Hello Anita,

thank you so much for your reply. It’s very interesting your point of view and it makes a lot of sense… Normally the men’s relationships towards women’s is based on their relationship with their mother, right?

He knows he has this “strange side” that he’s ashamed of. He says that, when he was alone, he used to think of not “normal” things. He is very private and this was a great confession from him, I think.

You think maybe she wants him to be with me? This is so confusing… I am giving a new chance to him but if another thing like this happens, I’ll quit.

thanks!

Hello,

Thank you all for your replies. Thinking better, yes there is no need to play a “game”.

I am still in the relationship because he apologized and asked for a second chance. He said he is willing to change. This is his “dark side” (he don’t like to talk about) taking over. He was so ashamed by everything that happened that I think I should give him a second chance. We all make mistakes and I think everyone deserves another chance. Am I thinking bad?

I am getting help now from meditation and books and this is comforting me. I am trying to work on myself and my self esteem. I want to be confident and independent. Loving myself is the best I can do now.

His mother is the problem here… Because I am sure she thinks it’s my fault because I invaded his privacy and she is the one trying to turn his head. I saw his first reaction and was completely different from the attitude next day (after talking with her). I bet she said “It’s not your fault my son, she should had never spy on you”… Something like this.
She will not get into me, I am stronger than she thinks. It bothers her that he is still with me, so she is playing her little game. I don’t care what she thinks.

Thanks!