“The only Zen you find on the tops of mountains is the Zen you bring up there.” ~Robert M. Pirsig
I know meditation is good for me. I know it can do wonders for my mind, body, and spirit. I deeply desire having a daily meditation practice. Yet I can go months without meditating. Iâll think randomly, âI should really meditate sometime,â but when it comes down to it, I donât.
My thing is this: I know meditating is good for me, and yet I donât do it. I suspect Iâm not the only one who feels this way.
Iâve read countless books on how to meditate. I have gone to so many meditation retreats and classes itâs not funny.
I know the meditation routines. I know the old staring at a candle flame one. I know the stilling your mind thing. I know the nose-breathing-in-and-out thing. I know about making your own visualization.
I also know that they feel like work. They feel like something I have to work at. It feels hard.
I know I’m not lazy. If youâre like me, I know you’re not, either. Itâs just that we havenât found the right way of meditating for us yet.
Here are some ways to make meditation less of a chore and more like a fun, doable thing for you.
1. Try the 100 breaths technique.
This is a highly complex meditation technique!
I take 100 breaths. I count them. I try not to think about anything else.
Yup. Itâs revolutionary. And it also really works for me. It gives my brain something to do (wee! counting!) while the rest of me is just hanging out, inadvertently meditating.
The lesson here is this: There are so many ways you can meditate. Explore them to find a way thatâs really easy for you, and just do that.
2. Take a meditationap.
Be careful. This one is complex. Oh, yesâitâs the love child of a meditation and a nap.
Lie down on a bed, couch, or sun lounge, or pile your (empty) bath with pillows and blankets.
Close your eyes and do nothing. Maybe youâll fall asleep. Maybe youâll have Zen inspiration. Maybe youâll just happily float along. Either way, it will be sublime.
My favorite meditationap consists of a sun lounge, a blanket, an afternoon, and my ipod filled with lovely music. If Zen master meditation retreats consisted of this kind of meditating, I could totally do them!
The lessons here is: Meditation should be enjoyable. We only consistently do things we actually like doing!
3. Use the alarm clock meditation.
If 100 breaths isnât going to cut it for you, set a timer for five minutes. Then meditate until the timer goes off. This way, you donât have to wonder about how long itâs been, or how much longer you should meditate for. Itâs like meditation on cruise-drive.
The lesson here is: Make your meditation as cruise-drivey as possible.
4. Get comfortable.
I started looking at things that annoyed me about meditation, the stuff that held me back from doing it. And one of the annoying things was this: I donât like being uncomfortable.
I donât think anyone does. And sitting cross-legged in lotus with a straight back and poised mudra fingers doesnât spell comfortable to me. It spells pins and needles, sore butt, and achy back.
Maybe when Iâm a woo-woo yoga guru master it wonât, but for right now, Iâm not, and it does. So for me, itâs an exercise in getting comfy without falling asleep.
What this looks like for me is sitting in a comfy armchair inside, lying on a sun lounge on the back deck, or leaning against a wall outside. What comfy looks like to you might be totally different.
The lesson here is: Meditating isnât an exercise in feeling uncomfortable. Itâs a place of rest, stillness, and comfort. So get comfy.
5. Start small.
When I really, really need to meditate and I donât feel like I have time, I make a little pact with myself. I say to myself, âOkay, we so donât have to meditate for any pain-in-the-butt time at all. Letâs just do ten breaths.â
And my logical brain says:
âTen breaths? You think I have time for ten breaths of meditation? Are you kidding me! I have stuff to do lady! Weâre not on retreat you hippy!â
And I say, âOh. I know youâre really busy. I really feel like I need this. You and me. Besides, itâs only for ten breaths.â
Logical brain: âFine. But only ten. And Iâm counting.â
And then we do our ten breaths and itâs nice. And we either stop there because we feel like weâve refreshed just enough, or we keep going for another ten or twenty because it just feels so good.
The lesson here is: Start small. Everyone has time for 10 breaths. See what happens. Itâs a little way of moving around resistances.
6. Make it a reward.
Meditation should be fun and easy, and it should feel good for you, not excruciatingly boring or painful. Work out the thing about meditation that makes it really, really useful for you. Not âI should meditate because everyone says so.â Not even an âI should meditate.â
Find a way that makes you think, âI want to meditate.â
Hereâs the meditation pay-off for me:
Whenever I take 100 breaths, itâs kind of boring for the first half. But after that, it feels like nirvana. I donât know if itâs a rush of oxygen to the head or just because I finally relax then, but whatever it is, the second half is good.
And it makes the beginning so very, very worth it. My little reward is the second-half release.
The lesson here is: Find your personal treat from meditating. And keep remembering it. Use it as a reward for getting yourself there.
7. Use help when you need it.
When I need extra help in meditating, I use CDs. Theyâre like my own little personal guides into sweet-calm-space.
Try out different CDs, guides, and meditation techniques, and see what works for you. And what works for you, make that the golden wisdom in your life.
The lesson here is: Don’t think you have to go it alone. Everything’s easier with a little support.
8. And most of allâŠ
Remember that the reason you arenât meditating right now is not because you are lazy. Itâs because you havenât yet found a way to meditate for you that is fun, easy, and comfortable for you. Find the way that does, and then itâs much, much easier.
Remove the annoying parts from meditating. Try out all the different ways you can to make it as lovely an experience as possible.
And remember: you are the expert on you. Find the wonderful things that work for you, and ignore the rest.
There are six billion paths to bliss, and your path is your own. Make it a happy one.
About Goddess Leonie
Goddess Leonie is an incorrigible optimist, serial gigglesnorter & a fairy who is living her dreams in tropical paradise. She's also the international best-selling author of the My Shining Year Workbooks and a mentor to highly sensitive hippy oddballs around the globe. Visit her at leoniedawson.com.