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  • April 20, 2019 at 11:33 am #289973
    Mark
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    Katie

    Ultimately you want to be accepted. Hell, you want to be valued. Don’t we all?

    Your view of being valued is to be an Instagram model solely based on your looks.

    You can rail against how society judges women but at the end of the day, that’s reality. There is a Byron Katie quote, If you argue against reality, you will lose.

    You may want to reexam how you want to be valued for otherwise you will be stuck in your unhappiness and anger.

    Mark

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    April 23, 2019 at 8:34 am #290223
    Lali
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    Hi Katie,

    I am an average looking girl. We had few pretty girls in my gang who got more importance from boys. I had been go through my adult phases being judged by beauty. I was surrounded by such immature friends once in my lifetime. I lost my confidence because of that and I had spent much money to look better.

    One of my male friend made by eye open and said that ‘People always look for better looking girl even though have enough good looking girls surrounded by. This is nature of the people‘. So point is none of the good looking girl can satisfy thirst for beautiful looks. Season changes. Attractiveness traits also will change according to time. Many attractive actors came and disappear from 19th to 20th century. But No can be replaced by Mother Teresa, Indira Gandhi, Marie Curie, J.K Rowling etc. Their Action speaks more than their looks. They are eternal personalities. Our mother looks prettier than other women in world. This is because of unconditional / Selfless love in them. Hence I understood at some point that beauty is not in skin deep. It just an illusion. According to me, true Good looks for people are unconditional love, compassion, spreading Happiness and peace, being smart, and confidence .

    So I started to improve my personality skills instead of spending for beauty stuffs. But I take shower everyday… LOL… 🙂 I prefer to look clean instead of wearing much makeup. I practice yoga, meditation and attend personality development classes in my locality. Season changes. Slowly I started surrounded by right people who loves me what I am. So just chill and good Luck!!

     

    May 14, 2019 at 10:38 pm #293817
    Holly-Kristine
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    Hi, you should check out the website called Beauty Redefined. It is run by two ladies in their thirties who are twins. They have phd’s in b ody image psychology. Their motto is Mybody is an instrument not an ornament! They focus on how we are more than looks! We are people! Our bodies should’ve be judged on looking good but we should realize our bodies Are Good, the body keeps us alive, alerts us to pa in, allows us to walk and breathe and sing and dance! You are mkre than just a body.

    Also, that therapist sounds very odd. Is he licensed? When someone is talking about being judged and being stressed out about looks, he goes and comments on the merits of how pretty or ugky a princess is?! Unless he was playing devil’s advocate and trying to show you that people all have their own ideas of who is beautiful and who is not.

    Please, know that you are worthwhile! If your doctor thinks you are healthy, that is great! It is okay to wear pretty clothes but only do it because you like the dress or outfit. It is okay ti exercise for health and fun but dont obsess about it to look a certain way. And frankly, when you think of a favorite friend or relative isnt it that they are nice or kind or interesting? Its not because they are super models right?  Being kind makes us beautiful .Bht you are more than beautiful, you are you!

    Pleaee, if you have any eating disorder or exercise obsession get professional help. Please check out the site I mentioned. It is run by Lindsey and Lexi Kite. Hope to hear you are doing better! Blessings and Peace, Holly-Kristine

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