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Dear Anita
Thank you for your encouragement and for helping me have a sense of self when I feel lost. It’s friends like you that help me shine brighter. I can be a candle, but it can be hard to refuel my flame at times and I am grateful to have friends who inspires me and ignite me with confidence to be myself each day. I hope that you always have enough spark and energy to rekindle your light and shine brighter when it feels like it may fade. It’s great to hear from you and your advice always uplifts me when I feel sad. It’s okay to take time for yourself, your health is important. The world has many problems and sometimes the best thing a person can do is to work on themselves and create their inner light. One light can illuminate the darkness of the world’s canvas. You are a candle in the world, Anita by working on healing yourself and shining your light, you make the world brighter with the beauty of your diversity. So never regret working on yourself first because by making yourself better than will you have the strength to light others way. You have made a difference in my life with your personality already. I admire your knowledge and compassion. Keep building your inner light Anita and let it burn away the negative emotions because you are stronger and more beautiful than the doubts that try to bring you down. And remember that if the doubts bring you down and leave you feeling broken, that it’s okay. Life gives people broken pieces so they can learn to explore the puzzles of their selves and build themselves into who they want to be. It is through the broken pieces that the light can shine in and that people can build themselves. The most important thing is to remember that you are worth more than the stereotypes of the world. I sacrificed my health by becoming anorexic to fit into a stereotype of what masculinity should be. I found myself trying to fit into a tight box, trying to help others understand who I was by fitting into a stereotype that didn’t fit me at all and it left me bruised and callused but it also gave me a sense of strength as I began to learn more about myself. Anita, never let the stereotypes of the world be your mirror. You are a beautiful soul and worth more than what the mirrors show. The mirror cannot show the person on the inside. It only shows the physical aspect of a person and not their feelings so it can never tell you who you truly are. The important thing is to remember that the people who matter are the ones who build you up and not break you down. There may be times when you need to take time to refuel your light and that’s okay. Your health is the priority. A person who is a candle in the darkness like you sometimes needs to take time to light it up again because everyone has struggles. But you, Anita are a strong person and may your light shine brighter and may you always have strength to survive in the darkness. I am grateful to have you in my life because your insightful and compassionate spirit always uplifts me and helps me better understand myself.
And it’s okay to lose yourself at times because sometimes people have to lose who they are, to lose who they thought they may have been to work on who they are and to make room for what matters to come in. People are a garden. They can grow flowers, but weeds will also come in from time to time and sometimes uprooting the weeds leaves holes in ourselves that make us feel lost, but it is those holes that give space for new flowers to grow. Sometimes people need to lose the illusions of what may not be who they are and through the darkness they can pick up the pieces and reflect on who they are and build themselves into the person they want to be. People are building their reality each day. Physicists say that time may be a fourth dimension and that each day time is a dynamic quantity. Yesterday becomes the past, today is the present and tomorrow is the future but it shifts again when a person lives it and when you live tomorrow it becomes the present. So the main moral of this is that people can shift their realities and make themselves into a better person. While you may not be physically able to travel back to the past, you can recall past events in your mind and work on healing from them. The dimensions of time: past, present and future are all interrelated and make a person who they have become. Everyone has different experiences and it is through our experiences that make us a unique person. People may feel lost and that’s okay because things can change with their mental perception. People cannot physically change the past, but they can create the image in their minds of a good past and a good present and a good future. It is important to take care of your mental health first because you can be the change that you want in the world. And when you work on yourself and build your light, you’ll find that you’ll shine bright in the darkness of the world and you can inspire others with your light. You are already an inspirational person, Anita by being the person you are and your strength helps others to have hope. In essence, by allowing yourself to be healthy and working on yourself and embracing the flaws that make you the special person you are, you are lighting up the world.
In essence, by allowing yourself to be healthy and working on yourself and embracing the flaws that make you the special person you are, you are lighting up the world. People are glowsticks, they have to break before they shine. Because in the broken pieces of the mirrors of what the world tells you to be, you can see your true reflection. People have to break the mirrors of the world’s stereotypes and the doubts that the critics say to discover their true selves. And don’t worry if you have to cry because it is through the rain of tears that you can wash away the illusions and the layers to your false selves and work on healing. Like an onion, people are peeling back the layers that tried to protect them and sometimes they cry but the core self is still there. I am working on removing the layers that constrict me from shining my true light. The anorexic layer and the inner critic was a way to protect me and cope from the loss of my sense of self as I tried to fit into the mirrors of the world’s stereotypes. Anorexia and the inner critic gave me a sense of control over who I was by allowing me to make my body look more masculine so I could fit into the world’s stereotypes of masculinity. But I realize that the layers that I tried to place upon myself constricted me from shining my light and I was breaking my health down to fit into a box that I didn’t fit in. Don’t sacrifice your health to fit into a stereotype of what someone or society wants you to be. You are a treasure and deserve the positivity and love you give to others. You, Anita are a beautiful soul and it’s important for take care of yourself first so you have the strength to lift up others. The strongest people are the ones that build themselves up and shine their light in the darkness. You are a star, Anita just by being who you are, you illuminate the darkness of the world is bring light to the minds of people with your diversity. Thank you so much for believing in me when I wasn’t sure about myself. May the light that you have always have a spark to shine and melt away the darkness. I believe in you and thank you for being who you are because you give people strength to be themselves by sharing your compassion. I will keep fighting and healing, breaking the mirrors of the world’s stereotypes and look at myself clearer and pick up the pieces and create the person I want to be. You are an artist, Anita and you can paint the rainbows of your beauty on the world’s canvas. Remember that when you feel lost and numb, that you are a special person and sometimes people feel lost and numb because the pieces of illusions are starting to break and numbness and lost feelings are a way of coping. The layers that people put on themselves protect them quite long, but their true self always shines through and you have a beautiful core self. You are a compassionate person who can make a difference in the world. I know it won’t be easy to work on picking up the pieces and creating the garden of yourself but life is worthwhile because you can grow and improve each day. It may be slow going, but as long as you don’t stop, you can improve yourself each day. Sometimes the best thing you can do is to hold yourself together and that’s enough. Remember that even with flaws and broken pieces, you are a candle and that you have the strength to shine in the darkness. Be the light for yourself and build yourself up, break the layers and the false mirrors and the stereotypes and go for your goals. You are a rainbow and you can paint the colors of your beauty on the world’s canvas. You may think that you are not special and that you are not enough at times, but the world would not be the same place if it were not touched by the light that who you are. So take each moment of your life to create the person you want to be because of hold the maps of your life and you can create the routes of where you want to go. Don’t let road blocks and speed bumps deter you from your goals. Sometimes you may have to take a detour and stray off the path and that’s okay because you’ll gain the strength by making different paths to find yourself and get a better understanding of who you are. There are no second chances in life, so it’s important that you appreciate the little things. Take the time to do the little things that make you smile brighter and your heart beat faster. I love you, Anita and you wish you all the best life has to offer.
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