Lisa,

I am not sure what you are asking.  You have known this guy on and off as a FWB.  Do you want something more now?

If not then why are you asking this group about this FB invitation?  I sense a deeper question.

Mark

Dear Lisa:

I don’t think he is playing games by adding you to that site. I think that he added you to that site on an impulse, because it felt like it would be fun to see you semi nude of that site. Maybe he added other women, other friends-with-benefits to that site as well, at about the same time.

Reads like he is after having fun, that is all. Reads like he is not into a monogamous relationship with a woman. Reads like he likes you as a friend-with-benefits and he doesn’t think or cares much how long you will be his f-w-b, but it is fun for as long as it lasts.

In a way he is like a kid in a toy store, playing with this toy (this one f-w-b), gets bored, plays with another, then maybe the store closes and he is with no toys till the next day or next week, then the store opens and he is back to playing.. with this one toy, then some customer comes in and buys that toy (similar to a f-w-b getting into an exclusive relationship with another man, or she moves away, or he moves away) and he can’t play with it anymore. So he plays with another toy, a new one or one he played with before.

Does that make sense to you?

anita

Dear Lisa:

It seems to me that he does like you, as a friend with benefits. He probably likes it that you don’t give him trouble, that is, you don’t pressure him to have an exclusive relationship with you, you don’t give him a difficult time. Like other women do.

Think of this: let’s say a man goes to prostitutes, and he is fond of a particular prostitute, so he sometimes brings her flowers or he takes her out to a diner, and sometimes stays with her for hours, talking. Let’s say he happens to see her with a client, and the client seems a bit tough, so he goes to her and asks: are you okay? Showing concern this way.

But he is fine with his favorite prostitute still prostituting and he has no intention to have an exclusive relationship with her.

Now, why am I mentioning prostitutes here- clearly you are not a prostitute. This is one more reason for him to like you: he doesn’t have to pay or worry about STDs much because you don’t date many men.

Think about it: a woman who is a friend with benefits (fwb) for a man, can be considered by the man himself, as a free-of-charge prostitute (fofp). What do you think?

anita