Dear Kshiti:

You are welcome, and no problems as to you taking your time before replying.

“The values I came down to are- Success, Personal Development, Well-Being and Growth. But I feel this is not the complete thing and I need to do more work to develop better perspectives“- you can develop your thoughts about professional success in the context of relationships with people you interact with professionally. There are people who are okay with cheating and mistreating others so to get ahead professionally; what are your values in regard to how you would treat others and how you expect to be treated in the professional world?

You can develop well-being in the context of personal relationships, similar to the above: what are your values in regard to how you treat others in your personal life, and how do you expect them to treat you?

You listed very impressive goals. “How to develop a greater sense of purpose and develop a better approach towards the core component of my life?“- this reads to me like an academic-like, complicated question. Can you simplify this question for me?

“Also, I would like to ask you about mindfulness. How can one apply it for anxiety and intrusive thoughts as well as for overall wellbeing?“- re-read my Feb 21 post (page 2 of your thread) where you asked a similar question (only you didn’t mention Mindfulness) and I answered: the NPARR Strategy, which is a Mindfulness technique that works for me. Try it in regard to your obsessive (aka intrusive) thoughts, will you?

And please feel comfortable to post again whenever you choose, whenever it is convenient for you, no need to rush.

anita

Dear Kshiti:

You are welcome. I am sorry about the worsening situation in regard to your intrusive thoughts. I don’t think that we talked about you seeing a doctor, did we?

There are pharmaceutical treatments for intrusive thinking/ OCD, certain medications that help many, and can help you. What do you think about making an appointment with a doctor, for evaluation and possible treatment?

anita

Dear Kshiti:

Yes, what if you re-read my posts so far, in your thread, and take notes, then come up with a clear, organized paper listing practical things that you can do to help yourself, things that do not involve going to the doctor, or spending money? Then show me that paper, on the screen, that is, will you?

anita

You are welcome, Kshitij!

anita

Dear Kshitij:

“1. Using the NPARR strategy whenever possible. I have observed that doing assignments/solving questions at that moment helps me to engage with something else.“- good plan, use it regularly.

“2. I should make a mental note of how my intrusive thoughts are affecting my quality of life in the PRESENT and giving me more anxiety and negativity. I can remember this thought whenever I feel I am ruminating“- this can be part of the Notice of the NPARR: Notice that you are ruminating and say to yourself: I am ruminating. Notice you are feeling anxious and say to yourself: I feel anxious.

Then Pause the rumination, and take a slow,  easy breath, then Adress the situation (if there is a situation that caused your anxiety to go up) and ask yourself: what is the problem in this situation?  Is there anything I need to say or do, so to solve this problem?

If there is no situational problem, then say, the problem is my anxiety going up, solution: bring it down.

Then Respond:  do what needs to be said or done so to solve the problem, if it is situational. If the elevated anxiety is not a result of a situation, take a few slow, easy breaths.

And then Redirect: to relax further, when possible, redirect to taking a short walk, a hot shower, listening to music, and/ or dancing, etc., otherwise, focus on an assignment/ solving questions (like you wrote in #1)

#3, 4, 5 read fine. Good job, Kshitij !!!

anita

Dear Kshiti1502

I am reading a book by Richard Moss called Inside-Out Healing which I have found to be outstandingly helpful with understanding the stories we tell ourselves & the feelings they evoke.

Best wishes

Roberta