She left my place that day and then later on that evening I texted her my thoughts about the previous night. I can’t recall word for word what we said but it was along the lines of me telling her that I felt the level of intimacy significantly increase between us, and she said she felt it too. Then we agreed to see how it goes. I didn’t want to ask her to be my girlfriend at that exact moment because it would have felt like I was asking just for the sake of it (probably should have though).

Another reason for my current situation could be that she got impatient waiting for me to bring up the discussion. But I wanted to wait until Christmas time so it was more intimate, meaningful and emotional.

She never responded at all. There are only a few possible reasons for this..

1. She has some personal problems she’s dealing with.

2. For some reason, she is no longer interested in me.

3. She is interested, but is waiting on me to make the move (however, I want this to be face to face)

The most frustrating thing at the minute is that I wold have really liked to be going in to the new year with her as my girlfriend.

Anita,

I sent that message about 8 hours ago and she read it about 4 hours ago. I’ve been thinking I should have asked her to meet, and that I had something important I wanted to discuss. But there’s no point worrying about that now.

As for your suggestion, it’s a good suggestion, but also not something I would want to mention digitally. If I was to say to her that I saw that quote over text, at a time when I’m worried ab0ut her and unsure when I’ll see her again, it could make my anxiety worse… Although the psychology student in me tells me I’m overthinking and even avoiding confrontation.

The quote is, however, something I’d consider raising when I’m having an intimate face to face conversation with her.

Anita,

I know she’s busy and I hope, as well as the scenario, that I’ve just been overthinking it and she’s just been busy with the kids at Christmas.

I also don’t even mind if she’s doing this on purpose, knowing that her absence will make me want her more, and then when we do have that chat and make it exclusive, she’ll know I’m very much invested in the relationship.

I’ll let you know what happens.

Danny.

Hi Anita, in that case I think it will be usefull for me to post the entire job description..

To carry out comprehensive psychological research literature reviews, pertaining to the competencies and psychological variables included in the psychometric assessments.

Production of robustly designed project plans to trial and develop tests.

Series of documents containing a sound sampling framework and ethical and practical approval protocols for access to participants across a diverse range of business sectors and levels.

Collecting database containing normative data that reflects the diverse range of occupations, roles, and positions at all levels, across a wide range of business and industry.

New and innovative tests, test formats, and delivery modes that reflect the competency model across the range of organisations, roles, functions and tasks.

Analyses of the data produced in published format including the technical results from the data in form of technical manuals for customer use and publications into scientific journals.

Danny.

Anita, thank you so much for once again providing me with such a deeply though provoking breakdown and analysis of my posts throughout the last 5 years. I really appreciate it I mean that.

I have some potentially exciting news though, which I will post below..

Hi Anita!

I’ll make some brief points as to why I think a coaching business of some sort could work and why I believe I’d be good at it..

After all the things I’ve been through and the experiences I’ve had, I’m actually now at the peak of my own life, having built it from rock-bottom, and I mean drug-addicted, jobless, worthless, friendless, miserable, insufferably sad and hopeless rock-bottom.

I believe this puts me in a strong position regarding the idea of being a life/personal development coach or something along the lines. Because I’ve done it all myself, and therefore not attempting to “teach” people something I’ve read from a book or learned on a course, if you know what I mean.

Danny

Hi guys, thanks for the replies,

Circumstances have changed though, and things are feeling better than they were before.

A few developments and points to note..

I’m now partnered up with her. As I’m off for 3 weeks from next week I promised her I’d spend the rest of the week helping her whilst she eases into the new job. So, I’m literally sat beside her all day long coaching her and being her fall-back as she talks to customers on the phone.

Oh yeah, about the 3 weeks I’m taking off, she really doesn’t like this and would much prefer it if I stayed. It does pain me to leave at this time, but it’s a project I just can’t afford to miss out on as it’s worth 5k. She has joked that she’s going to get her manager brother to make me stay. She just really wants and needs me there, and I really wish I was able to, but the timing was just wrong. We have been having touchy feely light hearted inside jokes etc, stuff that makes me want her more.

Aside from this, things are mostly cool now and my anxiety is evaporating. Except for small things like I get a jealous feeling when any other guys flirt with her, particularly one who is my friend, he’s basically a rival in this instance as all 3 of us are single.

She also brought me in a gift today. A really good set of headphones her family brought her back from holiday last week. I told her I needed a new set and she gave me them. So generous of her.

I’m just going to do my best to train her as best I can over the next 2 days so that she’s more confident in the job, because as I’m leaving for 3 weeks I do feel bad for her because she want’s me to be there more than anyone else. I do think the 3 days coaching her will build somewhat of a bond, but then it’s being severed by my 3 weeks off. I’m also worried the 3 weeks will change things in a negative way. But hopefully not.

I’ll be keeping in touch with her during the 3 weeks though.