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  • June 18, 2019 at 2:13 pm #299695
    Anonymous
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    Dear Liz:

    How about getting to know him over time, as a friend, before considering a physically intimate relationship?  It is definitely not a good idea to get involved this way while “Numb and Unsure”.

    So explain this to him, what you shared here, meet him as a friends and a potential boyfriend-to-be, meet him in a coffee shop, a casual restaurant, a meeting with friends, a walk in the park and talk a lot. Talk a lot over time, no rushing anywhere. Does this read like a good idea?

    anita

    June 18, 2019 at 6:03 pm #299729
    Mark
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    Liz,

    Is this guy an online relationship too?  I go with that anita says, get to know him over time.  No need to “like” him especially if you know him from only online.  I have a prejudice of online relationships for communication/connection needs to be done in person for body language, vocal inflection, etc. make up almost 80% of human communication and understanding.  Plus until you two actually are physically together and deal with real life disputes and situations, then your relationship has not really matured.

    Mark

    June 19, 2019 at 8:36 am #299813
    Liz
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    We met on social media but we have gone out 3 times.  But, I appreciate your advice and will definitely just take it day by day and hope for the best!

    June 19, 2019 at 8:40 am #299815
    Mark
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    Liz,

    Good luck.  I also recommend getting out to socialize with people in person.  This way you won’t feel that your whole social/love life is tied to online interactions.  Group activities such as Meetup are great for that.

    Mark

    June 19, 2019 at 9:11 am #299823
    Inky
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    Hi Liz,

    I don’t know if he is The One. As there are many Ones. He does sound like a GOOD One!

    Tell him that the other guy ruined it for you, and that if he doesn’t mind can you hang out as friends this summer. He will probably say “Yes” and treat you even better (to show you he’s not THAT guy!) and will be around in the fall. By then you will know your heart and give him a chance romantically. Or not!

    Best,

    Inky

    June 22, 2019 at 1:53 am #300321
    Victoria
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    Hi Liz,

    you just described exactly the place I am in with this new guy I have met. I also met him online and proceeded to do a lot of things in person to try and minimise just messaging online or via text. In the short time we have known each other he has met my friends, briefly a family member, I have met some of his friends, travelled and gone camping with him.

    It is very important for me to build trust, and the best way to do that is be in different situations together and see how each other acts. For example, I find that a lot of men act very true to themselves around their mates so I find it interesting to see if that version of him matches to how he is with me in private.

    Good luck though and keep your faith (:

    – V

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