I’m going to try to keep this as short as I can while trying to give as much info. I ended an 8 mth relatiobship 4 weeks ago.  3 weeks no contact now.  I’m middle aged, educated and have Never experienced what I did and it has left me blindsided beyond confused. We met on Zoosk and it went Fast.   I was his soulmate. He’s looked for me his whole life, never loved like this.  He is 56 I’m 45.  He’s never been married but had a longtime companion he lost to a disease. Right in the beginning weird statements.  He told me he’s only been w 3 women in his life and had very little sexual experience.  When he offered these words out of the blue it felt weird. It didn’t make sense as he was a very good looking man and that was just off.  I come to find out later he’s been w hundreds of women multiples at one time many times…. involved in bdsm and other stuff. While his companion was dying in their home he was sexting other women and also having sex w her best friend when she would come over to help take care of her… I found this crap on his computer.   So many pics of women in his computer …. 2 mths into relationship my friend would see him active on zoosk like the green dot. I would call and gently just say hey and explain it and he would tell me it must be a computer glitch…  I believed him because every other word was I love you more than you’ll ever know… you’re everything I’ve ever wanted.   Time moves on. Lies keep popping up … hangs up w someone when I walk up and tells a big lie about a dropped work call… next day tells me it was an ex and he was afraid I’d get mad …. delete texts w friend of companion that he was having sex with. We would be apart for a few days and he would return in what I call hypersexual state. Asking to do weird things we never talked about …. aggressive in bed.    Borderline uncomfortable and very off.  I asked him if he’s doing online sex… baby I would never do that no.   So sincere.  Convincing.  He was in the bar every night and would take a pic of him at home and send it to me while he’s at the bar.  When we were apart is when the lies became super clear.    Even his voice sounded different.  He works from home and would disappear for hours and claim he never got a missed call or text from me.  Nothing.  Would lose his signal in fog for Hours.  Still professing undying love for me.   His phone and computer were the most important and protected items in his life.  Phone went to bathroom w him shower.    Never out of his site.  If it was laying in the car charging and he had to run into the store it had to go with him if I was in the car.    A box of ‘toys’ next to his bed from him and his companion who’s passed on.  I then come to learn that he had lived with so many women … he’s almost 60 so natural to have a past.   I still don’t get the offering false info in the start about no experience and 3 lovers.    So weird.    Anyway.  I guess why I’m here is obviously he’s a liar but is there anything else like diagnosable you see in this?    And the times when I would tell him hey, this lying and hiding phone calls and texts is not working …he would blow up… always tell me to ‘slow down… slow down…. even if I wasn’t talking and then ask me..wtf is wrong w you?   Another thing. I’ve never been accused of cheating or sneaking around in any other relationship. He was so suspicious of me for no reason.  It was creepy.    What is this guy?