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  • February 20, 2018 at 4:56 am #193505
    Inky
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    Hi Mayra,

    To answer your question: It’s him.

    You cannot, must not, and shouldn’t marry an alcoholic. To make matters worse, he lies to your face about it. This is called “Don’t pee on my leg and tell me it’s raining”.  He’s peeing on your leg and telling you that it’s raining.

    I’m sorry your engagement fell through, but dumping him may just be the hurt he needs to clean up his life.

    Best,

    Inky

    February 20, 2018 at 6:27 am #193513
    JRM
    Participant

    Mayra,

    I would like to applaud you on your decision to call off this relationship.  I don’t think that your fiance is ready to stop drinking.  Have a great day.

    jrm

    February 20, 2018 at 8:01 am #193529
    Anonymous
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    Dear Myra:

    You wrote that you are a mess. I understand that you feel like a mess, having been engaged to him you hoped to have a good life with him. Instead, life with him has not been good. You did the right thing calling off the engagement, if that is what you did. The situation with him is definitely not promising of a good marriage to come. Not a good foundation on which to build a loving relationship, a marriage, a family.

    I hope you post again.

    anita

    February 20, 2018 at 9:13 am #193537
    Mark
    Participant

    Myra,

    I recommend Al-anon to help you understand why you want to be with an alcoholic and what it is like dealing with one.

    Mark

    February 20, 2018 at 10:33 am #193557
    Mayra
    Participant

    Thanks everyone for the replies.  Right now I’m taking some time for my self.  I haven’t fully moved out yet.   I’m waiting to get back from a trip then I will talk to him about my decision and make it clear so we can both move on.  I hope the conversation will be a good one.

    February 20, 2018 at 1:05 pm #193595
    Anonymous
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    Dear Mayra:

    You are welcome. I hope the conversation is a good one, honest and productive. Hope you post again.

    anita

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