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  • #199593
    Christine
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    I’m currently going to a university to get my bachelors degree In Family science and Human development with a minor in psychology. Before this I went to a community college and earned my degree in Liberal arts. I’ve always felt that I was meant to help someone. I have been though a lot of trauma in my life which has made me interested in ways of emotional healing. I live at the university right now. I am in my first year and next year will be my last.

    This morning my father drove me back to campus. Reality set in when we were talking that after graduation I will be independent finically. This scares the living crap out of me. I worry that I won’t be able to support myself. I so desperately want to. I know I am a hard worker because during my associates degree journey I held a job for over 3 years and worked my butt off. It was just customer service. I did enjoy it but this isn’t something I want to do with the rest of my life. I am having anxiety about what I am going to do after school. What job can I see myself doing? I really don’t know. I also get worried about the 9 to 5 deal. I like naps. I like my time to meditate. I sometimes still feel like I don’t have enough time. I can get paralyzed by time.

    I just have this fear that I won’t amount to anything in life or that I will be stuck in a routine I won’t feel purpose in. This fear sucks I want it to leave.

    #199603
    Jaclyn
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    I am right there with you! I will be starting my last semester of college in the fall, and have absolutely NO idea what I’ll be doing after graduation. I’m an English major, so add that on top of the list of “will I make it” anxieties. I’ve heard all of the Starbucks barista jokes! I am just trying to keep in mind that almost everyone has this fear, and yet everyone must take those first steps. I would say, instead of thinking about what job you could see yourself doing, think about what kinds of things you want to be doing. You want to help people, that’s a noble pursuit that isn’t limited to a 9-to-5 desk job. Do you want to travel? Is there a city you’ve always wanted to live in? Don’t think of graduation as the death of your structured, predictable life, but rather as the end of a hallway that opens up into a world of possibilities. Financial stress is difficult and very anxiety-inducing! I personally follow The Financial Diet on social media and YouTube for better spending tips, if it’s a budget you’re worried about. But you don’t have to have it all figured out right now. It may take you a few not-right jobs to find where you belong. Embrace the challenge! You’ll find where you’re meant to be.

    #199675
    Peter
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    “He who fears he will suffer, already suffers because he fears.” – Michel De Montaigne

    F.E.A.R – False Evidence Appearing Real

    Nothing like living the fear of tomorrow today.

    Sometimes I wonder if the real fear is that we might miss out on the opportunity to worry, so just in case, we imagine a future of suffering just to worry about it now, you know in case it doesn’t happen.

    “A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.” — George Bernhard Shaw –  “Experiments are necessary for the experiences that create growth and new opportunities.”

    “THE FOUR HEAVENLY FOUNTAINS

    Laugh, I tell you
    And you will turn back
    The hands of time.

    Smile, I tell you
    And you will reflect
    The face of the divine.

    Sing, I tell you
    And all the angels will sing with you!

    Cry, I tell you
    And the reflections found in your pool of tears –
    Will remind you of the lessons of today and yesterday
    To guide you through the fears of tomorrow.”
    ― Suzy Kassem

    #199679
    Peter
    Participant

    Some inspiration

    #200661
    Christine
    Participant

    Jaclyn and Peter,

    Thanks for posting! I really appreciate your feedback. It’s nice to not feel alone. It’s been a week since I’ve post this. My anxiety has calmed down. I realized I have to live in the moment and just do the best I can.

    Christine

    #200719
    Mark
    Participant

    Christine,

    You may want to talk to the college’s career services that should help you in finding a job that would suit your degree.  Have you had any internships?   Do you know how to network?  Do informational interviewing?  You may want to check What Color Is Your Parachute as a guide to navigate finding something that fits you.

    Having some sort of plan would help with your anxiety.

    Mark

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