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April 16, 2019 at 5:28 am #289223
InkyParticipantHi Sofioula,
If it were me I’d reply to his text on HIS birthday, with, “Right back at you, little buddy!” with a maddingly *wink* emoticon or the *cool* emoticon with the sunglasses
It’s good to be polite, but it’s also empowering when you realize you don’t HAVE to be!
Best,
Inky
April 16, 2019 at 5:37 am #289227
AnonymousInactiveInkyyyy!!!
Hahaha you’re awesome, you made me laugh so much! Bless you for that. It’s true, we don’t have to always be polite. It’s destructive some times. At least for me. Fear of missing out is what I need to work on. And many more things!
Thank you for replying, I loved it ❤️
April 16, 2019 at 8:37 am #289263AnonymousGuestDear Sofioula:
Welcome back! Regardless of his motivation sending this message, he wasn’t polite to you when he refused to drive you home when you were sick, having you take busses home and walk a lot, he wasn’t polite when he yelled at you, he wasn’t polite when he turned the alarm on Sunday morning just so that you leave his place early, etc. And he never apologized for these things, did he?
So it is not impolite if you don’t answer his message, it is sensible that you don’t.
anita
April 16, 2019 at 10:55 am #289315
MarkParticipantSofioula,
Block him for he is no longer part of your life. It is like getting an unwanted solicitation from a scammer or someone who wants to sell you something.
You first need to honor and respect yourself before worrying about being polite to someone who does not deserve that courtesy.
Mark
April 16, 2019 at 2:25 pm #289335AnonymousInactiveDear Anita,
I’m so thrilled to be back and somewhat healed! And so happy you have answered! Your advices helped me so much throughout this process…
No, he was not. And he NEVER apologized for any of that. Not even in this birthday text. These references to my old post you mentioned helped me remember and ground myself to what is the reality of this man. He was a complete j3rk and has rightfully earned my apathy.Because we as people seem to bypass when time passes. That’s why I took the decision, for once in my life and in particular with him, to let go of my taboos and free myself. I take it as an exercise, part of the training to be my best version. It’s all about start treating me right. Can’t be a forever doormat.
Hugs to you!!! <3
April 16, 2019 at 2:33 pm #289341AnonymousInactiveGood evening Mark!
I have blocked him from eveything. He text my through my phone number. That, sadly, I can’t block.
The funny part is that when we were together, there was never any activity of his popping on my fb feed, like with any other friends. It was only when I searched :photos liked by (name insert here) that I was finding his likes on photos, ALL girl photos. Turns out he had me on the “Restricted List”. And now he will beg my pardon as I ignore him 😉
Thank you Mark for your help!
April 16, 2019 at 4:49 pm #289357AnonymousGuestDear Sofioula:
It is good to read that you are, as you put it, “somewhat healed!”- so glad, and thank you for the hugs. You answered your own answer very convincingly, “Is complete silence the best way?”-
-Yes, it is.
I hope you post again, anytime you’d like, here on this thread, on a new thread you can start anytime and replying to other members as you have done today.
anita
April 17, 2019 at 12:50 pm #289479
JayJayParticipantDear Sofioula,
Your post has cheered me! It’s lovely to hear someone come back and say that everything has improved in their lives…. Not without a great deal of effort on your part, I’m sure. Keep on going forward, don’t look back. Especially at that ex-bf… it sounds to me he doesn’t deserve the time of day, never mind your attention. Keep it in the past, and keep on how you are doing, because you are doing just fine! Complete silence is definitely the best way to go! Look how upbeat you are and how you have improved your life as a result of doing just that!
Well done, Lady! 🙂 🙂
best wishes,
Jay
April 20, 2019 at 3:28 pm #290005AnonymousInactiveDear Jay Jay,
Oh my God , I’m deeply touched and happy to hear that I cheered you up! That’s the amazing part about this site that I love, we get to communicate and make a contribution, however small may be, to someone’s day or even life!
Indeed, I left the past be just that, past. Now I broke free. Truly. Still need to work on my personal issues and heal myself from the roots, but at last, some peace of mind. Come to think about it, I’m actually a bit proud of not answering him. It was a big step for me and an even bigger step away from my past version of me.
I really do hope I see you on another post here! Keep your smile shining and you head focused on your present JayJay!!!!
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