Hi Barry,

No-one can guess what is going on here.  Perhaps something is happening in her life that you don’t know about, perhaps she is just feeling ‘off’ for some reason, perhaps she had other priorities, perhaps she just wants to end the friendship.

What to do next:  Focus less on this person and more on other friends, hobbies, interests, activities.

Accept her message:  It’s not you, it’s her – she chose not to reply to you.  (Not very friendly).

I hope that adequately answers your post even if it is not what you want to hear right now.

Peggy

Dear Barry:

You referred to this woman as “a friend of  mine” and you referred to a “friendship”.

But she is not your friend and there is no friendship.

Can you consider that she is not your friend and there is no friendship?

anita

Dear Barry:

You mentioned “her harsh remarks”- can you list her harsh remarks, what she actually said or typed to you that was harsh?

anita

Dear Barry:

I don’t see these as harsh remarks. I see them as remarks expressing her indifference to you, showing that she doesn’t care how you feel, it is not a priority for her. She expressed that you are of no priority to her. As long as this is the case, she is not your friend. To be someone’s friend, it takes caring how that other person feels, it takes replying to a text within a few hours.

anita

Dear Barry:

I didn’t say “this ‘friendship’ has been nothing at all”. I am saying that at the present time it is “off”, not “on”. Maybe it is dormant and will awaken and resume, maybe it is dead. I don’t know.

anita

Dear Barry:

Clearly you care a whole lot about this woman and you are scared the friendship is over. I hope then that it is not over and that the “off” will change to an “on” that will benefit you and her.

“Maybe I did or did not offend her in some ways”- it may help if you detail how you think that you may have offended her.

anita