I do think that’s a pretty big deal that he’s talking to other women on the side and sending pictures while he’s married . Bored or not, those things need to be worked through .

thats not something for her to internalize as her fault because he’s bored. But they do need to talk about some boundaries and expectations .

Did I read that right that he had 2 mistresses? Like was he having a physical relationship with them and has that ended too or did they ever talk about it?  It seems like they have some issues that need to be worked out.

And I think it’s okay to catch up with exes here and there, but all-day, every-day conversations sounds like a bit much. If not a physical affair, it definitely sounds like an emotional one, and that’s not right either.  There is something missing for him in their relationship that they need to probably talk about and figure out so that they are able to find what they need in each other rather than in other people.

Hi Lisa,

I can’t get over the two mistresses. And he and the other woman had sex a few years ago? While he was married??

This is not what a marriage looks like. I say she should divorce him. Hey! At least that will cure his boredom!

Best,

Inky

I”m curious why you think she should stay??  Although you call it a ‘perfect marriage’s it clearly isn’t.

Big houses and a history count for nothing if you aren’t happy and it doesn’t sound like your friend is happy with the situation, unsurprisingly.

I’d suggest being more supportive when you listen to her, she’s probably scared of making such a big change and standing up for her self. Doesn’t have to mean leaving but she really does need your help for the strength to repair this relationship, if the guy is even interested in doing so.