A little background first. My boyfriend & I started dating last March. He was separated at the time. We fell hard, fast. Within 2 months he was asking me to move in. I questioned him many times if he was sure. We also decided at that time it would be good to meet his daughter. She is 3. Since then I have moved in, his divorce has finalized & our relationship is now crumbling around us.

He is depressed. Clinically. He was on Zoloft but has stopped taking it bc now that his divorce is finalized, his ex-wife will be removing him from her insurance. He keeps telling me he “needs time”. When I ask if that means that he wants me to move out he says no. But he often shuts down & leads me to think he would be relieved if I left. He has recently said he doesn’t understand why he’s so sad when he has so much good in his life.

I know we probably moved too quickly & looking back I should have pumped the brakes bc maybe he was looking for a quick fix & although he thought he was ready I should’ve protected my heart better. But that’s why hindsight is 20/20. I can’t go back. I just don’t want to lose him. The more I push on what he wants me to do, the more it seems he pushes me away. He doesn’t want me to hug/hold him, yet we sleep in the same bed & have had sex several times during this past week.

Today he realized I erased my bio in my Instagram (week ago maybe more) & he made a post that if he gets a bad vibe he is out. Then he wouldn’t answer my texts or calls for hours. And also changed his Facebook cover photo from one of him, his daughter & myself to one of just his daughter. I feel he may have broken up with me via social media. It’s very childish in my eyes but I don’t fully understand depression & am trying to save my relationship. I am very much in love with this man.

Our relationship was amazing. We would lay in bed and talk, for hours. We became best friends. Now I feel alone. I really don’t know where to go from here. I want him to show me love again but I do know he’s not capable of being that man right now.

How do I save my relationship without losing myself?

Thanks.