have stopped this at least one week ago.  Nothing new was said that you and I don’t know.  I just feel bad about myself in general after the last week or 2 of exchanges with him.

I feel hopeless.

Lindsey

Anita,

overall the weekend has been good.  Yesterday I worked out, had coffee, took a nap and went to the movies.  It was a pretty awesome day.

yesterday I asked k to text me later because I wanted to address this quiet time he is having which was after Tuesday when he was tipsy. He said ok but never texted.

I think it’s past time to move on. I don’t really feel sad or anything I just don’t understand. I’m not sure what to do if he tries to contact me.

I’m meeting the kids and mom this afternoon I’ll keep you posted.

Lindsey

Anita,

OK.  That was really good advice.  I just messaged him and asked if everything was ok because he had been quiet since Tuesday and I stated I was just trying to be polite with bed/couch but that I tend to overthink things.

He said it was fine there was no problem, he had been quiet in general “just doin me.”   Said he hadn’t slept good in 5 days and wanted to be in his own bed but that I was fine.

Maybe I am overthinking.  But I saw the look on his face when I mentioned it.  That look read scared to me.  So maybe it’s a little of both, overthinking and him not sure what to do.

Lindsey

Anita,

What can I do between now and Thursday.  I feel kind of awful.  I feel  like K is talking to me less since Tuesday evening after he came over and there is no explanation so it drives me crazy.  I just hate this feeling I get.  It’s anxiety I know.  But it comes and goes like every hour.  I do not think I should ask him what’s wrong.  I think that is inviting more anxiety.  I still want to keep him as a friend only but I’m not sure how to move forward.

Lindsey

Anita,

My mom will be there this weekend.  It there some way I can address it with her.

Lindsey

Anita,

Can you tell me why I feel so fragile?  Sometimes I feel like getting up and leaving and just going to live in the woods by myself with my dog.  Lots of things give me anxiety, usually people and mostly men.

I just feel like I need some type of armor to protect myself.  Like I should of seen this coming with K. right? Instead of acceptance anxiety kicked into overdrive.

Lindsey

Anita,

I agree.  Trying to not focus on it.  Focus on more important things in my  life right now.  I am giving him/the situation too much power over my life.

Lindsey