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  • #434121
    anita
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    Dear SadSoul:

    I used to be terrified of repercussions for something (could be anything) that I said that was terrible and I didn’t know it when I said, shouldn’t have said it, and now this person I said it to, or the person who heard it, will do something terrible to me.

    It all came from my mother picking on something I said (.. could be anything) and exploding histrionically and borderline-style, getting her panties up in a bunch TO THE EXTREME.

    anita

    #434123
    SadSoul
    Participant

    I wonder if that’s part of why I was genuinely worried he might make it a thing. I used to do this too, but I fairly much only have conversations with co workers these days, and there’s nothing I could ever say that would come close to the shizz they talk about πŸ˜‚ I have to tell them enough πŸ˜‚

    I knew some deeply Christian people that I accidentally said f*ck in front of. The horror I caused. It made me feel so bad. I prefer to go with the idea that people who swear are more honest πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚

    I just sprayed my stupid oven for the third time it’s so dirty. The progeny stayed for a few months way back and I only looked at it recently. Not that my oven is every spotless but this is a whole other thing. I need a chisel!

    #434128
    anita
    Participant

    Dear SadSoul:

    I just sprayed my stupid oven for the third time it’s so dirty. The progeny stayed for a few months way back and I only looked at it recently. Not that my oven is every spotless but this is a whole other thing. I need a chisel!“- amazing, to me: about 20 minutes before you posted this, I sprayed my dirty, greasy oven top with some oven-cleaning spray, then wiped it with paper and walked away from the oven, not looking back, putting distance between me and the scene of the crime.

    anita

    #434132
    SadSoul
    Participant

    I’m so glad you posted this and that I read it. I forgot about the oven and it’s sprayed with caustic oven cleaner. Not sure it would have survived being left much longer.

    I have cobwebs in its door. How on earth do spiders get inside an oven door??

    #434134
    SadSoul
    Participant

    I’ve decided to put distance between me and the oven now. I’m taking a page out of your book! I can’t budge the bit on the bottom and I don’t have a chisel πŸ˜‚

    #434143
    anita
    Participant

    Dear SadSoul:

    I am glad to have been helpful, and you are welcome to that page from my book (I have that page memorized)! Lol.

    How on earth do spiders get inside an oven door?” – I asked the www. and given this answer: spiders can crawl through the tiniest cracks, gaps and unfilled holes, and when it’s cold where they’re at, they look for a warm place (and I figure, some time after you turn the oven off, when it’s warm, but not hot, they go in).

    anita

    #434166
    SadSoul
    Participant

    I am sick. Jeez.

    At least I have a cleanish oven to warm food up in. Not that I’m all that keen on food.

    Happy cheery SadSoul 😣

    #434168
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Sick (not) Happy, Cheery SadSoul:

    I would bring you chicken soup if I was there. Since I am not, I am sending you a poem written sometime in the 19th century by Emily Bronte (best known for her novel Wuthering Heights):

    No Coward Soul of Mine

    No coward soul is mine,
    No trembler in the world’s storm-troubled sphere:
    I see Heaven’s glories shine,
    And faith shines equal, arming me from Fear.

    O God within my breast,
    Almighty, ever-present Deity!
    Life – that in me hast rest,
    As I – Undying Life – have power in Thee!

    – End of poem.

    Please let me know how you’re doing..?

    anita

     

    #434176
    SadSoul
    Participant

    Dearest Anita

    That’s an excellent poem. I love it.

    I’m not dreadfully sick, just miserably sick. I have always gone to work regardless of health so I’m trying not to fall into a puddle of guilt. There are mixed feelings in my employment places: one fearing sickness, the other thinking you’re weak to take time off when sick. On top of my own guilt, this isn’t helpful.

    I spent 15 years in a job where my offspring in hospital on death’s door wasn’t a good enough reason to be allowed time off. It doesn’t help to have had that donation in one’s work life.

    I’m going to try to relax! To believe that sick leave is there for a reason, and I wouldn’t make a sick person go to work, so I should care for me with the same consideration. Hmmm.

    You have a heart of gold. I love chicken soup! I too would bring you something, although it might be cheesy pizza, as I don’t cook as much as I used to. Truth be, since there are no progenies (yes, great English πŸ˜‚) I don’t feel like I have a reason to. I work a lot too so my time is precious and often I choose fun over cooking. I cooked last night though, while I had enough energy to. I hope it helps that I ate well. I found honey mustard chicken drum sticks in the freezer from a past effort, so not too much cooking, only the veggies.

    #434178
    anita
    Participant

    Dearest Miserably Sick SadSoul:

    I’m trying not to fall into a puddle of guilt… I love chicken soup“- okay, close your eyes because I am going to pour chicken soup (warm, not too hot) on, into and through your head, it will wash away all your guilt out, ready?

    (soup on Miserably looking SadSoul face- emoji)

    anita

    #434179
    SadSoul
    Participant

    Immediate loss of guilt to avoid chicken soup hair and the effort it would take to have to go wash it. Thank you for this clever proposal πŸ˜‚

    How are you doing?

    #434180
    anita
    Participant

    Well, I feel clever, an unusual and delightful feeling. I have new insect bites, and my right shoulder is hurting, got to give it a rest!!!

    anita

    #434181
    anita
    Participant

    And YOU are delightfully funny!

    ania

    #434182
    SadSoul
    Participant

    You poor thing. Insect bites are the worst. Do you have lots of bugs where you are? I will bring calamine lotion and anti itch things. I’ve heard peppermint and clove and lavender and tea tree oil help with itching.

    You are clever. Roll with this wonderful feeling of it! I reckon the more you hear it the easier it’ll be to accept it. And all other good things in life that your natural reaction to is to reject.

    Your shoulder has been playing up for a long while now. Since the play date with the cool lawnmower? I don’t know whether to say it sucks getting old or go at a doctor. I always go with it sucks getting old. It’s cheaper and saves me the doctor’s politically correct and expensive version of that.

    This is going to sound dum but I’m loving having a day off. I need a break. I might try to take a week off soon if the work frontier calms down a bit. Thank you for putting it into perspective with chicken soup hair πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚

    #434183
    SadSoul
    Participant

    PS thank you for giving me human contact. I’ve been feeling alone lately. I don’t know how to explain it. I have no confidence or energy to do anything more than I do, and in lots of ways I don’t want to add the confusion and fear of additional people into my life, but if I could have a gift wrapped friendship this one covers it. Understanding, kindness, a few laughs, not demanding; it’s got everything I need and seems to be doing well with the limited amount of watering I can give it.

    Speaking of watering, only one of my very small collection of potted plants is turning its toes up from lack of water πŸ˜‚

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