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September 30, 2014 at 1:19 am #65781
Maureen
ParticipantI don’t know why you would want to make anyone feel anything and this is not a judgement. You seem to expect if you do this he will do that. So picture this dynamic 20 years from now. Good Time? nope/
The other thing is even if he is jealous there is no guarantees that will make him want you. It is a game. Dont do this. be real. You deserve real.If you are hurt deal with that without him, but try not to create a crisis of dishonesty to get him back.
September 30, 2014 at 8:35 am #65793Inky
ParticipantThe best way to make him jealous is to go off Face Book altogether and have a Friend Share a photo on your Wall of you at a party with new people he hasn’t met yet, having a great time!
That said, he may not come back no matter how jealous he feels. He did just get through a divorce and has a son, if I remember correctly.
Let him heal and regroup.
September 30, 2014 at 10:07 am #65797Jade
ParticipantWouldn’t you rather be with someone who leaps at the chance to be with you every single day, as opposed to someone you have to emotionally manipulate into staying? Forget this guy, honey. I know you say he’s your soulmate, but people who want to be with you will act like they want to be with you, and relationships go both ways.
You do yourself a disservice by trying to play backhanded games, if you really want this man in your life, you should show courage and vulnerability and lay your words bare for him, and if he doesn’t respond in kind, move on.
September 30, 2014 at 9:43 pm #65837@Jasmine-3
ParticipantThanks everyone.
@sadgirlfriend17 Hi Jen AI am so sorry for your suffering and can understand your desire to want things to go back to their normal ways.
Unfortunately, the Universe doesn’t work that way. You need to show some maturity and let the tears / pain flow.
Wanting to have the BF back is not your core need but a helpless desire to get over this situation. Can you stop the self sabotage and show yourself some respect that you deserve ?
If he is meant to come back to you, he will come back somehow even without you trying – the universe will bring you guys together and all circumstances will line up. If he is not, he wont. However, in the meantime, you can show more love and care towards JEN A and accept yourself the way you are. Once you learn to accept yourself the way you are – beautiful, honest, unique and work in progress – you will be able to accept everyone else the way they are without any need for judgments, jealousy or games.
Sometimes, we need to go through loss and pain to become the better version of self. When we become the better version of self, we invite more loving people and circumstances into our lives and become more in tune with where we need to be eventually.
Have faith in the unseeable. I know things will improve for you. You are way stronger than you think you are. In a few months, you will be laughing at all this 🙂
J
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