I just thought of something. It is possible he has XYX chromosomes. XX is femaile, XY male, but XXY is a male with more female body stuff going on. My friend in college had that, but appeared male. But downstairs, no lasting erection.

Anyway, back to my old BF. He was sweet, sweet, sweeter than sweet. He seemed to want it and like it, but I had to make the first move sometimes. Looking back, my first (and maybe only) big Red Flag Clue was: He said he had read the whole Black Stallion collection when he was a kid. And loved it. OK, that’s like, dozens and dozens of books! This is beyond today’s Bronies. Ya know? LOL

I literally used a Banishing Spell off the Internet. I think I was so ready for it to “Work”, that it happened. Basically I put in, “I release this which no longer serves me.” The Ritual of it all made it happen.

Yes, and as you can see, writing it all down in the form of a fairy tale helps put the archetypes where they belong in your subconscious! I see your ex as a Trickster character, Ex GF as a Siren, you are a princess, DH is an unrecognized prince, etc.

OK, Lorraine/ @islandgirl Post-Jacking Story Time!!!

Once upon a time there was a gorgeous Princess. Just as soon as she came of age, The Dark Magician entered her life, disguised as her mystical Twin Soul. At first life was filled with balloons, smiley-faces and rainbow farting unicorns. Then Dark Magician seemed to put her down, ignore her, and use her. But she couldn’t put her finger on it, so she continued riding the rainbow farting unicorn (but not, you know, RIDING the rainbow farting unicorn ;)…)

Meanwhile, because Gorgeous Princess was swarmed with suitors, she chose the cutest one, who resembled a woodland creature from Bambi. Dark Magician said some strong words, that Princess had the audacity to date other guys even though he kept her stinging along. Princess, being Proud, dumped D.M.’s ass ~ but alas, the spell wasn’t broken!

Bambi, her boyfriend, became Flower the skunk, and, as cute as he was, wanted to be a Princess too. Gorgeous Princess was filled with Laments.

Two years later, Prince Charming, the White Knight appeared disguised as a mere Farm Boy. Still Lamenting Flower, but REALLY Lamenting D.M., G.P. (Gorgeous Princess) agreed to marry Farm Boy. Two years after that, under the Sacred Canopy, the White Knight rose two stations, and became a Prince. But still, the spell was unbroken.

The spell became evil once D.M. married an imposter Princess, that SEEMED to be everything G.P. was, BUT MORE!! Luckily, a Good Angel swooped down, and put the mantle of the Holy Spirit on G.P. before she sank into despair. But alas, the spell was still unbroken.

Finally, seven years later, PISSED, G.P. chose a Banishing Spell off the Internet, and performed a Ritual to break the Spell!!! It worked!!! She felt Nothing!

Later, she met D.M. 20 years older. He had not aged well, due to black magic, karma, and DNA. He saw Prince White Knight, and growled, “Who wears a tie?” sarcastically before he vanished in a cloud of smoke.

The End

P.S. The Prince and Princess lived happily ever after.

P.P.S. Even Flower!

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Hi

Everyone has Part One of their lives (Childhood). But everyone also has missing chapters. Including parents!

When I was growing up, I was dressed exquisitely. My casual clothes? Khaki pants and a white polo shirt. Guess what happened when I was in my 20s and independent?? Jeans and tee-shirts. Now I’m too old to wear them all the time, but I am making up for the times when I couldn’t wear them!

Make a list of all the things you would love to do and then go nuts when you are out of the house. Incentive to get out and something to look forward to!

Your parents are fighting The Culture. All parents actually fight against The Culture in their own way.

And as far as “Appearances”? Even today, ministers’ sons get in the most trouble ;). No one looks down on you, they know that you are just waiting to bust out. 🙂

I may be late to the party, but on a practical note:

I never, ever answer calls from my cell phone or land line if I don’t recognize the number, or the name on Caller ID. If it’s that important, they can leave a message.

And as far as meeting strangers ~ and it wasn’t my idea first ~ well that’s a NO. There’s a place for that: Match.com.

Life is hard enough. Don’t make it harder with rogue elements. So consider this a Lesson Learned!

Hey, you could go to the police and say that this is a number of a catfish/scammer. They are starting to catch up with the technology and take these things more seriously. Performing a Sting operation could be viewed as a public service. The girl was really a guy who could be part of a gang of guys! You never know! Protect the community by having a detective trace the number and have a little “talk” with this guy.

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You are the perfect guy that all the girls fantasize about, but ~ they can’t see it because they don’t expect it! Another thought ~ they’ve spent two decades indoctrinated that a guy is only about sex, so when you don’t chase them that way, they think something is lacking in *them*! Or, at worst, that you like guys. So they are all anxious to get that off the table.

Yeah social media and our culture has really done a number on us. The best you can do is find a girl who grew up in the church as you did and is used to traditional guys. Or for spiritual girls, go to MeetUp.com and find Buddhist discussions or meditation groups to go to. Believe it or not, there is another type of girl out there ~ spiritual, intellectual, communicating. Good Luck!

To add to that, someone said some of the wisest words I’ve ever heard. He was hosting one of those end-of-the-year parties, and people were debating what date he should have it, when he should have it, etc., etc. The host simply had it at the time that best suited him.

People showed up, worried: “Can so-and-so make it? Is that person coming? This person will be late, etc., etc., etc.”

Very calm, very peaceful, he told us, “I’m not having this party for the people who can’t make it. I’m having it for the people that can make it.”

P.S. He loves everyone.

Well, here’s the thing. For $$, unless you’re a millionaire, only count on or budget for the $$ you’re bringing in. If there’s any $$ he brings in or left over, think of that as a happy extra. But don’t count on it.

He (my opinion only) should/could live there. But, obviously, sex is out for health and emotional reasons. Forget checking up on him. What else do you need to know??

When your DD’s older, yes, get a divorce, start over. While you’re both at home, he can be an extra hand with childcare/chores. But I wouldn’t have him take her out alone for a long weekend or anything! (who knows who he’d meet?)

Meanwhile, you need TIME for the dust to settle.

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