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October 12, 2019 at 8:41 am #317461
InkyParticipantHi Daniel,
Sounds like a toxic group. The girl you talked to could trigger your girlfriend that much? The ex is in the group and she goes off with him in retaliation? Well, if she does dump you, you could always hang out with the other girl! Things are awkward? Let them be awkward!
At every university there are clubs. Join a club, even to give you a break from your studying! Thank God you have a good roommate.
Good Luck in your major!
Best,
Inky
October 12, 2019 at 9:26 am #317467
AnonymousGuestDear Daniel:
You wrote about your girlfriend in your Oct 18, 2018 thread, almost a year ago, six days after the beginning of your romantic relationship with her. You wrote there than you were her best friend during the two years that she dated your male best friend since kindergarten.
After her breakup from your best friend, she dropped out of University, slept in a car for a while, and attempted suicide. You spent time with her, she told you that she loved you, you fell in love with her but you were worried about “stabbing my best friend in his back”. She told you though that “ending our relationship would be the last nail in her coffin”, and you wrote that you don’t want to end that beginning relationship with her (6 days at that point) because you don’t “want to stand o her funeral”.
Fast forward, a year later, you just had an argument with her and she went to a caffee with her ex boyfriend. You are afraid she will break up with you and you feel depressed and very lonely: “if my relationship will end I will remain completely alone”-reads like her ex boyfriend who was your best friend since early childhood is no longer your friend.
How did he respond to the fact that you dated his ex girlfriend for a year and what happened to your friendship with him?
anita
October 13, 2019 at 12:34 am #317549
PeggyParticipantHi Daniel,
You’d been together for a year, it’s your Anniversary except that she has broken up with you through jealousy of you talking to someone else. This is not a woman worth knowing especially as she is taking revenge by going off with her ex boyfriend. If she has suicidal tendencies then she needs to be seeking professional help.
You say that you have a great room mate – does he have any friends that you could perhaps be introduced to? Is there a counselor within the University that you could discuss your concerns with? You are away from home and you are finding it difficult to adjust to City life. Is it easy for you to visit your family during holidays or even weekends.
It sounds to me as if you are expecting far too much of yourself. Changes happen gradually – the transition from child to adult takes years. Taking responsibility for yourself means taking responsibility for your own success as well as for your own failures. You are finding University hard and you already feel as if you are failing. You are sharing the Course with other people and they are all going to be focusing on whether or not they will make the grade. You are not alone in this. This is a natural concern. It is just as easy to aim for success as it is to aim for failure. Aim to succeed and you will. Tell yourself every morning that you aim to succeed and it will happen. Develop a positive, mental attitude. This will help you in all areas of your life.
Aim to succeed, Daniel, aim to succeed.
Peggy
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