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  • November 6, 2018 at 3:25 am #235649
    Anonymous
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    Dear dreaming715:

    Happy Tuesday-after-your-Birthday!

    I hope you feel better.

    anita

    November 6, 2018 at 10:15 am #235705
    Inky
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    Hi dreaming715,

    Wasn’t this the guy who doesn’t initiate by nature (one of your last posts)?

    Answer: You are fighting his inner nature. He is not a sexual guy. Don’t take it personally. It has NOTHING to do with you!

    At least he planned an elaborate celebration, took you out to dinner, and you got your nails done!

    Best,

    Inky

    November 7, 2018 at 11:52 am #235881
    HoneyBlossom
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    Dear Dreaming,

    Just some food for thought for you.  I know how disappointed you are feeling.  However,  you might think a bit about how in a loving relationship is about giving aas well as receiving. Rather than focusing on him not giving you sex on your birthday,  you mught think about giving to him – physically and sexually to show your appreciation and love for all of those tgings he does for you

     

    Whilst it’s possible that you are not sexuallt possible, its also possible that you are still getting to know him sexually,  what he likes and what he doesnt.

     

    You posted in your other thread that he is often tired.  You might consider givibg him a massage.  Dont be surprised or disappointed if he falls asleep sometimes.  After a while,  you will know when to stop the massage and please him in other ways.

     

    Whilst its true that most men like their women to look nice,  male desire is often about more than that.

    November 7, 2018 at 12:05 pm #235883
    HoneyBlossom
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    Sorry for typos.  I was unable to edit

    November 9, 2018 at 1:30 pm #236233
    Mark
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    Dreaming,

    There is a saying (I think it’s a 12 Step Program one), Expectations are premeditated resentments.  If you want sex for your birthday then tell him.  As a guy, I would appreciate to hear what my intimate partner would want/expect for such a special occasion.

    THIS IS ABOUT FRANK, COMPASSIONATE, HONEST, DIRECT COMMUNICATION!

    Women tend to think that if they hint and assume with their mates then they will get what they want, i.e. “if he really loves me then he will KNOW/DO that…”  BS!  Intimacy is to be able to express our needs, feelings, wants/requests up front, frankly and compassionately IMHO.

    My two cents.  This is a difficult paradigm shift which most people are not aware and have a tough time to transition to.

    Take care.

    Mark

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